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THE POWER OF ONE MORE by Ed Mylett | Part 3 One More Try

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3 One More Try

It ain’t over ’til it’s over. —Yogi Berra

IF YOU EVER WANT TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING MEANINGFUL IN YOUR LIFE, the strategy you must master is One More Try. Here’s why.

One More Try doesn’t run in an isolated path in your life. It’s an overarching concept that links to many of the other strategies in this book.

One of the core beliefs I hold is the importance of compounding. Compounding takes place when you attempt One More Try, time and time again. When you’re successful in implementing a One More Try mentality, you’ll create and compound more wins for yourself.

Each of those wins creates an incremental advancement toward your goals. You stack them on top of each other to produce significant long‐term changes in your life.

Here’s a simple example that illustrates the point. When you were a child, the first time you tried to ride a bicycle, you didn’t do so well, did you? You probably started with training wheels, going slow, and with your mom or your dad by your side to steady you.

As you climbed on your bike day after day, you got better at learning how to balance, pedal, and go forward. Eventually, those training wheels came off, and slowly but surely you started to ride away on your own. Not long after that, you were whizzing up and down streets and sidewalks without a care in the world. And your life had changed forever.

Until you understand and embrace the fundamental, life‐changing power of One More Try, you won’t fully understand why it’s essential to try and make one more call, do one more set in the gym, meet one more person at a convention, or learn one more skill to put you head and shoulders above everyone else.

When you act and do the same things as everyone else, you’ll get the same results as everyone else. When you implement a One More Try mentality, that’s where you’ll find your greatest successes and your most significant personal growth.

Doing so also will give you more confidence than your competitors. It’s a secret weapon of sorts. Although they may not see it, you’ll know you’re willing to do more than them. You’re eager to make One More Try than they are. That’s a tremendous advantage in your favor.

This isn’t exactly a new idea. Confucius understood the battles that go on in a person’s mind when he wrote, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right.”

Confucius knew that an individual executes to the level of what he or she believes in themselves. Confidence fuels your belief that you’re worthy of making One More Try.

Many people like to think of themselves as overachievers. If you call yourself an overachiever, you’re declaring that your standard practice is to go above and beyond what’s necessary for achievement.

To be an overachiever, you must wholly embrace One More Try.

There is another critical component to this. Even though you may be willing to do the things that other people aren’t willing to do, you must be intentional and look for opportunities in everything you do. That mindset must become second nature to you. When you practice this strategy long enough, it becomes a reflex. You don’t think about it. You just do it.

On an even more fundamental level, you must believe that you can create a One More Try life for yourself. This is like confidence, but it’s more about creating a higher level of self‐esteem. Many people don’t buy into themselves enough, and the limitations they live with come from within.

Being your own worst enemy is something I’ve seen a lot.

I don’t buy into this limiting mentality and I don’t want you to either. It doesn’t have to be that way!

I learned a long time ago that we all have the wisdom inside us to create the future we want for ourselves. Most of us simply don’t tap into this rich vein, for whatever reason. We block that part of our identity and accept something less.

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Sometimes we accept a lesser life because we weren’t given a good role model to follow, or we’ve suffered through adversity that’s made us mentally fragile. We wither under criticism and refuse to dig deeper to find the mental toughness and grit that even we didn’t know we had.

Here’s something that should excite you. When you do break through, the places where One More Try takes place are a lot less crowded than when you run with the pack. Most people give up. They don’t do the work you’re willing to do. So, they won’t get the results you’ll get.

Rather, when you move to this new place where One More Try is the norm, the law of averages is now working in your favor. Simply stated, more tries equal more successes.

That’s a good place to start if you’re looking for the boost you need to start implementing One More Try.

Busting Open the Piñata

One More Try is so important that I want to give you a few examples to drive home the point that often in life, it feels like we’re making no apparent progress, even though we are.

My favorite of these is what I call “busting open the piñata.” Life is like taking swings at a pin˜ata. It’s also an excellent metaphor for how to understand the impact of One More Try. There’s no external evidence that we’re making progress and that’s why people often quit before getting to the part of their lives where the candy comes out.

The perfect example of this is from a few years ago when I went to a birthday party for a 5‐year‐old. At the party, there was a pin˜ata, and one by one, the kids put on a blindfold. They stepped up, were given a bat, spun around, and then told to swing at the pin˜ata.

The first couple of kids grazed the pin˜ata. They were disoriented and didn’t know which direction to swing. Even with some well‐intentioned help from their fellow partygoers, they did no apparent damage to the pin˜ata. Or so it seemed!

Those kids got a little frustrated when nothing came out. What they didn’t realize is that inside, the pin˜ata was slowly breaking down.

The kids who went up later figured out the game a bit more. They stepped up, bat in hand, and took their swings. Many of them made solid contact and did some damage, whether they knew it or not.

The compounding effect of pounding on that piñata, even if it seemed like the piñata was holding firm, was making a difference. Every time a blow landed, those kids made invisible progress, growing ever closer to the ultimate goal of busting it wide open. All the kids shrieked with anticipation after each thump. After a few more whacks, they sensed the paper‐mache beast was weakening. Still, the piñata would not break.

When all of the children had taken their swings, mom blindfolded the birthday boy and he stepped up for his turn.

That little man reared back, and with the mightiest “One More Try” you’re ever going to see, he busted that piñata wide open.

You know what came next. More than a dozen children scurried to gobble up all the treats and goodies that had fallen from the piñata.

Was it that one shot that busted the pinata wide open? Absolutely not. It was the compounded accumulation of all those hits that contributed to achieving the goal of getting the candy.

Too many people quit their business, their workouts, or their relationships before the candy comes out! Although they’re making progress, it doesn’t always show up externally.

My advice to you is to keep hitting the pin˜atas of your life. Whether you can see it or not, you’re making more progress than you might think.

Is this starting to sound like your life yet? It should. We all swing at a lot of pin˜atas and early on, we don’t generally bust those pin˜atas open.

You are a lot closer to realizing your goals and dreams that you may think, and this is a perfect metaphor of that concept.

Just like the children, you’re making invisible progress in your life. Unfortunately, most people don’t stick around long to realize the outcomes from that progress.

However, when you know that you’re moving forward, even when you can’t directly see you’re moving forward, you’ll stay more focused on your processes and tasks to accomplish your goals.

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Invisible progress is more than having faith. It’s knowledge you’ve acquired because your efforts produced results on other things you’ve attempted in the past.

When we do bust open a piñata, we get an undeniable rush.

You’ve experienced it many times. You know exactly what that rush is. In fact, the harder it is to bust open that piñata, the more intense the rush is. As we keep swinging, anticipation builds. Adrenaline kicks in. Confidence grows. You may even get a little angry as you dig deeper and refuse to yield.

In your piñatas, the “candy” that tumbles out can be your bliss. It’s your financial freedom. It’s falling in love with the special someone in your life. It’s landing the dream job you’ve always wanted.

All because you didn’t give up. You gave it One More Try. And over time, those efforts compounded until you got precisely what you wanted.

You must tune out the naysayers and all the negative distractions to focus on busting your piñata wide open. You’ll feel disoriented at times, doubt may creep into your mind, and you may think that your goal is not worth it. Until you learn how to win those battles, you’ll never enjoy what your piñata holds for you.

If you stay with it long enough, you will enjoy the fruits of your labors. And everyone else in your circle who sticks around and supports you will enjoy those things as well.

Take your swings. As many as you need. Get that candy. There are a lot of piñatas waiting for you to bust open and enjoy.

A Father, a Daughter, and the Power of One More Try

I want to tell you what happened on April 26, 1998, and why that date means everything to me.

I was relatively new to the business world, and I was scheduled to give a presentation that night to 40 people on my team. The RSVPs didn’t materialize the way I had wanted, and by the time the presentation rolled around, only eight people showed up.

I was crushed.

I started to doubt whether this was a career for me. I began to think maybe there was something better out there, something else that I was meant to do with my life. I was frustrated and discouraged and didn’t know if I should keep doing this or not.

I sat down and had a talk with myself. It’s as honest as I’ve ever been. Had I done everything I could for as long as I could? Had I done the right things at the right time? I really needed to decide if I had put forth my best effort to make a go of it.

Because I was candid with myself, the answer was “no.” That’s a hard thing for a proud man to admit to himself. Hard but necessary.

Even more important, I had to acknowledge my shortcomings. Until that point, I had followed a pattern of quitting when things got hard or embarrassing. I found it easy to pull the plug. Too easy.

Instead of walking away, I dug my heels in and decided I was going to give this one more try. I was going to empty my tank and do everything that I could to make sure that I had given my very best to my chosen profession. Retreating and giving up were no longer options for me. I set my old limiting identity aside and launched a new version of myself. That “come to Jesus” talk with myself, that refusal to give in, and my decision to go the distance by tapping into One More Try changed my life forever.

From that night forward, my efforts and my mindset turned into a business life that has paid me hundreds of millions of dollars.

There’s one more example I want to share with you.

Fair warning: there’s a proud parent moment ahead. Those of you who are moms and dads will completely understand where I’m coming from.

As I write this, my daughter Bella is 17. Wow, where did that time go? Much to her credit, she recently decided it was time to go out and get a job. Bella applied at a local pizzeria in town and had a great interview. They were ready to offer her the job until one final question tripped her up. They asked if she was 18 yet. Since the pizzeria served beer, it was a minimum age requirement, and she didn’t meet it.

Bella called me right after she left that interview. She was dejected when she shared the news. I was bummed. As a parent, when your child hurts, you do too.

But that’s not the end of the story.

A half‐hour later, Bella called again. The first words out of her mouth were …

“Dad, I got a job!”

Talk about somebody else getting candy from the piñata your daughter busted open. I can’t even begin to tell you how elated I was. And, I was curious.

After a disappointing setback, most teenagers will tuck their tails between their legs and head home. But as she was leaving the pizzeria, Bella noticed a small café next door. Instead of passing by like 999 out of 1,000 job‐ hunting teenagers might do, she went inside and started talking to the hostess.

One thing led to another, and it turned out the café was looking to hire someone. And, that person didn’t need to be 18! Bella met with the manager and was hired on the spot.

That’s how my beautiful daughter, using One More Try, took a potential defeat and turned it into a victory instead.

I’m hard‐pressed to come up with a more perfect example of how pushing yourself and using One More Try can work in your favor. It would have been so easy to give up, but because Bella made an effort to talk to one more business, she got a job, and it changed her life.

Perhaps the coolest part is that she did it all on her own. Like father, like daughter. It’s one of the best proud parent moments I’ve had in my life.

Three Ways That One More Try Can Turn You into an Overachiever

Your path to becoming an overachiever is linked directly to One More Try. The more you try, the more you achieve.

Here are three overachiever principles to consider.

Extremity Expands Capacity

Your most significant gains don’t come from places you’re already at or where you’ve already been. Your greatest gains and successes happen when you push yourself to new places and new limits. You create an extreme condition compared to what you’re used to, and when you do that, you expand your capacity for success. Your new level of capacity becomes your new norm.

As you become more comfortable pushing yourself to extremes, you become more confident because you know what waits for you on the other side.

If you’re worried about pushing yourself to the point of exhaustion, don’t be. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t get your rest, but I’ve found that most people are tired from too little activity, instead of too much activity.

High degrees of activity produce energy, and you feed off this energy. Much like batteries, if you don’t use your energy, you tend to lose it over time.

But when you use your energy, that produces even more energy. When you produce more energy, you can go to a more extreme place. Once you’ve been to that place, you’re able to see it, feel it, touch it, and understand what that new level of capacity is to you.

Those of you who know me now know why I’ve adopted the motto MAXOUT. For 30 years, I’ve understood that maxing out your life creates a new extreme level. That new extreme level creates a new capacity and the place where you will grow and achieve the most results. In other words, when you MAXOUT, you will also MAXUP.

Winning Is a Numbers Game

If you want to be an overachiever, you must create better numbers for whatever is important to you.

Much of your success will come down to your commitment to executing basic tasks again and again. You must learn to do simple things well. You must be obsessed with perfecting processes repetitively until you create big enough numbers to give you the wins you’re looking for.

Overachievers don’t think in terms of quality or quantity. They think in terms of quality and quantity.

Tiger Woods doesn’t just go through the motions when he practices hitting golf balls from two to four hours a day. He is obsessed with repetitively hitting each ball the right way with the same backswing, same stroke, and same follow‐through each time.

If you watched The Last Dance, a documentary about Michael Jordan and the Chicago Bulls, you saw how hard Jordan pushed himself. You either got on board with Michael’s level of practice and play, or you didn’t last very long. Jordan didn’t land in the record books by accident. He understood that you must put in the work and rack up the numbers when you practice, so that you can rack up victories of all kinds when you play.

The highest achievers always condition themselves to incorporate One More Try into their daily routines. As I mentioned, there’s less competition when you rise to that level, and your victories will be bigger and better in all cases.

Perhaps you’ve coasted from time to time in your business. Maybe you haven’t applied One More Try to its fullest advantage. Everybody goes through peaks and valleys, but you shouldn’t wallow in those valleys for very long. You’ll know when you’re not putting forth your maximum effort.

You’ll know when you’re not doing everything you can to make you and your business as successful as possible.

You can hide from yourself sometimes, but you can’t hide from the numbers.

The numbers are a black‐and‐white reflection directly related to your effort. It’s easy to compare month‐to‐month or year‐to‐year sales volume, phone calls, and other metrics. You should have no trouble keeping track of how often you go to the gym, how many sets and repetitions of weights you lift, or how many miles a week you go for a run. You can’t dominate when you don’t crank out better numbers than your competitors or when measured against your past performance levels.

Nothing Creates Everything

In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters. And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. —Genesis 1:1–3

Some theologians interpret Genesis as God creating the whole universe out of nothing. He just spoke existence into being out of total nothingness. I happen to be one of those people who also believes this, and I go into greater detail about my faith as part of One More Prayer in Chapter 18. This belief is known as creatio ex nihilo and is the answer to how the universe came to exist. Creatio ex nihilo teaches matter is not eternal but had to be created by some divine creative act, frequently attributed to God. Here’s how that applies to your life.

When you push yourself and empty everything you have inside of you to the point of having nothing left, that’s when everything will be created.

When you empty yourself, you create room for new experiences, goals, and efforts. Bruce Lee echoed that sentiment when he said, “Empty your cup, so that it may be filled.”

I’m not talking about driving yourself to physical exhaustion. You should never put yourself in that state. What I am talking about is always doing One More. When you do, you’re emptying yourself out. When you have nothing more to give, you have reached a state of ex nihilo. And you’re ready to fill yourself up in a higher capacity.

Making the Power of One More Try Work for You

Life won’t hand you opportunities. You need to be the type of person who goes out and creates opportunities for yourself. Don’t wait! Be aggressive and understand that One More Try does not have to be perfect. It simply needs to be attempted. When you hide from One More Try, all you’re doing is disguising your insecurities.

Even when you don’t get exactly what you want, when you attempt One More Try, the next time you try again, you’re not starting from scratch. You’re going to be starting from a new level of experience that you can leverage to increase the odds of a better outcome.

As you implement One More Try, you’ll also create new levels of capacity. These levels are where you’ll find your most satisfaction. The more often you attempt One More Try, the more often you’ll win because winning is frequently a numbers game, if you execute well and give your maximum effort. Also, keep in mind that you’ll create new possibilities to fill up your life when you make every possible attempt and empty your tank.

The key to One More Try is to be intentional. You must have the strength and the focus to take steps that will drive you closer to where you want to be in life.

This is not always an easy thing to do. It requires a quiet determination to stay the course. Or, as Mary Anne Radmacher once said, “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’ ”

When was the last time you spent 60 minutes working with an elite coach on your life blueprint to map out your 1 to 3 years on your journey to success? Right now, I am opening up my calendar to spend 60 minutes with the individua’s who follow bestbookbits to map out your next stage and season in life through my signature 60-minute life blueprint session. You will also get a free copy of my book success in 50 steps. Click the link below to jump first on a free 15-minute pre coaching chat. Click here to make a booking.. If not, you can always download 500 summaries here

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9 Week Health Challenge | Interview With Dr PT Pete

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[00:00:00] Best Book Bits Podcast brings you a special guest today my personal trainer, Dr. P T . Pete, thanks for being on the show. Thanks Mike. Appreciate it mate. Thanks for having me on the show today. First I’m doing something like this, so it’s. Yeah. Really exciting. Yeah. Awesome. Yeah.

First time. First time guessing a podcast for my audience, I just wanna share some people that have played a massive role in my life offline. Cuz I run an online business. So offline. Dr. PT Pete is my personal trainer at the moment. We are running a nine week challenge, so we’re just gonna get into some of the stories.

Pete, tell us a little bit about your origin story. Whereabouts are you from and how did you get involved in health . So yeah, a little bit about me. I was born in the Philippines. So yeah, I was born in the Philippines just north of Manila. grew up in Australia though here in Victoria. And yeah, so growing up just fell into sports as a kid.

Always wanted to try to fit in, was also the odd one out here in regional Victoria. And and yeah playing football as a kid really helped me. Find that passion for health and fitness, I feel like yeah, that’s where it all began when I was around 12 years old and then hitting the gym then really helped me yeah, find that [00:01:00] passion, but yeah, as soon as I finished high school, saved up to do my PT course, so I always knew I wanted to be a personal trainer since I was a little kid. And then, yeah, while whilst I was at uni as well, just worked as a personal trainer over the last six. , which sort of brings us to this point now.

Awesome. So recently you just became a doctor. Can you tell people why I call you Dr. Pt Pete, what is the doctor title? Yeah. I just finished my studies now. Actually, just finished six years of university. I’d done a year of biomedical science at Victoria University. From there, I’d done five years.

At R M I T which is Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology here in Melbourne. And yeah, so just done, just finished my double degree and now a fully qualified osteopath, which is awesome. . Congratulations. So how did you start in the industry? So when you finished school, yes.

You were studying, but how did, what did you do? Like first jobs where did you work? Was it gyms or what? . Yeah. So as soon as I finished obviously high school completed my PT course. That took about maybe a year, just over a year to complete. So I’ve done that through my, [00:02:00] whilst I was doing my first year of university.

And then over the five years of studying osteo, I was working as a personal trainer at multiple gyms. My first one was at a place called F 45 functional 45. So that was more of like a group fitness sort of style gym. I did that for about two to three years to begin with, and then I transitioned to another gym called Body Fit Training, where I’m still located now at the same time as I’m running one body pt.

Yeah, one Body PT just grew through my passion for personal training. I really wanted to do something where I can really personalize and help people on a more personal level instead of like a group fitness setting. , yeah. Really just started up one body pt and now I’ve been helping hundreds of clients, around the world.

With the fitness journeys and it’s been really good, really successful. And I’ve learned a lot along the way as well, by while still my own thing. So it’s my first sort of time, venturing outta my own, doing my own thing. So yeah, it’s been really good over the last three, three years. Cool.

Thanks for cheering. I know we’ve spoke offline a little bit about this, but what’s the matter with the F 45 model and why do you think some of those things [00:03:00] don’t work? Can you expand on a little bit about the F 45 model? Yeah. When I first started off at F 45, I. It was good. It was good to, to initially just to start learning.

Different exercises and I was able to be exposed to lots of different people and how they move and I was able to assess it and just really apply what I was learning from uni, initially to my work. But I just find that, yeah, there was just a lot of, not a lot of sort of science behind the training in my personal opinion.

And there was just a lot of a lot of plyometric work and just, it wasn’t really my type of yeah, my type of training that I enjoyed. So I slowly. Grew out of it, and I wanted to venture out into something different. But yeah, I just found that, yeah, just the training itself wasn’t what I wanted to coach at that time.

So that’s why transitioned out of that one. It’s nothing wrong with Air 45, but it’s just, it doesn’t fit the style of what you’ve been learning at university. Was that correct in in terms of some of the applications of the methodologies is, would that be correct? Yeah. Correct.

Yeah. It just wasn’t what I was learning at uni and, all the progressive overload type of [00:04:00] thing. Like all the progressive overload and how to train properly and get people moving. It just wasn’t. It was just clashing with, yeah, with my sort of ethical beliefs I guess, and my morals I guess.

And just, yeah, that’s why I decided to join Body Fit Training, which is another sort of franchise, which is a group fitness franchise as well, where it’s a little bit different in a sense with the training, a lot more strength and conditioning, which is what I love to do. . Which is why Yeah, which is why I transitioned over.

So let’s jump into osteo. So a lot of people don’t know what an osteo is, so can you explain in a short summary of what a doctor of osteo is and how Yeah. So in Australia an osteopath is yeah, what we help with neuromuscular. Neuromusculoskeletal condition. So anyone that’s in pain or say you come in with a while back, back condition that you’ve had for a few months, for a few years, we’ll assess it, diagnose and treat that.

Yeah, we really help people get moving. We have a really holistic approach to things if you’ve got a shoulder problem, for example, we’ll assess sort of the neck, obsess, how everything’s moving, how the thoracic are moving as well. It’s not just localized [00:05:00] at that one spot.

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We really wanna make sure that the body’s moving as a unit and as a function. Yeah. Here, Australia, that’s what we do. I know in America, in other countries, and Osteopath is a different title they’re known as like actual physicians. So whereas here in Australia it’s yeah, it’s more of yeah, directed at neuromuscular skeletal conditions.

how has that knowledge transpired with your one-on-one clients as well? I know from personal experience, you actually started coaching my wife first before me. And you are currently now doing an osteo session a week with my wife and a personal training session a week with my wife. So how does those two knowledges combined into the, the functional movement as you call it?

It goes hand in hand like with osteopathy it’s all about movement and getting the patient moving. And I feel like with personal training, it’s really it’s all about like exercise. Like all the science shows that exercise is the one thing that’s really gonna help someone get stronger and better and feeling.

Feeling better more long term. So it really ties hand in hand. There’s, without yeah, without your exercise. Like manual therapy with osteopathy will only have its effects, on a short term [00:06:00] basis. So it’s really important to understand that. We need to be integrating some movement, some exercise in there as well.

So I’m really lucky that I’m able to mix the both of those together. And I’m really, yeah. Really lucky for, I’m really blessed, sorry to have to study what I have in the past to yeah. To integrate into my personal training. Yeah. Awesome. And one of the things you’ve taught me as well, like I’m currently got a groin injury.

And normally people would say, rest up, don’t move, don’t walk. But you actually come from a different angle on this. Can you talk about how you encourage people to actually. Move with their injury instead of resting in recovery and what the difference is between that as well. Yeah, man. Yeah. From a clinical setting, I think back in the days a lot of healthcare practitioners may have been taught that, if you got an injury like you’re groin, for example, that you need to rest it.

Let the body heal itself and, just not, try not to move it too much. However, going through the last five years of university, they’ve just really drilled into us that it’s actually the opposite now. Like it’s all. Getting the person moving as quick as we can. [00:07:00] But obviously managing their pain and managing injuries to make sure you can still live, the lifestyle you normally live, right?

So you don’t want to just be bedridden all day, you’re not moving. Cause that will then just create like a psychosocial factor with your pain as well. And we don’t want that , I guess it’s, yeah, it’s really important to keep moving if you do have injuries, obviously, if it’s pretty severe and it’s causing you a lot of pain, go see someone about it.

But just making sure and understanding that it’s not about, yeah just resting all the time. It’s really important to get moving. And to re rehab it as quick as you can, but also managing it as well. Definitely important as well. Let’s change tracks a little bit at the moment and talk about some of the online misconceptions that people have with the fitness industry.

The fitness industry, it’s a multi-billion dollar industry. You’ve got social media now, you’ve got guys and girls claiming to be personal trainers doing challenges, putting up a whole bunch of stuff. Can you talk about the misleading information on social media that we see a lot and just talk about some of the trends that, yeah we chat about this the other day, but.

As with social media, anyone can really post anything. You don’t know if they’re an actual [00:08:00] personal trainer or what their backgrounds are. But essentially there’s just so much information on social media nowadays that are just that are just very misleading. I find that a lot of people may, yeah may fall for those tricks, I and people turn, I guess like influence. Really make things they make things turn out to be more complex than it actually is. For example, they might say, oh, do these six ab workouts to get a six pack. Where for myself, I know that to get a six pack, like it’s just all that, you gotta lose your body fat percentage and really drop down that body fat mass.

And to do that, most of that will just come down to your nutrition. You can do a million sit ups in a day and you probably still won’t. Have a six pack at the end of the day, like you can’t really target where you lose your fat in your body, which is something that a lot of people think.

They think if, I just do upper body workouts, I’m gonna lose fat in my upper body. But it doesn’t really work like that. We can’t tell our brain what to of drop fat and stuff. So yeah, there’s the idea, there’s, that’s one, one sort of. One main one that I find a lot is just, yeah, just misleading information that people put out there on social [00:09:00] media.

Yeah. The other one I see a lot of is uh, must do exercises as well. What do you know about, oh, you, you must do this exercise to achieve that. Can you talk a little bit about that? Yeah. I see this all the time. People say, yeah, you gotta do these three exercises or these four exercises to get these results, but it’s not as simple as going from A to B.

Like it’s all about be comfortable with what you’re doing. There’s three things that I. Tell my, all my clients when we train one of them is, what are the moving patterns that are, or what are the moving patterns that are we trying to achieve here? What muscle groups are we trying to train as well in target?

And are you comfortable and able to go through your full range motion whilst, doing these certain exercises. So it all comes down to, personal preferences. Obviously exercise selections is really important, but when you’re just starting out, it’s just all about getting moving.

There’s no really muscle exercises unless you’re in a sport, for example like power lifting where you gotta, you gotta squat around your kilos or deadlift around your kilos. Then if that’s your sport and you’re trying to train towards that’s a little bit different. Just for the general pump and if you’re just trying to just get fit and just get moving, there’s no sort of [00:10:00] muscle exercises, it’s Yeah.

All about what you’re trying to target. Are you able to target that muscle efficiently without fatiguing and taking it through a full range motion rom, what is that? I hear that term quite a lot as well. So minimal fat, fatigue and full rom. What is, what does full rom mean? Yeah, man. So I dunno, it’s more so like your range of motion.

How you’re able to take a joint or a muscle of your body through its range of motions. So for example, if I’m doing like a shoulder press here, am I able to go all the way up above my head? Or am I, is there something that’s stopping me from doing that? Is it like, I, aren’t you able to get the most out of that exercise?

There’s probably other exercises that you can do that you’re probably able to get more out of. Like a boat a bit. Analogy is probably like a squat, for example, instead of doing like a baba squat, where there’s so many variability, so many factors that could go wrong. You could just do a leg press and get the same outcome because you’re doing the same movement pattern, you’re just pressing, right?

It’s just a low body push, so you’re just pressing with your legs, which is what you’re doing with a squat. Whereas a lot of people think you’ve got a squat to get stronger in my low body. But around a squat is, for example, like a power lifter. That’s what they do for [00:11:00] their sport. So there’s a lot of better ways.

get the same result is what I’m trying to get out there. Yeah. Got it. Yeah, thanks for sharing. Let’s switch gears to the healthy habit side of things as well. So as we’re running the health challenge at the moment. One part of it is getting the body moving and then the second part of it is what do you actually put in that small little mouth of yours too?

That, that’s the biggest results as well. And we had a little short conversation offline before as well, and we We don’t recommend people to do two hours of exercise at the gym. We would actually recommend to do one hour of movement a day and spend an hour in either the kitchen, grocery shopping, cooking a meal or even 30 minutes, 30 minutes movement, 30 minutes of cooking, a meal, prepping, whatever it is.

Can you talk about the importance of just getting that healthy lifestyle of movement and food and nutrition and making sure they’re balanced up? Can you expand on that a little? . Over the years of being a coach, the one thing I’ve seen people do over and over again is they try to out train a bad diet.

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So what they think [00:12:00] is they do, they go hard at the gym. They’ll train for an hour, they might do two sessions a day, and eventually they’re just over trained, right? So they’re putting their energy and channeling their energy. in the wrong part and the wrong aspect of, of their health and fitness.

So it’s really important to have a good balance. With your training it’s good to train, if you’re efficient, if you go to the gym, you get what you need done you follow your program, you’re in and you’re out. That’s your session done. But a lot of people just neglect their preparation and how important nutrition is with their journey.

I feel like if, especially if your goal is to lose body fat mass and just to shred down, lose a few kilo. , then it’s important to. really putting your nutrition at the forefront. So instead of spending two hours at the gym, I always tell my clients, spend 45 minutes spending fif 50 minutes, spend an hour.

But you don’t want to be doing double sessions or going too hard. You’d rather spend that energy in the kitchen preparing your meals. Cause that’s really what’s gonna help you, lose that fat if you are in that calorie. Yeah, I like how you said you can’t train out, train a bad diet, and I’ve heard that one before, but I’ve been guilty of that for the last sort of 15 [00:13:00] years.

I got no problem with training, no problem with waking up early. No problem with lifting the weights, doing the programs, but the easiest thing I could have done was spent more time. In the kitchen instead of more time in the gym, cuz they say a six pack is created in the kitchen not in the gym, per se.

A part of the challenge that we’ll go through as well. So we are doing a nine week Kickstarter challenge. It’s kicking off next. Week. So we’re anticipating this to kick off January 7th, and we’re doing another opening date, which is Feb first. So just a small little plug. Now halfway through the podcast, if you want to kickstart and get a jump on your health as well, you’ll be working with Dr.

Pt, Pete, and myself over nine weeks. It’s a nine week program where the first three weeks, we’ll slowly do it for you. We’ll do your program individually as well and then we’ll watch you do it, and then we’ll teach you how to do it. So at the end of the nine weeks, , you’ve got those healthy habits, they can set you up for the rest of 2023 where you can do it by yourself as well.

So it’s that time of the year, which is called New Year’s [00:14:00] resolutions and everyone’s on that health kick now. I was at the gym earlier today it’s January 2nd where we are in Australia right now. And the gym was absolutely packed. But I can tell you a lot of those people will start dropping off in the first couple weeks cuz they don’t have that accountability and that motivation as well.

Do yourself a favor, click the link below. Let’s jump on a call with me and Pete and jump on the. Program as well. But just a segue from that, Pete as well, people doing these challenges, what are the, some of the struggles that people have when they start a challenge and they don’t finish it or they don’t put those habits into place?

Can you deep dive a little bit into how habit formation is very important and accountability as well? . Yeah. It’s all about accountability. I feel like people always start off strong throughout these challenges. I’ve been doing these challenges for, yeah, the past, past six years now. But, we get really good results.

You can get really good results when you really put, you dedicate this, this time, for example, these nine weeks to, to get you to where you want to get to. And a lot of people just, I guess they drop off. They think, they just come up with excuses, really. Like they just feel. , I’ve got this coming up or they have, they might have one bad day and then they’re just like, oh, I’ll have the [00:15:00] rest of the week off and I’ll start next week.

Where it’s really important to of have that accountability. And that’s where I come in as a coach where yourself comes in as a coach and we can really help people get those results and just guide them in the right direction or when people have questions as well, I feel.

if you don’t have anyone to fall back on, if they might be stuck on something, might be exercises or might be, any questions at all regarding nutrition or anything like that. Or any tips and stuff like that. And people don’t have the answers, they just eventually fall off.

But I guess it’s important to make this a lifestyle change or with training, it’s all about, I’m all about making it more of a long term sustainable sort of change. Instead of nine week fix. So it’s really about just creating those habits during the challenge to set you up for the rest of your life really.

That’s really what I’m trying to get out there. Absolutely. And I just want to plug one thing as well. I’ve been injured the last couple weeks to a couple months on and off with little nickels injuries. Just because I couldn’t train it doesn’t mean I couldn’t have my nutrition on point.

So my nutrition still could have been a plus even though my training might have been D. So one of the [00:16:00] things I was going through was, oh, just cuz I’m not trained them injured, I can push it forward and eat shit for four weeks until I get better and then I’ll get my training and my nutrition.

Back on par, meaning they both have to be a plus for me to get results where it’s not true. You could be injured, you could be, couchbound, bedridden, but if your nutrition is on point, you could actually get great results by not training or just minimal movement too. That’s not ideal, but what I’m saying is don’t let the excuse that you are injured or you can’t work out.

Be the excuse I’ve seen results. I’ve coached people over the years with health and fitness goals and I’ve seen some amazing results with very minimal effort in terms of the activity, but very good understanding of the principles applied with nutrition as well. Can you talk about how important that is as well, Peter?

I know we’re banging on about nutrition, but is there any tips or tricks you can give people to say about how they can start getting their nutrition into shape instead of their body into shape? So give us some tips on. How people can [00:17:00] get their fridge and pantry into shape and what you would suggest with clients offline.

The first thing that that I usually do with every client that you know, that initially contacts me is we run through all their goals and we also run through their maintenance carriers. So a lot of people when I talk. To this about with them they don’t really understand what calories or maintenance calories are.

So for those that don’t know, ba basically say if your body burns, let’s say 2000 calories in a day or say your maintenance calories is 2000 calories. If you eat below that, say you eat 1,800 calories, you’re gonna be in a calorie deficit. So over time, You’re gonna be losing weight. Like it’s, there’s a hundred percent like you’re gonna be losing weight regardless if you’re eating under your maintenance calories.

But most of the time people are eating over the maintenance calories and they don’t actually know how to calculate it. Like it’s pretty simple. There’s calculators online that you can of use the simple ways where you can find out what your maintenance calories are and then understanding what you may need.

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Calories are, how much calories you can eat on a daily basis, and then just preparing your meals in. A accordance [00:18:00] to those calories so they fit within your calories and your intake, your daily intake. Whereas a lot of people they don’t track what they eat or they don’t understand it. Even in orange juice, for example, has calories in it a Tim TA has 99 calories in it. They might have five Tim TAs that’s 500 calories. People that just don’t understand the. Preparing yourself and preparing your meals. And then just you really collaborating and putting together the exercise and nutrition together is probably the hardest thing to do.

But once you’ve got, once you’ve got it down pat you will see the results. Pretty much straight away. And some of the things is like low calorie, high density food as well. So a lot of people don’t understand. And one of the analogies that you said there as well is good. Is there any foods you would recommend people to eat more of instead of eating less of?

Is there Yeah. Less saturated fats, eat more wholesome organic foods. Like I’ve meat me, my, my partner used to be vegan for seven. And we just, I’ve never been a vegan or vegetarian before, but we started, eating heaps more veggies and salads and stuff like that. Most, more pretty, pretty recently, we’ve done two weeks [00:19:00] of being a vegetarian and I felt the best I have in a while.

And I think that was just because even myself, I was eating way too much meat or proteins and I didn’t have that balance. So having a good balance with your protein. Your fats and your carbs is really important. And I guess a lot of people don’t really understand, what is. . But that’s where, we can break that down with people, even alcohol.

So my journey with alcohol, I’ve actually been off alcohol for 12 months, so it’s been one year this week that I haven’t had alcohol. And it’s been game changing. So my whole relationship with, I would overtrain during, in the week I would get my nutrition but I might have.

A bottle of red wine, a couple of beers, some whiskey, and the alcohol could change the whole energy imbalance. Can you talk about how important it is to watch not just food, but your liquids as well, and how that can push your energy imbalance out where you might have every week you’re doing you’re under the calories, so you’ve got 2000 calories as your maintenance calories.

You are. 1600, 1700 calories and you have one night on the drinks and that can push your whole week energy [00:20:00] imbalance out. Can you talk about how you talk with clients about watching your liquids and what you would substitute instead of alcohol or sugary drinks? What would you recommend, Pete? That’s a good point actually.

A lot of people think, from Monday to Friday, They’re they’re pretty strict and it comes the weekend. I hear this all the time, like I’m good throughout the week, but then on the weekends I splurge out. And this is a very common sort of problem that occurs in the fitness industry.

But to tackle this, I always educate my clients on looking at your calorie overview over seven day periods. So don’t look at it daily, right? So if you’ve got an event on. on the weekend. For example, like a wedding coming up you know when something’s gonna come up, right? The week before.

What you have to do is just make sure you look at it over a seven day period. So for example, let’s say 2000 calories. So we know that’s. . So over a week, that is 14,000 calories. Okay, so obviously, yep, 14. I just have to make sure that was the right calculations there. So let’s say that’s 14,000 calories over a week.

So what we can do is we can bank those calories throughout the week. Instead of eating [00:21:00] 2000, eat a little bit less throughout the week. Really bake those calories to that. When it comes to the weekend, you can have. A few drinks. But you just gotta understand, you can’t just blow out.

Otherwise, what you’ve done throughout the week is just poke pointless. Yeah. So you are really just burning the candles at both ends and you can’t really, you’re not really gonna get the results you want out of it. . Yeah. It’s really important to, yeah, it’s really important to yeah.

Not blow out on the weekend and just understand. You’ve gotta have that balance in between. And with all, just a personal question. With all the clients you’ve trained over the years and doing body transformations, after body transformations, what are some of the successful habits that you see great clients, so people that actually achieve the results and keep the results.

What are some of the trait. You see them do? Or what is some of the perfect clients that you’ve had? And people can replicate those traits. And then the other question is, what would be some of. Negative traits that you see people that they fall off the wagon. So first, talk about some of the successes, successful traits that you see clients and some of the things that they incorporate into their daily rituals to achieve their body composition [00:22:00] goals.

Yeah I feel like the ones that really get good results is the clients that are really consistent. So you don’t have to. All the answers. You’ve just gotta be consistent with your training. And just really yeah, be consistent. Turn it into a habit. So you don’t wanna just have that mentality of, I’m gonna go really hard for the next, six weeks, eight weeks, 10 weeks, whatever it may be.

But just understanding that if this is gonna be a long-term change, you gotta just. Make sure it’s more consistent. You don’t go too hard, too quick. Don’t, it’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. So the people that understand that and understand and really invest their time into learning more, educating themselves and asking questions, reaching out for help is those that will have success for more long term.

Instead, Just going hard and which is good right? To put the energy in, but just for those that actually want to educate themselves and understand more, I find like those clients are the ones that get really long, good, long-term re success results. Yeah, and I guess I could answer the ones that have, don’t get the results and they don’t educate themselves.

They’re not consistent. They’re not training and they don’t turn it [00:23:00] into a habit. So I think these rules are very simple and they apply for a lot of things as well. But getting back to the underlying issues, do you ever talk about, what got someone out of shape and how their lifestyle. Got ’em to a point where they might be, 15, 20 pounds, kilos, overweight outta shape, don’t move.

What are some of the psychological things or what are some of the reasons that people get outta shape? The, any things that comes up for you, Pete? Like why do we live in society where, 60% of people are overweight or obese and we’re given this society where we’re not healthy and we’re not?

Can you talk about some of the reasons why? Yeah. I feel like there’s a lot of people that I guess there’s a lot of things here in Australia, especially where people are working from home nowadays, a lot more people may sustain some long-term injuries or a significant injury that may initially stop them from training.

And then I guess those bad habits just roll on for a longer period of time than that, than the what it should. I train a lot of mums as well, where they’ve recently just had kids. They’ve put her in a few kilos. , then you’ve [00:24:00] got people that are just too scared to start, or it might not even be in their culture to trade.

Like I’ve got a lot of people here in, in the community that I live now where they’ve never trained before. And they reach out to me and they always say, Pete, I’ve never done anything before. And then you just teach ’em, but it’s there’s a lot of things that make that might contribute to people getting into bad shape.

But I feel like. It’s never, there’s never a right time to start your journey. I think you just gotta pull the pin into it. Like a lot of people might make make, there’s a lot of people that make excuses saying I’ve, I had an injury five years ago and my back’s never been the same.

But, they haven’t really done anything to or. done anything to help that or get it stronger? And from my experience, your experience when my wife was training with you and she’s coming home results and feeling great, and I’m like, you know what? I just need to pay someone to get the results.

So the 50% of the result comes from when you make the decision that you are going to pay someone to help you with accountability and coaching to get that result. It’s 50% the 50. The other 50% comes from actually being [00:25:00] consistent, staying with the program, listening to the advice, applying the advice, doing the hard things first, because the easy things come second to get.

To the body composition you want, it’s going to take work. But to keep that body composition, it’s going to take more work. Sorry, it’s gonna take work, but not as hard work because you’re gonna have the habits, routines, disciplines and education to keep it off as well. But basically, from where you are now, if you are not getting results, it’s because you haven’t made the decision, which is number one, and haven’t paid to play.

So that’s number two. And. Following the advice through there, so just a bit of a tangent through there. But yeah, if anyone’s listening at the moment that wants to start, doesn’t know where to start, this is your time. If you are listening to this, understand this could be a small wake up call. We’re not looking at working with people for 52 weeks.

We don’t have that bandwidth. We’re running a nine week program starting mid Jann and [00:26:00] one starting Feb first, cuz some people are still on holidays as well. So it’d be two groups. It’s one-on-one coaching or one on two. You get me and Pete. And we get you. It’s not a group coaching, it’s an individualized program as well.

Whether you’re a seasoned weightlifter or you’ve never lifted weights before, this is not about weight lifting. It’s about fitting in with your lifestyle. You have, I have someone who’s a runner. They’re going to run. I have someone who walks. They’re going to walk. I have someone who’s going to go to the gym.

They will go to the gym. So whatever lifestyle you have, it will fit around you as well. So the biggest thing of what me and Pete are coming from at the moment is to help you kick start. 2023 so you can have the healthiest year ever. Cuz we’re all about teaching people healthy habits as well. But fire question, I’m gonna ask you a couple questions.

Rapid fire, whatever comes you do it. So I think people seem to misunderstand about you. I’m a perfectionist so I feel like everything I do, I’m gonna make sure I do perfection. That’s probably my best trait, but also my worst trait at the same time. , what’s your [00:27:00] favorite thing about where you live?

Me, two dogs. If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it? It would be the rock. One thing you can’t live without ice cream one. What’s one person who motivates you? My old man, my dad. What’s your favorite escape training? Pet peeves. Pet peeves would be chewing with your mouth open. Favorite quote?

My favorite quote, I use this one all the time, is, are you lifting heavy enough? I feel like people just don’t go hard or they don’t understand that they’re stronger than they actually think. Yeah, you tell me that all the time. , what’s your morning routine look like? Wake up, have cold showers straight away.

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My alarm goes off 3:50 AM most mornings to start my day. Only because my I’ve gotta be at work at 4:30 AM cold showers, prepare breakfast get dressed obviously, and then usually head straight to work. What’s your favorite productivity hack? Having Google Calendar and just having everything set in place.

I think just being organized. What’s your spirit animal. The year I was born was 98, so that’s the year of the tiger. Is that the spirit animal? . Okay, [00:28:00] sure. Thanks for surviving the rapid fire questions. Can you tell people why they should join the challenge and work with me and you on this nine week health? Of course, I think by getting the results that we’ve gotten already with myself, yourself and your wife as well.

I find that I want to be able to connect on this online platform, which I haven’t been able to do on a larger scale and really help people really change their lives. And I really mean that when it comes to their health and fitness. Like I’ve dedicated my whole life now. To help people, move better educate people, get ’em out of pain.

So my goal in life is to honestly help as much peop as many people as I possibly can. And over these nine weeks they’ll get to work with you and I and to really help create those good habits and lifestyle changes to set them up for longterm success. And, we’ll be there every step of the way, and I can’t wait to start working with the people that decide to get on this journey with us over the next nine.

Dr. PT Pete thanks for being a guest on the Best Book Bits podcast and there’s my audience out there. It just resonated with you. When you are ready to do something about your health, click the link below [00:29:00] and jump on a call with me and Pete and we’ll be happy to guide you through the next nine weeks to make your 2023 the most healthiest year of your life yet.

So again, Pete, thanks for being a guest and we shall do a training session tomorrow. I think. Take care, I’ll speak to you soon. See you mate. Thanks for having me. No worries. Bye. Thanks, mark. Bye.

 

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THE POWER OF ONE MORE by Ed Mylett | Part 2 One More and Living in Your Matrix

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2 One More and Living in Your Matrix

This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill—the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill—you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit‐hole goes. —Morpheus, The Matrix

I’M A HUGE FAN OF THE MATRIX. Not only was it a groundbreaking movie when it was released in 1999, but the film is also stacked with One More lessons. If you haven’t seen The Matrix yet, stay with me. It’s all going to make sense in a moment. Also, be advised, spoilers are ahead.

The Matrix tells the story of Keanu Reeves’s character, a computer programmer, Thomas A. Anderson, who leads a double life as the hacker Neo. He joins forces with legendary hacker Morpheus in a quest to destroy artificial intelligence that is running human life, known as the Matrix. As they battle the Agents that protect the Matrix, Neo begins to display super‐ human gifts—including the ability to slow down time—that indicate he could be The One, or the chosen person to bring down the Matrix.

Speaking of The One, I want you to realize something. When you see a happy or financially successful family, understand that at some point in their history, they weren’t happy or successful. That is, until The One showed up, and The One in that family changed the family tree forever.

The One can change the emotions, finances, level of happiness, and the way the family thinks, among many other things.

In my family, I am The One. Not because I wanted it or I liked it, but because I was ready to fight for it, and because I learned the strategies it takes to be The One.

My prayer for you is for you to become The One in your family. The reason I love the story of Neo being The One is because I believe it’s a metaphor for what exists in every family.

It bears repeating. When you see a family that is happy, successful, or living out their dreams, understand that they did not start out that way. And then, The One in that family stepped up and changed that family legacy forever. I’m teaching you about the Matrix so that you can be The One who steps up in your family, too.

Here’s something that may surprise you.

What if I told you that you’re already living in your Matrix? What if I told you there are already forces at work deep inside you that are slowing down parts of your life, interpreting and reinforcing what you’ve already programmed into your consciousness? You’re not even aware this is happening.

But it is.

Your Matrix is a more colloquial name for your reticular activating system, RAS for short. Your RAS is the filter that gives weight to the important things in your life and filters out the things that are not.

The RAS is a concept I’ve talked about in the past. Much like creating a One More identity, I haven’t explored it as much as we’re going to do in this chapter. And just like a One More identity, learning about your RAS is vital to linking with many of the other chapters in this book.

However, while understanding the science behind your RAS is important, because people are sometimes intimidated or turned off by heavy duty scientific concepts, I’ve translated our discussion into a more accessible and digestible strategy using the Matrix as an example.

Whether you identify it as your RAS or your Matrix, remember this. Think of the RAS as the filter that reveals to you what’s most important to you in your life.

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Here’s an example that illustrates how the RAS works. Let’s say you want to buy a blue van. Immediately, you start seeing blue vans everywhere. It could be three lanes over on a freeway, when you’re out running errands, or dropping your kids off at school.

Guess what? Those blue vans were always there, you just never noticed them before. But now you see them because they’ve become a part of your RAS. They have been filtered into your consciousness since they have become important to you.

This extends out to other parts of your life. For example, the clients, your level of fitness, the relationships, or the emotions you want become your blue vans. They were always there; you just never saw them because they weren’t programmed into your RAS. You just filtered them out because they weren’t important enough to you at the time.

How do they become important? Through repeated visualization and thought. These things teach your RAS what it should be hearing, looking for, and feeling because your mind moves toward what it is most familiar with.

This is what I mean by slowing down. When you repeatedly visualize and obsessively think about something, you tell your RAS to pay attention to that thought, and that’s when the world slows down.

That’s how the RAS works.

You already do this exceptionally well, but chances are you don’t do it with enough direction, intention, or awareness. However, if you can direct your RAS to focus better on the blue vans in your life, then your life begins to change.

One More thinkers learn to work in concert with their Matrix. In turn, this repeatedly creates opportunities and outcomes that will fast‐forward your life in countless ways.

Living a Deeper Life by Slowing Down Your Matrix

The concept of slowing down time can be traced back to ancient civilizations. The fifth‐century BC philosopher Zeno posed the question, “If a flying arrow appears to be at rest in any particular instant in flight, doesn’t that actually make it motionless?” It was one of many paradoxes he posed in his time.

We’ve come a long way since then. But the concept of our relationship with time still fascinates us. Just like in The Matrix, if you want to live a deeper, more meaningful life, you must learn to slow down your internal pace. From a technical standpoint, The Matrix used cinematic special effects to create what has become known as bullet time. Bullet time was created by placing 120 cameras in a 360‐degree circle around the action, taking thousands of shots, and then stitching those shots together. The results make viewers feel like they’re moving around a slow‐motion scene that plays out in a matter of seconds, which is what you ultimately see in the movie.

As directors, the Wachowskis weren’t the first to use the technique, but they were the first to take it mainstream. It’s used several times in The Matrix and subsequent sequels, but the best known and remembered use is when Neo dodges bullet after bullet on a rooftop—hence, bullet time.

Bullet time can work for you, too. It’s the equivalent of an extreme version of “stopping to smell the roses.” But it’s a lot more than that. When you strategically slow down your physical and mental being, you create a space that allows your senses and brain to reset. You see things differently, and you start to realize One Mores have been there all along.

You just needed to change the variables in your life to see them. The key is to be aware of your circumstances and your environment. Bullet time allows you to go looking for one more business deal, concentrate on one more way to improve your tennis game, or one more way to make your marriage better.

I’m trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it. —Morpheus

It takes time and focus to engage in your present life. Much like The Matrix, you’ll be more invested in what happens to you when you put forth this effort.

Just as important, you must consciously decide which path you want to choose. This brings us to the famous blue pill versus red pill choice Neo must make. When Morpheus asks Neo to choose between the pills, he essentially asks Neo to choose between fate and free will.

In The Matrix, taking the blue pill represents choosing fate. All choices are already decided, and actions are predetermined. The concept of choice is only an illusion. Neo instead opts for the red pill and places himself in a place of free will where he can change his fate based on his decisions. He joins Morpheus and Trinity, another key freedom fighter, who also place a higher value on free will, no matter how unpleasant that world is.

Everyone has this same ability to choose their reality. One More thinkers are simply more intentional about it. They choose free will and action because they know what they want and combine thinking and action to move them closer to their standards and goals. They raise their awareness levels. In doing so, they slow down their world. And their world changes to better align with what they want in life.

Neo, sooner or later you’re going to realize, just as I did, there’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path. —Morpheus

Because of the pace of our lives, we often choose to look at only certain things. To travel along pre‐established paths. For many, it’s a matter of expediency. But it also eliminates several colors in the big, beautiful rainbow of life.

Don’t be too hard on yourself if this sounds like you. From the time we’re born, we’re taught to obey others, follow the rules, and memorize facts. As the world goes faster and faster, it’s more of a struggle to keep up in a light‐ speed technologically driven era. To survive, we constantly accept that others decide what’s best for us and that we should follow without question.

What if you challenged that assumption? Not all the time, but in the areas of your life that are important to you. What if you gave yourself a mental time‐ out and thought long and hard about the choices you face? What if you explored your options more deeply when it mattered?

One More thinkers should be more deeply engaged in their own lives when possible. Your Matrix and your choice between the red pill and the blue pill are waiting for you.

How Your Matrix Works

It’s cool to attach a movie label to one of your core functions. But to fully appreciate how your Matrix works, you need to understand the science behind your Matrix as well.

I mentioned the reticular activating system (RAS) earlier. It’s the mental muscle that allows you to recalibrate your Matrix. Your RAS filters things into your awareness that are important to you and filters out the things that are not.

In neurological terms, reticular means “net or web‐like.” The RAS is a network web formation of nerve cells and their connections located deep in your brainstem, between your spinal cord, traversing up through your thalamus in the center of your brain. These cells extend outward to your cerebral cortex, which is the thin layer of neural tissue on the surface of your brain.

The RAS does not interpret the quality or the type of sensory input you provide it. The RAS activates your entire cerebral cortex, putting it on high alert. This increased arousal creates an enhanced ability to interpret incoming information and preps the brain for appropriate action.

Appropriate action means that the RAS alters your brain’s electrical activity, regulating the electrical voltage of brain waves and the speed at which nerve cells engage. It also releases chemicals that regulate sleep, pain, motor function, emotions, and memories. These chemicals include acetylcholine that regulates movement, and dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin that are associated with consciousness and feelings. The RAS has been linked to psychological disorders, too. Abnormalities in the RAS result in schizophrenia, Parkinson’s disease, and post‐traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), among others.

When you’re awake, your brain produces low‐voltage brain waves that are incredibly fast so that you can organize information quickly and attentively. The same thing occurs during the rapid eye movement (REM) cycle of sleep, which produces intense dreaming, body movements, and faster breathing and pulse rates.

How the RAS configures these signals also makes you more or less alert, more or less cognizant, and will determine how your brain interprets various messages you receive. In this way, the RAS is your brain’s natural filtering system. It filters out everything that’s not important to you or unnecessary noise that interferes with your decision‐making process, including processing messages when you sleep.

The RAS also filters in all the things that are important to you into your consciousness. By doing so, you can create your own reality. But you have to be intentional and work at it. For One More thinkers, your RAS is your Matrix. Understanding the science behind how your Matrix works makes it easier to understand how and why you should find ways to put it to work in your favor.

Here’s a quick illustration. If you’re looking for things to be offended by, your RAS will activate, and that’s what you’ll find all day long. On the other hand, if you’re looking for things to be grateful for, that’s what you’ll find instead.

When you intentionally activate your Matrix to focus on certain things, you’ll see One Mores everywhere.

Without consciously knowing it, your Matrix sifts through a mountain of data and presents only the pieces that are important to you. Your Matrix programs itself to work in your favor. You’ve heard of the saying, “garbage in, garbage out”? I’ll bet you didn’t know there was a whole branch of science connected to it. It’s all about you and your Matrix.

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Your Matrix also seeks information that validates your beliefs. It filters the world through the parameters you give it. Your beliefs shape those parameters in a self‐fulfilling prophecy of sorts. If you think you’re bad at hitting a golf ball, or painting as a hobby, or giving a speech, then you probably will be horrendous at those activities. Conversely, if you think you can hit a 90‐m.p.h. fastball, learn a new language in three months, or master ballroom dancing in a year, you have a much better chance of doing so. Your Matrix helps you see what you want to see, and then it goes to work to influence your actions.

Your RAS also helps explain the Law of Attraction. This is the concept that you attract what you tend to think about. It’s often touted in some kind of New Age, cosmic way, but the Law of Attraction is a lot less magical and mystical once you understand how your Matrix works.

Here’s a One More thinker key takeaway. When you can train your Matrix to take your subconscious thoughts and marry them to your consciousness, you become intentional. I talk a lot about being intentional, and now you know how and why the process works.

It requires focus and patience. However, if you can master this skill, your Matrix will align with you to reveal information, people, and opportunities to help you achieve your standards and goals.

Training Your Matrix to Get What You Want

The next and most obvious question then becomes, “How do I train my Matrix to get what I want?” There are simple and concrete ways to do this. You start by planting a seed in your Matrix. Think about a situation you want to influence. For example, “I want to lose weight.” Next, give more directed thought to the specific outcome you want. In this case, “I want to lose 20 pounds over the next six months.” Finally, start creating visualizations of how you ideally want that goal to play out. Let your imagination hear the conversations, actions, exercise, foods, and other details you’ll need to reach that goal. To lock in your Matrix, you’ll need to replay these things over and over with intention.

When you do this, you’re unleashing your Matrix to go to work for you. One More thinkers must also put actions to these thoughts. It’s not enough to mentally convince yourself. You can’t wish your way to success. Let’s say you want a dog. You love huskies, but you never noticed how many of them you see during your day until you set your mind to work, deciding that’s the kind of dog you want. Suddenly, you see huskies everywhere.

How about your dream car? Maybe all your life, you’ve dreamed of owning a Porsche. It’s one of those “someday” dreams with no actual timetable in place. Then, your career takes off. You get a big raise and your “someday” Porsche dream starts to become real. You see online ads, TV commercials, and billboards for Porsches. Every time one passes you on the freeway, your brain fires off. You have a chance meeting with a guy who already drives a Porsche, and your Matrix elevates your dream to an even higher state.

When these things happen, your Matrix has taken the first steps in moving you closer to what you want out of life.

Your Matrix and Confirmation Bias

Confirmation bias is the tendency to interpret new evidence as the confirmation of your existing beliefs or theories. Your Matrix and confirmation bias are joined at the hip. When your Matrix generates specific beliefs or outcomes, confirmation bias kicks in and reinforces those beliefs, further strengthening the effect. As this happens, any evidence or theories that undermine or could disprove what your Matrix believes are undervalued.

Confirmation bias is an extension of selective recall. When you choose to remember things in a certain way that confirms what you’re thinking, you’ll be biased to the outcome you want to achieve. The stronger your beliefs, or the more emotionally charged an issue is to you, the stronger your confirmation bias and selective recall will be.

These embedded beliefs become stronger over time. Subconsciously, through repetition, your obsessions eventually become your possessions. When combined with intentional actions, confirmation bias, and selective recall, your Matrix drives you unrelentingly toward your goals. The key is to make sure the right seeds are planted in your Matrix. If you plant the wrong things, you’ll harvest the wrong results.

Biased interpretations and memories can be powerful tools when you harness them the right way. In our respective worlds, we’re inundated with confirmations daily. Social media is a prime example of an echo chamber that reinforces our beliefs. We gravitate toward what aligns with our thoughts and beliefs. And we often repel points of view that differ from our own.

In recent years, the media has become an obvious example of confirmation bias. Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, and others routinely express points of view that either confirm or enrage viewers, based on their political leanings. Confirmation bias also minimizes a mental conflict known as cognitive dissonance. That occurs when a person is exposed to two contradictory beliefs, resulting in psychological stress or uneasiness. Confirmation bias helps avoid incongruent points of view and strengthens information‐ reinforcing views that align with what we want to believe.

Your Matrix Is Unique to You

Every person’s Matrix is unique. Just as no two brains are alike, the same holds true for your Matrix as well. You are the one‐of‐a‐kind total of your memories, experiences, thoughts, relationships, fears, ambitions, and more.

That’s why learning how to control your Matrix is a solo journey. You can’t delegate this responsibility. It’s up to you, and only you. And keep in mind, confirmation bias heavily influences how your Matrix behaves. Consider this. A Wall Street stockbroker has configured their Matrix to find money in the vast array of financial markets. By slowing down and letting their Matrix see opportunities, they see deals that someone who is not intentionally wired does not.

Likewise, ponder the plight of a homeless drug addict on Skid Row. Even though they have no place to sleep and wonder where their next meal is coming from, they always find a way to get their next high. They’ve trained their Matrix to find drugs. And they become very good at doing it.

Both are living their realities. They have trained their Matrix to elevate specific thoughts and opportunities consistent with their goals, and everything they run across tends to confirm that they’re moving toward those goals. In each case, their obsessions become their possessions.

Society may judge them differently. But is this either right or wrong, or are they the result of how their Matrix impacted their lives?

The point I make is that your Matrix is yours, and yours alone. You control it, whether you’re looking for your next big sleeper stock or a dime bag of heroin. And the longer your Matrix sees things a certain way, the more ingrained and intense your beliefs become.

Here’s another example. If you’re a quarterback, does it make more sense in a game to avoid receivers who are covered or look for receivers who are open? When you train your mind to look for an open receiver, that’s what your brain looks for instead of focusing on covered receivers.

Rookie quarterbacks often struggle because they don’t have the depth of experience planted in their Matrix. But seasoned Hall of Fame quarterbacks like Joe Montana or Peyton Manning literally picked apart defenses. They were more deeply invested and embedded into believing they could control the action on the field because their world had slowed down and put them into their in‐game Matrix.

If you’re a golfer, you filter out sand traps, water hazards, and out‐of‐ bounds markers on every swing. You know exactly where you want to place the ball on every shot, and that’s all your Matrix allows you to see.

Using your Matrix also extends to your relationships. When you activate your Matrix, you begin to see the qualities in people you want to have a relationship with instead of missing those people who were there all along.

What if, instead of huskies, Porsches, and pass routes, you focused on creating more business prospects? You would begin to hear opportunities at work or on a sales call that you wouldn’t otherwise because your brain is now actively looking for these kinds of possibilities. You begin to see money‐making opportunities that were always there but weren’t filtered into your Matrix before.

If you’re an entrepreneur, you already train your brain to look for opportunities, not roadblocks. You seek ways to connect two disparate services, products, or relationships in a way that will make you money. To some degree, your Matrix filters out all the people who are not good candidates for you to work with and instead focuses on the ones you are most compatible with.

Think about what could happen if you became even more focused on this. Would the quality and quantity of your deals rise? Would you put more money in your pocket at the end of the year? Based on my experience, yes, you would.

I’m a big believer that everything you need is already in and around you right now if you can just put in the work to see it.

Optimizing Your Matrix

Your Matrix is already hard at work. But is it working the right way on your behalf? Do you think about the things that will enhance your life, or are you thinking about avoiding bad things that will detract from your life? There is a difference.

Shifting your Matrix mindset to a more positive framework removes fear and anxiety and replaces those thoughts with confidence and forward momentum. To do this, two things are essential. First, you must intentionally elevate the quality of your thoughts. Frame them in the positive. Set your goals so that when you achieve them, you’ll be excited about the outcome instead of breathing a sigh of relief that you avoided a crisis.

Second, repeat, repeat, repeat!

You must continuously and consciously fill your Matrix with the thoughts you want. Let your beliefs become so embedded that you’re not even aware they exist. However, your Matrix won’t lose sight of them. In its way, your Matrix will become your biggest ally and turn your thoughts into results. Program your Matrix through intentional repetitious feelings, words, and visualizations. Be doggedly persistent if you want success.

Breaking it down further, activation also comes from preparation, gathering knowledge, courage, permitting yourself to fail, giving yourself permission to chart your path, gratitude, and more. Also, remove procrastination from your life. As Victor Kiam, an entrepreneur and former owner of the New England Patriots, said, “Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.” Conversely, change is the instigator of opportunity.

When it’s time to dance with a pretty girl, you can’t sit on the sidelines, otherwise, another guy will be two‐steppin’ with her in no time. And you’ll just be left at the bar, grumpy and drunk.

Few things are more expensive than opportunities you miss. You pay for them with regret, doubt, and a lingering, haunting feeling of what could have been.

English philosopher Francis Bacon once said, “A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.”

In the same way, One More thinkers are intentional about opportunities. They set their Matrix in motion and hone this powerful tool through repetition.

When you activate your Matrix, you’ll bend reality and find One More opportunities that will reveal themselves to you in ways you would never have seen otherwise.

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THE POWER OF ONE MORE by Ed Mylett | 1 One More Identity

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The Power of One More – The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success by ed mylett

Introduction

THE POWER OF ONE MORE IS THE CULMINATION OF A PHILOSOPHY I’ve been developing for more than 30 years.

At its core, The Power of One More is about your willingness to do one more rep, make one more phone call, get up one hour earlier, build one more relationship, or do one more thing for whatever your situation calls for.

You can find your best life by doing “one more” than the world expects from you.

I wrote The Power of One More to transform your life by adopting strategies I’ve successfully used time and time again. By living a One More life, you can completely change your relationships, finances, emotions, the way you do business, your outlook on life, and more.

You were not born to be average or ordinary. You were born to do something great with your life.

I know this about you.

The Power of One More is a dynamic contract between us. It’s an important exchange of ideas and knowledge. Depending on who you are, what I’m about to teach you will impact each one of you differently. By changing how you think and act, you’ll find answers in those areas of life that matter most to you.

The beauty of all this is that, most times, the answers are relatively simple.

But for whatever reasons, you may not have been able to see them or resolve them on your own. Figuring out where to begin can feel daunting. Most people are under the impression there are a thousand different things they must do to change their lives. Nothing could be further from the truth.

I’ve learned, and you will too, that one more thing is often all it takes. And frequently, it’s only one more step away from where you are now.

Begin with ONE MORE.

You’re a lot closer to changing your life than you think. You’re one more meeting, one more relationship, one more decision, one more action, or one more thought from leading the life you deserve. The Power of One More challenges you to become hyper‐focused and addicted to searching for the “one mores” in your life. The more you begin to see them and then execute the actions to realize them, the more your life will change.

The individual thoughts and actions you take don’t need to be profound. However, when you compound these small thoughts and actions and stack them up on top of each other, the resulting changes over time are profound.

I’ll teach you to keep promises to yourself, creating an internal belief system that you are destined for a better life than what you have now. When you implement One More strategies, you live by a set of principles above and beyond those of most other people.

This is not just a “how to succeed in business” or a “how to succeed in your relationships” book, although, for some, it will be. For most of you, this book will have several applications. That’s why you should think of this as a “how to succeed in your life” book. Your challenge is to take these strategies and apply them to the areas of your life that matter to you.

There are no wasted words on these pages, but some parts of this book will connect with you more than others. Certain principles will challenge your ways of thinking, beliefs, and values. And several will land on you like a ton of bricks and change your life forever. I’ve purposely designed these strategies to be universal as well. You’re going to read about principles that apply to all people in every area of life.

You can take lessons from each chapter whether you’re a world‐class athlete, a CEO, a rapidly rising star in the business world, a parent, or still in college. Some of you will use this book to transform your life completely. Others will focus on insights to enhance specific parts of your life that are lacking or troublesome.

I’m confident The Power of One More will resonate with you because, in many ways, I’m just like you. I’m not the person now that I was when I first started on my own transformational journey. Like you, I struggled at times. I get what it’s like to worry about money, relationships, and my purpose in life. I know what it’s like to lack confidence, fall into a slump, and wonder if I’ll ever feel happy. I’ve been beyond poor, to the point I couldn’t even pay the water bill in an apartment where my wife and I once lived.

I’ve faced health problems.

I’ve lost people close to me.

And over the years, I’ve battled doubt, frustration, fear, and anxiety.

I’ve lived with not having the answers. Even worse, I’ve also been in places where I didn’t know what paths to take to find the answers I so desperately sought.

For those of you who have lived in a stressful or dysfunctional family, I also know what that’s like. Later in this book, I’m going to tell you about the personal challenges I faced being raised by an alcoholic father who was also my hero, and how that impacted my self‐esteem.

In fact, one of the reasons I’ve become so proficient at learning how to grow is because I had such a far place from which to come. The truth is, I needed to learn how to grow so I could simply function to reach a baseline.

The good coming from all of this is that it reinforced my belief people can dramatically change their lives. I saw it firsthand from watching how much my father changed over the years.

I also wrote The Power of One More because after years and years of struggling, and trial and error, I learned what it takes to succeed in life. I’ve paid a price, but I now know what many of the answers are and what it takes to win.

Along the way, I’ve also watched good friends and business associates chase what they think is fun at the expense of winning. Sadly, they become distracted and lose sight of just how good winning feels. Then they spend a lot more time and energy trying to get to a place they could have been already.

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When I first started out, I often set fun aside in favor of winning. The ironic thing is, it didn’t take long before I figured out that winning is fun. In fact, one of the quotes I’m best known for is, “Winning is more fun than fun is fun.”

I’ve been living by these principles for 30 years, applying what I’ve learned to design my best life. My goal for The Power of One More is to help you identify your talents, gifts, and abilities, then maximize them for your own greater good and for the people around you.

Many self‐improvement and performance books I read say the same thing over and over. I don’t know about you, but I lose interest after a couple of chapters. I purposely set out to make The Power of One More different in that respect. The strategies and philosophies I’m going to share with you are unique unto themselves.

The Power of One More teaches you to combine your gifts with directed, intentional thoughts and focused actions. That gives you the resources you need to produce the standards, goals, and outcomes you deserve. Every one of the principles I share in these pages has worked for me beyond my wildest dreams. I’m also humbled and aware that I’ve been gifted with a certain amount of luck and God’s blessings.

You have your own version of these same gifts as well. But, like me, you also need to put in the work and keep an open mind when it comes to making changes in your life. In many cases, those changes won’t be easy at first. In fact, the more worthy a goal and the more changes you go through to reach it, the more resistance you’ll encounter. Expect that—plan for it. When you put yourself in the right frame of mind and you’re mentally tough, you’ll succeed more often than you otherwise would.

The Power of One More is the product of years upon years of how I have lived, grown, and changed my life to produce wealth, happiness, and meaningful relationships with people I care about deeply. I want to share the lessons I’ve learned with you so that you can lead your best life, too.

Approach The Power of One More like a key that will unlock your mind, and you may be surprised how one more thought and one more action will change your life forever.

Remember, we’re a lot alike, you and me.

If I can do it, you can too.

1 One More Identity

They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. —Andy Warhol

IN MANY WAYS, RESHAPING YOUR IDENTITY IS THE MOST FUNDAMENTAL CONCEPT of what it means to be a One More thinker and doer.

Your identity is a powerful and influential driver that governs outcomes in all parts of your life. Identity defines the limits of your success, finances, and achievements. It controls the quality of your emotions, relationships, and self‐worth.

What exactly is identity? I define it as the thoughts, concepts, and beliefs we hold as the most genuine parts of our inner being. You can put on a face or act a certain way for the rest of the world, but you can’t lie to yourself when it comes to these things. Deep inside, you know what’s true about you.

Put another way, identity is this: What we perceive about ourselves is what we believe about ourselves.

Here’s the paradox about identity. Many people know they could improve their lives significantly if they changed their identity. However, many people aren’t willing to take the necessary steps, even when it’s in their own best interests.

Are you willing to sacrifice who you are for who you could be? The answer should be a resounding “Yes!” That’s a logical conclusion and sounds obvious, so it’s a mystery why lots of people struggle with this fundamental question. You weren’t put on this Earth to be a bump on a log, or a lump of coal in the ground. Your mission is to keep growing, expanding, and learning to lead a full and happy life. When you do these things, your identity will change.

Identity is so important because it unlocks so many other amazing things in your life. When you create a One More identity, you give yourself the gift of taking control by dictating internal messages instead of being governed by external forces that have been undermining your happiness, possibly since the day you were born.

Your Identity Is Shaped Early in Childhood

As a child, you were a blank canvas. You were impressionable, happy, and accepting.

You had no reason to believe the external world was out to hurt you in any way. Gradually, you learned to function in the world based on what you were taught by your parents, family members, friends, teachers, and others with whom you came in contact.

Of course, many people were well intentioned. However, that doesn’t mean what they taught you was always right. The fact is, nobody is ever always right. As a child, you accepted much of what you were told, right or wrong. Your identity became the good and the bad parts of how other people influenced you. The unfortunate thing is that you were defenseless. Your critical thinking skills did not exist to give you the tools you needed to survive in the world.

As you grew older, you began to confirm your identity. If someone said you weren’t a good student or a lousy athlete, that became a part of your identity. You still didn’t have the capacity to disavow what you were being told. You grew into adulthood, and you carried with you these beliefs about yourself. Your identity had taken root. Your limitations became a part of you, and because they were so ingrained, you weren’t even sure where they came from.

That’s a lot of baggage to lug around, isn’t it?

By the time you were old enough and able to question your identity, you were living with the identity you had adopted at a time when you didn’t have a choice. Of course, this assumes you’re even aware of how your identity impacts you. Many people simply go through life, screwed up and unsuccessful, and never quite knowing why.

However, as a One More thinker, you are now aware, and you can change your identity once you become intentional about it. Here’s how.

Adjusting Your Identity Thermostat

I’ve touched briefly on your identity thermostat in the past, but now I want to give you more details on how this concept can work on your behalf. Your identity is the force that governs your life and regulates your results. Think of it like a thermostat. Your internal thermostat sets the conditions of your life.

You walk into a room, and if it’s too hot or too cold, you look for a thermostat to adjust the temperature to what you like. It doesn’t matter what the external conditions are. The temperature can be 100 degrees outside, but if the thermostat is set for 75 degrees, it kicks on, and the air conditioning cools down the temperature and regulates the environment. The same applies when it’s 30 degrees outside. The thermostat kicks in and warms your surroundings to 75 degrees.

Your life works exactly the same way. If you’re a 75‐degree person, you turn on the air conditioners of your life and cool it back down to what you think you’re worth. This is what happens every time your results begin to exceed your identity. You unconsciously turn on the air conditioners of your life and cool it back down to what you believe you deserve.

Much like a thermostat, your identity regulates your internal self‐ worth. It regulates your actions and results. Many people are under the false assumption that external factors are what regulates your thermostat. They believe that getting a promotion, getting married to the love of your life, or getting an advanced degree from college determines their identity. If you don’t raise your identity, then eventually you will turn the air conditioning of your life on sooner or later, and that temperature will drop back down to 75 degrees, or some other setting you don’t want, simply because you didn’t take charge and decide what identity you wanted. However, if your thermostat is set the right way, it will transcend conditions and you will find success no matter what the external conditions are.

The truth is that you can acquire all the talents, skills, and abilities you want, but until they align with your identity, you’ll fall short of the goals you’ve set. That applies across the board.

For example, think about your fitness identity. Let’s suppose you lost 20 pounds at one time in your life. Despite being armed with the best weight‐ loss recipes or workout regimens, a year later, you added all that weight back on and you’re right where you started. That’s because, when your fitness identity thermostat is set at 75 degrees, it means you’re comfortable carrying 20 extra pounds, and try as you might, you’ll always drift back to that 75‐degree setting.

You can take all the right actions with diet and exercise, but if your internal thermostat is not set for success and remains at 75 degrees, eventually you’ll drift back to your old thermostat setting by eating the wrong food or falling out of a solid workout regimen. You’ll use external circumstances to find ways to cool you back down to what your internal circumstances believe you’re worth.

Here’s another example. Maybe you’re doing well financially, but you can’t seem to get to that next level of wealth you think you deserve. You may want $10 million in the bank. However, until you turn up your thermostat to believe your identity is worth $10 million, even if you make that much money, your thermostat will eventually cool you off to what your identity believes you are worth. It may take a few years, but eventually, unless you change that internal thermostat, you’ll start to experience financial setbacks. Chances are these types of situations and many others are something you’ve experienced.

There’s no shortage of information, coaching, or paths to success in any part of your life. So it follows, the barriers to success are found inside of you. That is why you can do all the right things and still not get the results you wanted.

Remember this key point! Unconsciously, we always find a way to get back to where our thermostat is set based on what we think we’re worth.

Simply put, you can’t achieve 100 degrees of fitness or wealth with a thermostat set for 75 degrees of fitness or wealth. Your thermostat boxes you in until you can create a new identity that triggers growth and change. This isn’t to say that you can’t achieve success, because you will in many cases. However, unless you adjust your identity, down the road, your thermostat will bring you back to where your identity is set.

Typically, most people blame external forces when this happens. Do these examples sound familiar?

I tweaked my back and couldn’t work out for eight weeks, and then I lost interest in getting fit.

The economy turned, and I lost a ton of money in the stock market, so I gave up on my dream of being worth $10 million.

If your thermostat isn’t set high enough, you’ll see these as coincidences, karma, or bad luck that conspired against you. But that’s not what they are. If your thermostat is set high enough, these are little more than temporary setbacks.

However, the difference between you as a One More person and everyone else is that you will view these as speedbumps on the road to your goals. You won’t use temporary setbacks as an excuse to create permanent failures. You’ll have the grit it takes to gravitate to where your thermostat is set, and eventually, you’ll rise to that temperature.

Remember, as a One More person, change comes from thinking and acting. This book is not about doing one thing or the other. You must do them in unison. When you think and act in congruency, you don’t cool your thermostat back down. Instead, you’re best positioned to turn your thermostat up to achieve the results you deserve.

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The Trilogy of Changing Your Identity

Once you buy into the concept that changing your identity is the key to changing your life, the question then becomes, “How do I readjust my thermostat to create my new identity?” That process is anchored in a Trilogy of core principles: faith, intentions, and associations.

Faith

According to Matthew 17:20–21, “Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

Nothing moves mountains quite like faith. The same applies to moving your thermostat so that you can move your identity to a new place, too. If you’re a person of faith, whether you practice Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism, or any other faith‐based teachings, fundamentally, you believe that your God loves you.

As part of my faith, I believe that I come from the most extraordinary DNA in the world: God’s DNA. As an extension of this, I also believe that God did not make me in His image to live with a thermostat set at 75 degrees. God created us to live a full faith‐based life with a thermostat set at 100 degrees.

Many people say they lead faith‐based lives, but how many of us say they have God and faith in all parts of their lives? Several people I know read the Bible, go to church, and are kind‐hearted and loving people. But do these same people extend their faith into their beliefs about personal fitness, finance, relationships, and business? In many cases, the answer is “No.” One of the keys to changing your identity is to let faith move mountains in all parts of your life.

Intentions

When our actions are based on good intentions, our soul has no regrets. —Anthony Douglas Williams

I meet many people who constantly beat themselves up for where they are in life instead of giving themselves credit for their intentions to move to a new identity. If this sounds like you, all you’re doing is reinforcing your current identity—your 75‐degree life.

Do these moans sound familiar?

I’d give myself more credit if I had gotten that promotion.

My life is a complete mess since I got divorced three years ago.

I’m a failure since I had to claim bankruptcy during the pandemic.

You’re not letting yourself up off the mat when you do this. It’s a dead‐bang loser of an approach to life. You’re not being fair to the person who matters most—you!

Thinking this way creates a downward spiral, and the farther down you spin, the harder it is to climb out of it and create a new identity. You’ll accept frustration. You won’t want to be around people. And, quite frankly, most people won’t want to be around you.

Instead of souring on life, flip your script. Tell yourself you intend to do good and to serve. That you intend to create a thriving business and have money in the bank. You intend to treat the people around you with care and are worthy of a loving and caring relationship. Apply good intentions to all parts of your life, and then watch what happens.

Your intentions will set your mind to work creating your new identity. Your brain works on what it is told. When you tell your brain what you want to attract, it will design internal messages that will feed the good parts of who you are and manifest themselves in a new identity over time. Intentions are the currency that lets you make deposits in your “identity bank” instead of you creating a run on that bank that will eventually drive you into identity bankruptcy.

Associations

Consider the words of T. F. Hodge, “What surrounds us is what is within us.”

You can’t possibly stay at 75 degrees if you hang out with people operating at 100 degrees.

Through proximity, you absorb the traits, actions, and beliefs of the people you associate with. Consciously and unconsciously, their knowledge and ideas become a part of who you are.

This is why you should seek out quality associations that can either directly or indirectly help you grow to be the 100‐degree person you’re meant to be.

The other side of this is that if you want to raise your thermostat and change your identity, you may need to say goodbye to many of the 50‐degree people in your life.

Yes, I know that can be a hard thing to do. Until you clear out space in your life for the right associations, you’ll be mired in relationships that have outlived their purpose and now hold you back. I’m not saying this part is easy, but at times, it is necessary.

The other way to approach this is to reject 50‐degree behavior and raise other people’s thermostats instead. This is an especially viable approach when you’re dealing with family members or lifelong friends where saying goodbye could be difficult.

The bottom line is that you’re a reflection of the people you associate with. If you associate with people who elevate you and make your thermostat rise, then you’re on the right path to creating a new identity. Once you’re armed with awareness of the Trilogy, you can only move forward if you adjust the level of self‐confidence you have to change your identity.

Self‐Confidence Is the Unifying Factor

I go into greater detail in Chapter 12 on habits, but self‐confidence and how it relates to identity are crucial concepts worth repeating.

The first thing to know is that identity is different than self‐confidence. Identity is what you believe you’re worth. Your internal thermostat. Self‐ confidence is the means to deliver on it.

Self‐confident people share one habit in common, and that is the ability to keep the promises they make to themselves. When you’re in the habit of keeping promises you make with yourself, you’re on the pathway to self‐ confidence.

Self‐confidence is also a form of self‐trust, and if you can’t trust yourself, you need to do some hard thinking about your life.

It also follows that if you’re timid, you won’t act. If you have doubts, you’ll paralyze yourself with fear. Doubts are the products of external factors in your life. They are incubators for negative thoughts. When these negative thoughts grow, they take over all your thoughts, and your mind descends into unproductive and damaging places.

That’s why you must guard your thoughts. Pull out the mental weeds that threaten to take over the good parts of your psyche. You may not get them all, and that’s okay. Self‐confidence is not about doing away with fear or timidity. It’s about moving forward anyway because of the agreements you made with yourself.

The other critical thing is that self‐confidence is generated from within. And because it’s an internal emotion, you can stack the deck in your favor. Ralph Waldo Emerson put it this way: “What lies behind you and what lies in front of you pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.”

Let this sink in. You are the only one who gets a say in how much self‐ confidence you want. When you break internal agreements, you’re only fighting with yourself. If this sounds a bit crazy, that’s because it is.

Wouldn’t you rather save your energy for the other battles you’re fighting? Like most things in life, when keeping a promise to yourself, the first step is always the hardest. I guarantee that once your train of thought pulls out of that station in your head, you’ll find the momentum you need to act.

You’ll see results as you develop a new identity. Those results will be the fuel that keeps that train moving on down the tracks.

The opposite of self‐confidence is self‐sabotage. It’s like a computer virus that lurks inside many people and is only triggered when you try to move forward with an important part of your life. Self‐sabotage triggers discouragement and doubt, the mortal enemies of self‐confidence.

Farnham Street Media founder Shane Parrish perfectly described how these things could damage you when he said, “Optimism might not make you successful, but pessimism will ensure you don’t succeed.” When you self‐ sabotage, you dial down your thermostat and deny yourself the bliss that was headed into your life.

Maybe this is you. Perhaps it’s somebody you know. Some people just have a knack for being given a gift and then finding a way to undermine the outcome. The worst part is that the same people seem to repeat this type of thing over and over. They’re labeled the “hot‐mess” or somebody who hasn’t gotten their life together yet. In reality, they’ve just dialed their thermostat to what they believe they’re worthy of receiving.

How often have you seen somebody you know meet the woman or the man of their dreams, only to cheat on them, be gross and inappropriate, or downright rude? Do you know people who have made a pile of money but then go on a self‐destructive spree using drugs and alcohol, recklessly spending, or gambling their wealth away? Most of us have also heard cautionary tales of pro athletes who don’t train or eat well or who overindulge in vices, and in some cases, it costs them their lives. They’re all guilty of self‐sabotage because their lack of discipline is a lack of self‐confidence that does not match up and support their identity. Their internal thermostat doesn’t match the initial success they’ve enjoyed. Eventually, that thermostat resets itself, and the person crashes back down to where their thermostat says they should be.

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It’s sad when this happens because it doesn’t need to be this way. Here’s an exercise I use to destroy self‐sabotage, discouragement, and doubt. I pay attention when I have a self‐sabotaging thought. I mentally record that thought. Then, I visualize and see myself scratching it out. The first time I record the thought and strike it out, I’ll still see it. So I do this repeatedly, as many times as it takes, until I can no longer see the thought because it is so marked over and blacked out. When I get to the point where I can’t see it, the thought has been stricken from my mind. My mind no longer lives with the thought, and that thought loses its limiting power on me.

To successfully align with your One More Identity, you must keep the right promises with yourself. You must eliminate negatives and create an environment where self‐confidence becomes an asset instead of one more thing you fear.

Now that you know more about how self‐confidence and identity work together, it’s time to look at misconceptions that can skew proper thinking.

Misconceptions About Self‐Confidence and Identity Recognize and reject these misconceptions, and you’ll fortify your quest for a new identity:

I am what I possess. Lots of people link self‐confidence and identity to their possessions. They make the flawed assumption that the more possessions they acquire, the higher their self‐confidence will be, and the more perfect their new identity will be.

That’s not the case. It’s a hollow approach to self‐confidence and identity.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with acquiring material things. I would be disingenuous if I told you that. What I don’t do is link my possessions and material wealth with my self‐confidence and my identity. I consciously keep them separate, and so should you.

I am my accomplishments. This is a horrible trap to fall into because all your life, to feel good about your self‐confidence and your identity, you’re going to have an insatiable need to keep accomplishing things.

Keep it simple. You are you. You were put on this Earth to do great things but feeding your ego is an insidious trap. By all means, attempt great things. Accomplish great things. Just don’t get so caught up in patting yourself on the back that you lose the humility you should have. Remember, it can all be taken away in an instant. And if you use your accomplishments as a crutch for your self‐worth, that fall will be hard, I guarantee you.

I am what other people say I am. Wrong. The essence of self‐ confidence and internalizing your search for a new identity flies in the face of this belief. Forget the ego strokes. Don’t base your worth on social media hearts and likes. Don’t beg for compliments. It’s a cheap and needy way to live your life. When you do, you’re doing the opposite of improving your self‐confidence and designing your new identity.

What I look like means everything. So many people fall into the trap of what they think beauty should be. This is especially true for women who are bombarded with television programs, blogs, podcasts, social media, and magazines, all of which place an extreme focus on external beauty.

Here’s the real deal. True beauty comes from within. Your beauty comes from your soul, intentions, your capacity to give, how you treat people, your beliefs, and your kind heart. It’s not bad to work on your health, lose weight, dress in nice clothes, and pay attention to your grooming. The trick is to do it for you and nobody else. Remember, you are defined by the content of your character and not by the reflection in your bathroom mirror.

As a One More thinker, your identity is foundational to who you are. Use the Trilogy and apply self‐confidence to find the right temperature on your identity thermostat. When you do, you’re well on your way not only to creating your best identity but also to leading your best life.

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Zero To Hundred Million Dollar Entrepreneur Journey | The Billionaire Code | Alex Charfen

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BILLIONAIRE CODE by Alex Charfen

“The 9 Levels Every Entrepreneur Must Go Through To Get From Start-up To True Growth and Scale”

 

Who is Alex Charfen?
Entrepreneur, author, speaker, and coach who has spent 3 decades on the front lines of entrepreneurship and business, and is helping tens of thousands of entrepreneurs with six-, seven-, and eight-figure businesses to grow and scale.

Billionaire code matrix.

Billionaire Code. It is the nine levels and the nine levels of learning. The nine levels of achievement, the nine levels you must unlock to go from zero to a hundred million entrepreneur.

100 million opportunity.

Most of them know they have a hundred million opportunity and they’re on the way.

They’re putting their time, their effort, their energy into focus, and into getting things done. They’re achieving those things and feeling zero momentum. There’s nothing quite as frustrating as putting in time, effort, energy focused, and even spending cash and not moving forward. Here’s what the Billionaire Code will unlock for you.

I want to take you guys through the Billionaire Code

It’s gonna be interesting. Um, The Billionaire Code is nine levels of entrepreneurial growth and it’s nine levels that we must all go through.

Whatever level you’re on, you’re working on everything in the next level, but you also have to have everything prior to that taken care of.

Circle the places where you feel like you need to shore things up and get a better foundation in place.

This is like gravity. You cannot grow a business without going through every level of the billionaire. You must go through every level.

There’s nine levels. It starts off of the billionaire code with somebody in the crowd.

Somebody on the crowd raises their hand and says, I want to do more. I want to be more. I want to see if I can make this work. And they become what we call a seeker.

Seekers in the United States, there’s 16 million people who have seeker businesses.

But there’s 16 million seekers businesses. So of 29 million businesses in the United States, 16 million are below $40,000. And at the at seeker level, your time is still dabbling.

You’re not putting the time in where you really need to. Your fallback question is, how do I stop pressure and noise? And the biggest need for somebody at this level is for them. To be sound. They need to have routines and process and structure and be able to set outcomes and take care of themselves. And to graduate from Seeker, you have to understand who you want to serve.

Should have routines and structure and personal care all down. And if you don’t, that’s a place to focus

Self-care is a gateway drug to success.

The more you take care of yourself, the more you lower pressure and noise in your life, the faster success will come to you. And it’s totally counter counterintuitive for an entrepreneur. Watch. How many of you feel guilty when you exercise self-care?

Like going to the chiropractor, you feel guilty getting up and going to massage. You feel. taking care of yourself, you feel guilty. We have to get over that, that guilt, because if you don’t do it, you hit a brick wall.

Understanding who you want to serve.

But if we drill down, there are businesses with unclear avatars where you don’t really know who you’re serving and it really isn’t clear enough.

And if we can nail that down, everything in your business will change

It takes belief upfront to push against the feeling of guilt or the feeling of I should be spending the money or the time somewhere else.

And then if you’re willing to do it upfront, what you’ll see is very quickly your business will shift. And the more you take care of yourself, the more you see that continue.

it’s not just an investment, but it’s also you making an agreement with yourself that you’re gonna create a foundation for who you are, not just the business.

Who’s the most important person in your business?

Like you have to admit the fact that you are the most important person in your business, and if you’re not taking care of yourself, you’re doing a disservice not only to your team, but to every person you serve. Because if you’re not connected mind and body, you’re not present, you’re not aware, and you’re not actually there to serve your team and serve your clients, you’re gonna hurt those people.

And so it’s not just an investment in you, it’s an investment in the entire structure in the organization.

Alex talks about his friend in New York who was growing a business and he was in Florida growing and going much faster than me.

And I would go up to New York and visit him. And I remember the first time I ever went up, he had like an assistant. And while I was in his condo, somebody dropped off his laundry and it was all like nicely folded and stuff. And in my mind I’m like, man, this guy’s high maintenance. I’m like, what a, what a jerk.

Somebody needs to do his laundry. Like I do my own laundry. And I had a sense of pride about it. And it took years of what? Like I’d go back to his office and I remember the next time he had like three assistants. There was people doing everything for him. There was like a dude who just felt like a butler. I’m like, what is going on?

And then over time then I’d go back to Florida and like do my own laundry and make my own food and you know, fight against like how high maintenance he was. And then his business kept exploding and then I’d take a commercial flight up to see him. Then we’d take his private flight back to Florida. And I remember like the day of when we went on his plane, I flew up to New York and then went to his office in a cab.

Then we took a helicopter back to the airport up for him and then took his flight back to Florida. And I’m like, something’s starting to sink in here. You know, for him to get from his office to the helicopter, to the plane. There’s probably 50 people involved. And I remember like something clicking for me, like, dude, he’s not doing anything hard

And as he’s walking down the hallway, people are walking up and he’s signing stuff and making decisions and there’s a whole infrastructure around him. And I’m like thinking back to my house in Florida where it’s me doing laundry and, and I’m like, something has to change. And When you look at billionaires, you know, billionaires are the tiny little percent of people who will not tolerate 99% of what you will.

And they are that tiny little percent of people who tolerate 1% of what you won’t And so the faster you understand that equation, the faster you start moving up the Billionaire code.

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Have been taught to feel guilty about wanting anything for ourselves.

It’s just the society we live in. And so you have to make the leap from, it’s not for me, it’s for the business and for my community and the people I serve and for my team.

When it comes to entrepreneurs, we don’t realize that self-care kind of falls into the same sort of category that things like legal and operations in a county, right? It’s, it’s that category of things. You want to ignore them until things explode. And then when things explode all of a sudden, oh yeah, I should probably get on that.

You know, you don’t wanna take care of legal stuff until someone’s, you know, Stealing your business name or stealing your content, or you know, stealing your clients or something like that, and then you’re like, oh man, I should definitely take care of that. Self-care is very much the same way. You don’t realize how important it is until you hit burnout.

And you’re like, oh, man, I am too exhausted to even work in my business anymore. I’m bitter about my business. I I hate my business. And then you realize you should be taking, you should be taking care of yourself. So the way that I think about it is, When I take care of myself, I am being proactive in my business and I’m avoiding those explosions.

And if it helps, you might shift the word instead of using self-care, which very much directs it towards you. Maybe you use the word high performance. So you’re just becoming a high performer in your business.

Radical self-care and, and optimizing whatever you possibly can

Every time you lower pressure and noise in your life, you put more gas in the tank. And every time you lower the noise, it’s more you can withstand in the business.

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And if you’re willing to take radical self care or radical care of yourself, you’ll find you do way better in business.

And when you look at successful people in the world, there’s a reason why.

Michael Jackson put a hyperbaric chamber in his house, when in the eighties Michael Jackson put a hyperbaric chamber in his house and it was like this crazy thing.

It made national news. It was like, oh, he’s so weird. He’s got this oxygen chamber and he is trying to live forever.

Dave Asprey posted yesterday and he was in his oxygen chamber having just finished his red light rejuvenation, doing an IV and it’s normal. And so there’s a reason because radically taking care of yourself gives you massive dividends.

From seeker to starter. 16 million seekers in the United States. Starter is the next level, 40,000 to a 100,000. There’s 6 million. You’re at in the top 7 million in the United States.

There are 22 million businesses under a hundred thousand dollars a year. Time is now part-time. The question you’re asking at this level is, what is wrong with me? Because you need to grow, and the biggest need is market and avatar clarity. If I look at most sub $100,000 businesses, they don’t have a market.

They don’t have an avatar. They’re trying to do everything for everybody. Still tighten it up, niche it down, and things will get much easier to graduate. You have to start selling consistently. That’s it. You get outta Seeker, you get past a hundred thousand dollars. You go to promoter promoter’s. Interesting.

It’s a hundred to 300,000. How many people in a hundred to 300,000? So annual revenue is a hundred to 300. There’s 1.7 million in the United States. I want you guys to see some interesting stuff in the math here. 1.7 million here at the promoter level.

Your time’s now full-time. The question you’re asking is, how do I get ahead.

Your biggest need is to leverage lead generation. You talk to most people that are a hundred to 300,000. They do not have a steady stream of leads coming in yet, or they’d be over 300. So you gotta get it really clear and get those people coming in over and over again to graduate from promoter, you generate leads and convert consistently, generate leads and convert consistently.

There’s a dial in your business that you can turn up and down to get more people.

If you haven’t found that dial yet, you have to find it

You gotta find your dial. The next level after a promoter, a hundred to 300,000. This one’s exciting. It’s where you go from 300,000 to a million.

Your time here is overtime. How many of you would agree you’re working over. Like you thought you were working hard at one to 300, then you break 300 and you like find this other gear somehow because we have to. Your fallback question is, how do I get further ahead?

Because it’s still about you. The biggest need is to leverage sales so that you get out of the sales position and then to graduate, you build systems and process around what you do well. This is why this is such a dangerous level. The reason there’s more at one point, or there’s reason there’s more at this level than the previous level, is that this is where doctors and attorneys and accountants and professional services companies go to die.

They get to somewhere between 300,000 and a million and they never go anywhere. They’re just stuck there.

The next level after is builder operator, 1 million to 3 million. in the United States, it goes down to 700,000.

At this level, your time at one to 3 million, you now have to go from working overtime to aggressively delegating your time. And guys, this is where most people at one to 3 million fall down completely.

They’re not delegating time. In fact, the biggest problem at one to 3 million is the technician in you starts grabbing everything and wants to remain a technician, and you will find this tug of war in your head over what should I do and what am I doing?

And at one to 3 million, your question has to be, how does my team get me ahead? And I wanna define that because what we’re doing at one to 3 million is we are using a team to make us more leveraged. The team’s literally leveraging us at one to 3 million. It’s, they need to help you do more. They need to help you be in more places.

They need to help you get more exposure. They need to help you do more of what you do at one to three million, far too many people try and skip steps, but at this level, it’s them helping you do more. You making you more productive. Here’s the problem with that, you’re terrible at asking for help.

You are a race car driver, right? Was there anything you could do on that race car other than drive it? So you had to ask for help.

Athletes are much better at this than all of us because athletes are used to doing one thing and getting help on everything else.

The entrepreneur’s dilemma. We need far more help than the average person to reach our full potential.

But here’s the challenge for all of us, is that any request for help leaves us feeling vulnerable and exposed, and it’s only through being in a situation where you ask for help over and over and over again.

That, that vulnerability feeling and exposure feeling goes away.

You grow a business past where you have right now and you’re going to hit a new level of feeling exposed and vulnerable. And every time you hit that new level, you have to adjust how you react to that level.

And the reason why these numbers are descending is we get higher on the billionaire code. My belief. There is a ton of viable businesses out there that could go to 10 and 30 and a hundred million, but there’s not a lot of viable entrepreneurs. Far too many of us want to control everything, keep it inside, not ask for help and not put in practice what we need to do to change and to to graduate Here, you build the team and train them to do what you do well.

Here’s the issue for a lot of entrepreneurs, how many of you have heard that phrase? What got you here won’t get you there? That’s really polite. That’s like the nice way of saying it. Here’s what I’ll tell you. What got you here will shred you moving forward. It will kill you. It will have you cortisol out.

Your thyroid will be shot. Your adrenal glands will go away. You’ll start putting on weight. You can’t understand, you won’t be able to like focus. You’ll get brain fog. You’ll be tired when you wake up in the morning. It sucks because if you hold any habit or skill and you try and go into the next level.

If you go from here in Builder and you don’t leverage sales and you go to 1 million Plus and you’re doing all the sales, it will crush you.

It’s incredibly painful. If you don’t let go put structure and process in place and move on, that will be what hurts you and your business.

Every level of the Billionaire Code is an absolute transition.

There is a massive difference between working overtime and aggressively delegating your time, and in the next level it gets even more dynamic.

Let’s go to the next level, which is leader. 3 million to 10 million. There’s only 300,000 in the United States. Huge drop over 50% drop at this. Your time is now. You go from delegating time. Delegating time is hard.

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Your next step is delegating success. The exposure level goes up exponentially. From delegating time to delegating success. It’s exponentially harder. And if you continue to try to delegate time without delegating success, that’s what’s gonna hold you. And delegating success, delegating time and saying, Hey Lucius, I need you to do this thing for me.

Delegating success is Lucius. I need you to get this outcome for me. Is that a massive difference? Huge. And at at three to 10 million, if you keep trying to drive every outcome, you’re gonna be the biggest bottleneck in the company at an exponential level. So you must delegate success at this point. Your fallback question.

Now, this is a big shift. The fallback question goes from how does my team get me ahead to, how does my team get ahead? It’s huge. The shift is absolute. This is one of the biggest shifts in your career as an entrepreneur because the beginning at the Billionaire Code is all about me. You get here at three to 10 million.

It has to become about we in the next level. It becomes about them, and most entrepreneurs can’t. The our egos won’t let us do it. Our insecurities won’t let us do it. We hold ourselves back. We claw and clinging to, it’s all about me, but you have to make this transition to where it’s about your team and where it’s about them.

As a leader in a one to 3 million company, you can delegate just delegate time.

And here’s what that means. At one to 3 million, we’re gonna have you all do a time study. How many of you have done the time study?

So you do a time study and you look at what it is you’re spending your time on, and then you add up that time, turn it into a job description and have somebody else do those things.

That took time for you. And if you do that aggressively over and over again, you get past 3 million. And then here’s what happens. There’s this day where you delegating your time isn’t enough anymore. You now have to delegate outcomes. So it goes from saying, Hey, I need you to make these calls for me to, I need you to get this dollar volume of sales.

I believe that entrepreneurs that get to 3 million regress is that we will not take off the cape.

We won’t transfer the cape. Because unless we let somebody else be the hero, unless we delegate the success, the actual success, and give them credit for it, you won’t grow past this level in a way that’s dynamic.

I want it done my way and I don’t want, yeah. It’s like, that’s one of the biggest challenges we have. One of the most liberating things I ever did as an entrepreneur was gave up how, and just focused on the end, the end result, and the outcome.

You have to accept the fact that you’re gonna get to a place where you don’t know everything anymore and when you’re at this level, that’s one of the biggest realizations you have.

Here’s the progression. By the way. At three to 10 million, you will really, at one to 3 million, you start having to come to the realization that you don’t know everything, right?

And then at three to 10 million, you have to come to the realization that you really don’t know how to do everything. And then at 10 to 30 million, you won’t even know everyone who’s doing something. Like it’s 100% change three times in a row. So we have to accept upfront,

Get past imposter syndrome.

In this level, at Leader, you have your biggest need is to scale a team to consistently deliver what you’re doing. In the previous level, it was build systems and process around what you do well.

Now it’s scaling the team to do what you do well.

A big part of scaling the team is letting go. To graduate this level, you recruit and develop a leadership team. So it’s no longer just about a team now it’s about leadership and having a leadership team.

Here’s what most people are doing leading human beings. They’re, they’re doing what we call transactional management. And it’s telling people what to do, checking that it got done and telling them what to do again.

It’s like the worst way to lead people. It’s the worst way to manage. It’s the worst way to parent. Like this sucks. It’s transactional. It’s exhausting. And you hear it in the language of entrepreneurs. You hear entrepreneurs say stuff like, oh, I’m just always telling my team what to do, and they don’t listen and I have to tell ’em the same thing over and over again.

To go from transactional to transformational, it’s almost the same thing. You’re just shifting how you do it. Check this out to go. You go from to do to giving people clear outcomes

You give clear outcomes, you coach success like every one of you knows you can do, and as a result, you get leveraged results. And this is transformational because here’s what happens when you let the people on your team drive the outcome. The people on your team get better.

When you let the people on your team create results, the people on your team become more competent. And when you coach success for increasingly better and increasingly competent people, you get better.

This is a massive shift in our lives and when we make this shift, there’s no going back.

The next level. From leader to owner, we get up into the 10 million range.

So at 10 to 30 million, there’s only a hundred thousand in the United States.

You have to have a massive level of self-awareness to get to 50 million.

And so it’s a, and most $50 million CEOs are the first ones in the room to admit that they have vulnerabilities. And it’s usually the sub $100,000 people that are trying to hide ’em all. You’re just starting out, the faster you’re willing to put it out there, the faster it’s gonna get fix

In the previous level. You delegate success, which means you tell somebody to get you an outcome. In this level, you give up autonomy of time.

So at 10 to 30 million, you are now a liability if you’re choosing where to spend your time. If you’re setting up your own schedule, you’re making a massive mistake because at 10 to 30 million, your leadership team should know far more about what’s going on in the company and where you’re necessary than you do.

So if you’re at 10 to 30 million and you’re still dictating what you’re doing, that is your biggest issue. And the faster you can turn over autonomy of time to your team with rules, with a process, but the faster you can turn over autonomy of time, the faster the business will grow. The fallback question is now how does my team get further ahead?

Because at 10 to 30 million, the only importance you have is helping the team. The biggest value you bring to the company is coaching the team and expanding the team and growing the team. And the biggest need you have is scaling communication systems and decision making. Because now you have a far larger population of people where you need to scale your decision making and communication systems so that in this larger population of people, everyone in the company knows where you’re going.

It’s one of the hardest things to do, especially as you grow your business to hear, because anybody who’s been at 10 to 30 million, you know, you don’t even know your whole team.

You go from creating first at one to 3 million. You need to create that core team. The people are gonna help you get there.

Then at three to 10 million, you have to create a leadership team. Then at 10 to 30 million, you now have to create a second layer of leadership. So now things get crazy. You’re gonna be three or four steps removed from the entry level people on your team. And multiple layers of leadership is not an easy discipline to create, but that’s what gets you into the next level.

30 to a hundred million. In the USA, there are only 70,000 of these businesses. Your time is to coach and support your team to maximize their return on time. The fallback question becomes, how do we help others get ahead? Because at this level, you now can have an impact on businesses around you. You should be partnering, you should be doing joint ventures.

Your biggest need is scaling investment management and tracking systems, cuz now it’s not just about people, it’s about money, it’s about resources. It’s about making increasingly important decisions with less and less information. And to graduate from this level, you grow your leadership development system.

Because moving forward from 30 to a hundred million, your biggest resource that you need is leaders. You need leaders that make decisions like your company does. You need leaders who understand your culture. And then we get to the last level entrepreneur, a hundred million plus. There’s only 22,393 in the last census in the United States.

This is where you can invest and give away leverage time. The fallback question at this level is how do we help everyone? Because now you can get to that legacy place. The biggest need is to scale and build your scale, influence and contribution, and grow your legacy.

Too many entrepreneurs these days are working on legacy projects over here. Build your business. Because here’s the problem, if you haven’t done anything in business and you’re growing a legacy project, no offense, but nobody cares. But if you can go be successful in business and put money into your legacy project, everyone’s gonna listen.

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Samantha Buckley-Hugessen Interview | Uns*uck Yourself! | The Guide to Designing a Life You Love

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[00:00:00] Best Book Bits podcast brings you Samantha Buckley Hugessen the bestselling author of the book, unstuck Yourself, the Guide of Designing Our Life You Love. She’s a mentor and certified personal coach, having 30 years of successful leadership, sales, and training experience working with Fortune 500 companies, startups, and Samantha, thanks for being on the show.

[00:00:22] So grateful. Thanks for having. No worries. Now we’ll deep dive into your book soon, but take us back on your journey. Where did it all start? Talk to me about your early years and how you first started out. Wow. How early do you wanna go? Michael, do we wanna go back to childhood when I got all my best lessons or when I screwed up a lot and got all my other good lessons?

[00:00:41] Or wherever you want where, wherever you wanna start. I explained a little bit of this in the book, but I’m like a huge portion of society. I came from a really dysfunction. environment, and I was born in the sixties and therefore the seventies was latchkey kids. We pretty much were left our own devices all the time.

[00:01:00] And my mom was married seven times. Seven times, not even to the same person, like crazy. So a lot of dysfunction and things like that. And dropped outta school a couple of times. So the fact that. Became successful in business and became successful in writing a book is pretty, I still pat myself on the back for that one.

[00:01:25] Yeah. Thanks for sharing. And yeah, in the book, chapter one, you go through some of your struggles and one of the things that your mom taught you was you were the only one who can take responsibility of your life as well. So tell me about some of the lessons that you learned early on and some of the things that really stuck with you.

[00:01:38] I think what I, I learned because the way I learned that lesson is you learn a lot of what not to do. People really need to embrace the what not to do is also a gift. And it really was a gift for me of what not to do and what was modeled for me growing up was people not taking responsibility for their actions, always playing the blame.

[00:01:59] So when I started to go down a path, I realized that when you are blaming others, when you’re not taking responsibility, you have no control. And most of us would love to call ourselves, when self-proclaimed control freaks. So take responsibility of what’s yours, and then you can control it if you try and point it to somebody else or hand it to somebody else, now you’ve lost complete.

[00:02:24] Correct. Yeah, absolutely. In the book you talk about one decision can make all the difference, and I think one of the, one of the pet peeves you had was, making cash at the expense of losing all your time sucks too. Can you talk about when you quit your high paying job and you took your big, heavy 50 pound Dell computer and, sat at the gate at Dallas Fort Worth airport and made a simple list of all the things you wanted in your life by writing it down, how did everything turn out after that?

[00:02:50] Amazing. Amazing. Okay, so I’ll back up a little bit. When when I was little, I call it the woowoo now, we were raised in the woowoo, on hands, healers and, Mercury’s and retrograde, and it was that kind of an environment. So I really pushed away from, I pushed away from anything that wasn’t science proven in front of me.

[00:03:12] It was just, And then the odd thing is that literally, I was in my late twenties at that point and sat on the floor at the Dallas Fort Worth airport and I made a list of the things I really wanted for my life. And then boom, they all started happening. They all started it was like a magical request or broadcast I put to the universe.

[00:03:35] And that’s Life works, it’s responding to us and it’s on the vibration that we’re on. It’s on the thoughts that we’re on. It’s delivering on our request. And so that was my first big reminder of, oh yeah, this stuff works. I’ve been resisting it and this stuff really works. So life worked out really great.

[00:03:56] My list, I think I even listed out in the book delivered on everything except my husband, who, by the way, when I wrote the list, I had a boyfriend of four years. So the fact that literally 10 months later I had a husband who I’ve been with for 23 years and going. We’re shorter than me cause I’m six foot two, so I’m pretty tall and I like, I, like I said, that, that practice, the list changed your life forever, but you keep updating the list as you go as well.

[00:04:21] And yeah. Jumping into book, you talk about the book’s called Unstuck Yourself. First I wanna know how the title come up but first. . Tell me about signs that you are stuck. So people out there right now, they might be listening to saying, that’s great for you, your life is fantastic, but at the moment I’m stuck.

[00:04:37] What are the signs to tell that people are stuck in a rut or stuck in their life as well? Can you go through some of those? Yeah. I’ll tell you there’s one big one. It’s when you think what do I wanna do? What do I wanna have? What do I want to be? If those questions are posed to you and you answer, I don’t know, you’re clearly.

[00:04:55] clearly stuck. And that’s how the name of the book came along. That’s how the purpose of writing the book. I really wrote the book because I wanted to make an impact cuz I had people come into my office, which now my office is Zoom full-time. But they would come physically come into my office and I go, okay, how can you know I serve you today?

[00:05:14] What’s going on? Why are you here? I’m stuck. They would just say, I’m stuck. I don’t. . So that’s a really big indicator when you don’t know, cuz you do know by the way, what happens is if the questions are a asked properly and in an safe space environment by someone skilled who knows how to ask good questions.

[00:05:34] When we say, I don’t know, that’s just, that is purely, I just wanna stay right here where I am. It’s a defense mechanism cuz at some level we always. and we’ll get into how to unstuck your life in a sec. But the other ones that I got from was, lack of motivation. If you are feeling depression, anxiety, complacency, tired or lazy, wishing for more, but not taking action, fear, addiction to your story, meaning like your old story as well.

[00:06:01] And, okay, you got me. I’m stuck. Now what? Chapter two, I like how you have the analogy. God, which is the grand overall designer. Can you talk to me a little bit about chapter two and grand overall designer and what you mean by that? Again, this is hundreds if not thousands of hours of talking to my clients.

[00:06:19] And my own personal experience. I’m not a kid. I’m in my mid fifties, so been walking the planet for a while. The grand overall designer, I think that when we ask a question most people believe in, . They believe in a power that’s greater than them. It’s one of the questions on my intake that I do with my clients if I’m considering working, it’s like, what do you believe in?

[00:06:36] And no judgment. It’s do you believe in something greater than you? Do you believe in energy? Do you believe in science? Do you believe in a God? Do you believe in the beard and the white? Robe, where are we? And in the book I, cuz you saw. . I don’t have it memorized now, but there’s 356 different religions in the USA alone, something like that.

[00:06:58] But they all have a very, they all most have a very common thread. And it’s about decency and love and kindness, believe it or not. And taking responsibility and know that we’re not alone in this. And that’s a big message I always like to prepare people with. You’re not alone in this.

[00:07:12] Like when I made that, I didn’t run out and do all those things. I did take action toward ’em, but trust me, the things that were laid in my path was something bigger than me receiving my, my action steps and helping me. Yeah. I like how you dived into the WOOWOO stuff, as you said and you said before that, you grew up, everything was like science and it had to be factual until you actually had an experience and sometimes experience supersedes.

[00:07:38] Facts because the experience is the fact that it actually happened. And when you talk about our thoughts and physical things have different frequencies, you can’t deny that the, your response to life. Is life’s response to you, to a point. Obviously we’ve got external circumstances, but your internal antenna, depending where it’s directed, is the station you’re going to pick up as well.

[00:08:01] It’s the secret cops, a lot of flack, the law of attraction cops a lot of flack, but at the end of the day, your attitude does create your future self as well. So depending on how you want to adjust that as well. Call it vibration, call it woowoo, but yeah, your. are physical things which is great.

[00:08:17] You also talk about faith and how the role of faith plays in living successfully as well. What’s the other choice? You say fear. Can you talk a little bit about, how when you work with clients, how just changing fear to faith changes everything as well? Yeah. I think when peop when my clients are in fear, it’s because they don’t know how.

[00:08:37] and we can talk more about how later, because that’ll screw you over every time is trying to figure out the how, when you’re designing your life. So if you think of it as a coin, you flip it over. We have faith on one side. We have fear on the other side, fear is a waste of imagination and creativity.

[00:08:56] Now there’s very real fear. It’s hot. There’s a truck coming at me. We have. Fears. But if we energize those back to your point of we’re on a frequency, we’re on a vibration. If we energize fear, then we’re gonna get more of it and attract more of it. So faith is a belief that it’s possible to be different.

[00:09:19] And that’s where I tell people to lean in. It’s can you believe it’s possible? Is it possible that it would turn out positively? It’s possible. Great. Let’s hold on to that. . So I would say, if I was gonna give a message here is the biggest message I give is I do not suggest people deny the facts.

[00:09:40] If there’s something to be fearful of, don’t deny it. I’m not suggesting that we go, it doesn’t exist. But I am suggesting that we energize the truth, which is the possibilities. In chapter three, you talk about fluid thinking, and this is where you start to talk about condition, circumstances and dream it up as well.

[00:09:59] Can you talk to us a little about fluid thinking and how to get the early stages of becoming unstuck as well? That vision? So subconscious mind, and I know that you’ve heard this is pretty dumb. It’s really, subconscious mind is just storing memories and it believes what you. , and that’s, and it also doesn’t sleep, so let’s put it to work.

[00:10:18] It does, they say it’s, they say it’s active about 80% of the time. Who depends? I’m not a scientist, but I can tell you what I’ve read and the co correlations, that they, yeah. So let’s put it to work. So subconscious minds. If it’s working all the time as broadcasting, let’s put in what we want to attract.

[00:10:38] I talk about designing a life you love. So if we remove the C, the conditions and circumstances, so let’s just pretend that you had, the degree that you wanted or you had, you lived in the place you wanted, or you’re married to the person you wanted, or it, and those what I mean by conditions or circumstances because so many people get stuck with Yeah, but I don’t have the degree, I don’t have the letters after my name.

[00:11:00] I don’t have the money. I don’t live in a town that does that. I don’t, I can’t. I, those are conditions and circum. So if we just removed those and said, just, let’s just say you could, what would life look like, let’s say two, three years from now? There’s a reason I do it two or three years from now, Michael, because people limit themselves.

[00:11:19] If I said six months from now, what would you love? They’d go, oh, if I could make a little bit of an increase if I could lose 10 pounds they can’t think of what’s possible in this timeframe. So you give ’em. Window. It all worked out. What would you love in your life? What would it look like?

[00:11:37] And then they start visualizing it. And guess what? Their subconscious is now playing that recording all the time. Their subconscious is seen it that way. Therefore, now they’re starting to get more comfortable. Now they’re broadcasting. Universe comes in God’s spirit. Source, g o d. It’s magic. It feels like it, but I’ve been doing this exact work for more than a decade with my.

[00:12:02] And I didn’t invent it. You’re right. You mentioned the secret, you mentioned, you know that Yeah, we, this is a, this is methodology that’s been going on for centuries and centuries, and it’s listed, believe it or not, in the Bible, in the Talmud, in the Koran. All these types of things we talk about actually are spoken to in these major, religious.

[00:12:26] I was gonna say, it sounds a little about Bob Proctor who died recently, but 50 years. He was talking about, the subconscious mind, the conscious mind, the unconscious mind. But one thing that you said there about expanding timeframe for three years, I was gonna say 25 years, or even 13 years or something like obscure like that.

[00:12:41] Tony Robbins says, people underestimate what they can do in a decade, but they overestimate what they can do in one year. But if you expand it out to ridiculous and say, In 13 years, what do you want? And people will be like, oh, I can’t really think that. But that’s a long runway to get where you want to get to.

[00:12:58] And at the end of the day, what a lot of people don’t do, they’re not holding true to what they actually want. So they don’t list their values, they don’t list their goals, they don’t know exactly where you want, any of you don’t know where you. Where you want to go, you’re just gonna go around the compass.

[00:13:13] Never going north, never going straight to your direction of your dreams. That’s why having clear goals and high hard goals is so important, but also changing your state to get into the vibrational state where. You don’t have to work that hard if it’s getting attracted to you. And that’s the law of attraction.

[00:13:30] The law of attraction is getting to the state where things come to you instead of you going to them. So it’s state first, not, running through the bush with machete, trying to chop down everything. Just let it come to you as well. You also have to put out there, if I can add this, is that it’s that belief energy, because you can’t con the.

[00:13:47] You can’t conn it. So it’s just, what can I get behind? What can I believe? Because that’s the energy right there. Yes. Thoughts are things, everything has to be a thought before it comes a thing, but it’s really about, okay, what can I believe? And I do that with clients. I do, okay, so what’s the three year?

[00:14:05] Because usually they manifest and create, and I really hate the abuse of the word manifest, but it’s what. . They create and attract and draw to them what their visions were, their new story, the life. They’ve by design pretty damn fast. So again, I just give them that window so they can think. If you tell me five years, 10 years, and I’m not used to this thinking technology, this fluid thinking, it might overwhelm me.

[00:14:29] That’s how I. No, I get it. Yeah, I get it. I’ll just give the listeners some examples that you put in the book as well. Cause they might be thinking, how do I actually talk to myself about these type of things? So some ideas, examples of loves and how you could get more specific in each of the categories.

[00:14:43] So career and creative expression. Talk about work I would love to do and or ways I want to use my special hobbies and gifts, health and this includes physical spiritual, and mental health. I would love to learn, oh, sorry. I’d love to be lean, strong and healthy. I would love to be working with a coach and going to church regularly.

[00:15:01] Time, money and freedom. I love to travel and vacation six weeks a year. My house is paid for, got enough money to live in ways, love in relationship. My partner and I have fun loving super communicators. So basically talking to yourself about things you want. In the future, but talking to yourself in the present as well.

[00:15:18] And one thing I like you had in the book was an example of a completed list. So on the one side you’ve got things that you love and the other side you’ve got things that you not really. So writing things down in your day-to-day. Can you talk about that and how important it is to actually get clear about what you said before?

[00:15:35] It was things. What not to do. The power of what not to do. Can you talk about that? Cuz I think that’s really important. No one takes the time to actually talk about what they don’t want to do, right? So again, it’s not denying the facts, it’s energizing the truth. So it’s amazing. I just got part.

[00:15:52] When my clients work with me, they do a course and then they also do privates 1 0 1 and I have them send me their written vision, which is what you’re discussing, talking about right now. And someone just sent it to me and there’s a few things in there. It’s really cool. And the idea, the vision is, okay, it’s three years from now or whatever period of time they chose, it all worked out.

[00:16:11] Describe your life to me. This is the thing, we have to be very careful with our. , right? The stand at the portal of your mind, Henry David Thoreau. Is that Henry David Thoreau, I think it is. Anyways, basically it might not be, it might be Emerson, but they’re two very smart people, so you have to be careful of your words, so you don’t sit there and say, oh, I don’t wanna be in pain anymore.

[00:16:35] Because what comes to your mind when I say that, Michael?

[00:16:42] I don’t wanna be in debt anymore. I’m debt free. What comes, what stands in your mind? So if words have a frequency, I don’t believe, they’ve done those tests where they have like the kids where they go and they talk nice to a plant or a piece of bread, or rice and then they talk terrible and mean to another.

[00:16:58] I don’t think that rice or plants or bread knows the difference between, a nice word and a bad word. It’s the. . Okay. So it’s the same thing. What’s hanging in our mind is I say, oh, I wanna be debt free. I’m so excited, I’m debt free. It’s all I hear is debt. So now I’m resonating at this low frequency.

[00:17:16] So when you list out your loves and your nds, so the cool thing about the K nds, let’s just use work for example. Oh, I don’t wanna commute six, three hours a day, or I don’t wanna work for a jerk boss, or I, don’t want to struggle. , there’s a flip side to that. Okay. So if you don’t wanna commute three, three hours a day, what do you want?

[00:17:38] I’d like to work remotely and, just go into the office a couple days a week. Great. Then you cross out, don’t wanna commute three hours a day and move it over to the love story. And that’s when we start design. . If you don’t wanna work for a jerk boss, what do you want? I want autonomy.

[00:17:55] I want with some, to work with somebody I admire that develops me, that, admires my skills. Great. So cross out the jerk boss. And now on the love side, I’m so grateful and you act as if I’m so grateful I work with these amazing people. So what happens is that this vision becomes part of a morning practice that we actually.

[00:18:16] And we tell the subconscious mind and we see it in our mind when things are showing up out of alignment. For that, we start taking action to create it as we want. You know what? If I really don’t want to commute three hours a day, what? What’s a thing I could do today? There’s the action piece.

[00:18:36] What’s the thing I could do today in the direction of that? Doesn’t have to be the perfect answer, just an. I can go talk to my boss about working remotely. I can leave this job. I could, blah, blah, blah. and it’s also warming up. Old cars need warming up. You would run the car for a bit before you actually drove the car.

[00:18:54] It’s similar to that in terms of, warm your subconscious mind up into the conscious to be aware of what you want and what you don’t want as well. And God’s way of staying anonymous is staying anonymous and sometimes things. Time. So you need to understand that the universe or you, yourself, your, that doesn’t happen overnight, but slowly things come into place just like a jigsaw.

[00:19:17] So put the edges of the jigsaw together and let God grant overall designer you, the universe, the let everyone conspire with you to put the pieces together. But you are the one that has to put the container together. You are the one that needs to know the edges and what you actually want as well, because.

[00:19:33] you never aspire you, you never going to achieve more than what you believe. You’re not gonna be a billionaire if you don’t believe you’re going to be a billionaire. You’re not gonna be a millionaire if you don’t believe you’re gonna be a millionaire because the belief comes first. Moving on chapter four, we talk about comeback from the future.

[00:19:48] And you talk about this great thing called what if. But first, one of the great quotes in there is freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky. And you ask, what if I fall, oh, but my darling, what if you fly? Now that’s huge. Everyone thinks about what is, if you fail, what is, if you succeed, like God damn.

[00:20:07] Like I was having a conversation with some guys, some coaching clients yesterday, and they’re like, oh, I want to start investing in a house and do this and that, and they’re really young. I was like, why don’t you just focus on the business that you’ve got at the moment, make sure that’s successful, and then five years time you can buy anything you want.

[00:20:23] So just, focus on. Focus on succeeding first before buying the things that maybe will make you look like you’re a success, but you’re not a true success until you’ve got, the life and freedom you want. But yeah. Moving on. So can you talk to me about what if and the power of what if in what if?

[00:20:39] What in, I’m gonna come through the back door on that one. So the idea of come back from the future, it sounds counter. to what this whole visioning process is. We have a story, we have a past, but we’re designing our life. So the type of coach I am, and the purpose of this book is let’s look through the windshield of your car.

[00:21:02] Stop looking in the rear view. We’re going forward. You know what I mean? Your life is, your future is ahead of you, not behind you. So we stopped looking back. So what happens though is a lot of people get stuck in anxiety. The what ifs. That’s. The energy around it. So if you get into the what if it works out?

[00:21:17] What if it doesn’t work out? What if? And it’s how we, so a couple things. When we’re doing that vision, and I was talking earlier about how you really, it’s an exercise that you see it in your mind. You put it on, you smell it, you feel it. Subconscious mind will make it that transition so much easier because it thinks it how is how things are already.

[00:21:37] Does that make sense? Yeah. It thinks it’s how a life is. It dials down the fear. And yeah, I think what you were speaking to as far as your client is a bit of sabotage, a little bit of posing, little bit of being naive and what have you, because people have fear of success. What will I lose my friends?

[00:21:55] Will they think differently of me? You know what, if I have it all and that I lose it and I look like a fraud, there’s a lot around. And of course feel of failure. We all know that fear of failure is ego. You just haven’t learned that failure’s feedback yet, that you’re you learn by doing.

[00:22:12] Correct. And it, yeah, and without doing, you’re not gonna get the feedback as well. And that’s also the importance we’re both coaches and we know that at the end of the day, some people just need a mirror or some self-reflection or someone that can tell them the truth of what they know or someone to just point them in the direction where they, oh, come.

[00:22:28] I’m so thankful. Getting that feedback is the missing thing. I call it info porn people just all day on the internet. Podcast after podcast, YouTube after YouTube book after book information. But if that information isn’t directed to you, meaning the feedback, you can just go around and it’s be on this info porn wheel where it’s not changing your life.

[00:22:50] You think it, you think you’re getting something. But at the end of the day, people change, people. Information doesn’t change. People won’t get. to the people who are creating the information, not just the information. One of the great notes I got from the book was changing how to, what’s next? And I really love that because it’s like, what’s next?

[00:23:07] What’s next? You don’t need to know how, it’s like, what do I need to do next? And I struggle with that daily being someone who’s got so much on the go. It’s like today, starting work soon. work from home myself. Like you on Zoom. What’s my double minute evaluation? What’s next? What do I actually do with my time?

[00:23:23] what’s next? Great little thing now and yeah, the only thing, the other one is the only time is now which is great. And the only difference between planning to start and starting how important it is for people to plan and just to start and create that vision thing. So what’s some of the steps you would say, you coaching a client, now you’re stuck.

[00:23:38] What’s the first thing they should do or. First three things they should do to start the process of moving forward. One, hire coach , a vision coach a good one, two would be to decide for what you want and it makes a decision if in the Webster’s dictionary, a few years ago when I was doing the research for this book, I looked it up and the word decide, like the third example of the word decide is to cut away.

[00:24:03] So when you make a decision, you cut away from anything that is not in alignment with that decision. It’s not a try, it’s a do. And the, to lead into the next thing about that it’s do it imperfectly, stop waiting for perfection. Huge block for most people. I’ll do it when I have all the information.

[00:24:23] I’ll do it when it’s perfect, I’ll, procrastination is usually perfection in disguise. We’re not gonna do it. Perfect. , but if we don’t do it, then we’re never gonna get do it perfectly . Yeah, I think that’s super. I think that’s super important. Can you tell us about your, tell us about your personal journey on ask the question, take action.

[00:24:43] And for years you wanted a house in Mexico, the finance with US and Canada. How did you manifest the life and where you’re living now? Okay, so I live in this cute little town. You may have heard it. Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. And moved here 15 years ago. Now, a lot of expats live here, but it wasn’t really like that when I moved here.

[00:25:07] Bottom line is that I’m very pragmatic in the sense that I’m, I make sure my duction a row. Don’t get me wrong, I’m, I make mistakes all the time. I screw up all the time and I don’t have a problem with. , but I make sure my ducks in arose. So I got financing to buy a house when, from a US bank when we moved here, so I could own my house.

[00:25:29] Cause I had a house up in Canada at the time in Whistler, British Columbia. So not ready to sell that cuz I didn’t know if we were gonna stay here. So it was like I’m not gonna get rid of my home if we’re not gonna stay here. Long story short, how this worked out is. got a loan. We had a loan for the house.

[00:25:48] House didn’t work out. Disappointing. It wasn’t us. We had the money, we were, it was something on the developer’s side. Went and went for another house. Same thing. Went for another house, same thing. And these were over the course of a couple of years. Like it wasn’t, we’re near a hot market and the deals fall through.

[00:26:05] This was just the weirdest thing till I finally just went. , there’s something going on here. I just need to pay attention. I, there’s something going on. I’m getting too much resistance. Pay attention to the resistance. It doesn’t mean quit, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t meant to have a house. It’s just something else is going on.

[00:26:22] So you back up and say, okay, what would I love? I would love to have a house with a View The Sea of Cortez, and with a pool, and I want it to be white with high ceilings, big windows. So I put that in my vision and I put it as if I already. So every morning I’d read, I’m so happy and grateful now that I have this incredible house, big windows beautiful garden, private swimming pool in an ocean view.

[00:26:42] Then you start saying, okay, so if that’s true, what’s some things I could do ? And so I started asking the person who I rented from, you wanna sell your house? Cuz I found out I lived in the house. I wanted, I didn’t realize that I was rent. the place and he was like, yeah, I’ll sell it to you for this price.

[00:27:03] I go, it’s not worth that price, but that’s what I paid for it. I go, but it’s not worth that price. It’s worth what someone’s willing to pay for it. Sorry, the market tanked and it’s not worth that. And it was just a whole bunch of nos. Okay, we’ll just sit with it. It’s fine then keep looking around.

[00:27:16] Long story short, I ended up buying the house I live in for half of what the big cost of build it.

[00:27:25] the seller carried the note, which was also unheard of at that time in this country, at a reasonable interest rate. You know what’s a thing I could do today? I could email the seller , wondering if they wanna carry the note. That’s what I mean about how, we let go of the how and we energize the what’s a thing?

[00:27:43] And it doesn’t have to be perfect, it’s just a thing. Just a question. Yeah. Everyone can write a list of. What they can do next or what they can do today. And I’ll read a little quote from the book you talk about. Always take action. Don’t worry about it. Just know it’s going to happen. And ask, what can I do today?

[00:28:01] What can I do now? There’s always something. A lot of times you must rely on God’s spirit, universal source reveal to you, but they can’t reveal it to you until you get further down the path. So you don’t need to. How you’re going to get there. It’s okay, what is that one step you can take? Today, I call the analogy of kicking the soccer ball down the road.

[00:28:20] So every day if you kick the soccer ball in one year, if you look back, you’d kick it so bloody far that it’s, you’re so far away from where you started. And that’s all you gotta do is just keep walking a little bit every day and you are gonna make up the steps as well. So we’ve covered the future, but we’re gonna go back into the past now.

[00:28:37] So chapter five, you talk about therapist, is the past. Leave it there. If you’re depressed, you’re living in the past. If you’re anxious, you’re living in the future. If you’re at peace, you’re living in the present. Can you talk to me about the value of the past and how reflection you can use the past to invest in your future?

[00:28:52] Absolutely. The past is your experience and experience is invaluable. I, it’s, good, bad, whatever. It’s how you wanna think about it, how you wanna look. . There’s a gift in all of it. As ugly as it can be, and as beautiful as it can be a gift. Some people hold onto how good things were they fantasize, and therefore they don’t get to move forward because they’re always comparing to the past, always comparing, you know what?

[00:29:17] Create a future that you love. Stop looking backwards. . The reason I got inspired to write that chapter has a lot to do with people holding onto their drama stories, which was stopping them. A lot of it was, you don’t know what happened to me. You don’t know my story, Sam. Okay, tell me your story. If you feel that I need to know your victim story, then bring it.

[00:29:38] It’s fine. I’ll, we’ll spend the hour and I’ll listen to you, but next time we’re gonna talk about what we do here, where we draw a line in the sand and we move forward. And you can bless your past and you can, visit it, but you don’t get to live there. Not when you’re working with me and not if you’re trying to design your life.

[00:29:52] The beautiful thing about that, I’ve been journaling for 15 years and recently I was reading my journal on this time last year, and then I had a coaching client yesterday and she told me the thing that I was thinking. She said, I look back in my journals and my goals and the two things I wish I did.

[00:30:06] I wish I thought bigger because I hit the goals that I hit, but the goals were too small. And I was like, yes. And that was one of the things that I was struggling with for a decade. Every year I would make these goals and I would hit half of them. and they were just small. And I look back now, and I don’t even read journals back more than three years ago, because I was a different person.

[00:30:26] And I know because my thinking was too small and my actions were too small. I’m only interested in, the last year or two years ago, meaning I get the wins, I get the small successes, but I’m still thinking small. So I need to think bigger so my actions can be greater. And that’s, and if you just keep living in the.

[00:30:46] You’re not your past anymore. You need to be thinking about your future through there. Past memories, hurt, relationships, suffering. Many times we are stuck in that particular story as well. You just gotta get over it as well. So talk to us about some exercises to step into the present and some, what are some ideas or beliefs from the old stuff and how you can reframe as well, and what’s the importance about that as well?

[00:31:07] Yeah. Yeah. So a lot of it. The, so if we’re gonna look at the past, I mentioned a lot of this already where we just say, listen, that was a gift. I’m so grateful for that experience and being gratitude even for the sucky ones. And that’s what people, they think that they can only be in gratitude for the really yummy, delicious ones.

[00:31:25] Being gratitude for the sucky ones. I just got off with a client and as I mentioned the top of our call today, or is, my childhood wasn’t ideal. . Oh my gosh. This client’s her crazy, her family’s crazy and it’s okay cuz most of us have a crazy families. And we were talking about horrible experiences and things like that, but we, she’s a phenomenal parent as a result of this.

[00:31:49] So it’s one of those things where we bless it and move on. So if we’re blessing our experiences, so grateful I had that. There’s another piece of this. When people mourn the past, they constantly mourn the experience. They mourn that it’s , let me help you change your vibration on this.

[00:32:04] So here’s a tool. You had it once, you will have it again. Be open to it, but if you’re holding onto it, there’s no room to receive it. Let it go. Great. Did it once. Do it again. Been happy before. Be happy again. Had money before can create abundance again. And it’s those taking actions and I can’t express this.

[00:32:28] You have to talk in the present tense as I am. I have, I feel not. I want not. I wish not, past. It’s, I am so grateful. I have so grateful. I feel right. I’m so grateful. I am subconscious mind believes you and starts firing the cells and the energy and the vibrations. It’s really killer. So if you wanna design your.

[00:32:55] You take the experience you have from the past and you put it on paper the way you want it to look in the future. And dropping. It’s really important. One of the stories, I, one of the things that my brain came to a story was a Buddhist story of a student goes to the monk and stay says, I wanna learn from you.

[00:33:12] You’re so wise. You’re you’re a monk. You’ve been doing this for decades. Let me learn. And the monk says, give me your cup. And he holds his cup out. And the monk just pour water, and the water overfills the cup, and the monk keeps pouring. And the student’s what are you doing? He goes, I. The analogy is you need to empty your cup first.

[00:33:30] You need to empty your cup first before I can give you knowledge. So the knowledge in Buddhism, like I study Buddhism, it’s not what I can teach you. It’s what you can drop and become an empty ve come an empty vessel where, and this is the power of journaling. So every night I’ll journal just to get the day outta my head onto paper.

[00:33:48] I can sleep right, but I can analyze it as well because yesterday’s dead. and it’s there. It’s moved out. So I’m empty. I’m not clogged up with thoughts, feelings, oh, this happened, that I’m not trying to work things out in my head. I’ll use my. As a clear, as a clear, empty antenna station, don’t use your head as a stor.

[00:34:05] Don’t use your head as a storage unit or a trashcan. Get it out. So that’s one of the things that I, and that’s the past. So you don’t want to accumulate past, in your head, put past in a journal. Put it on paper, focus on the future. Keep your mind empty for the day, and yeah you’ll feel better for it.

[00:34:20] So that’s one of the most therapeutic things I’ve ever done is the power of journaling as well. Yeah. The tea keeps pouring and it’s come back when your cup isn’t full. Correct. Yeah. Drop dropping desires is probably the best desire you can have as well. So you want happiness. Stop trying to get something to be happy and be happy in the present.

[00:34:39] And then here’s funny. So up to chapter six. The only time is now, Jim Roh says Happiness is not something. You postpone for the future. It’s something you designed for the present. He’s one of my major mentors in life as well. The guy who actually taught Tony Robbins. You talk about a couple things and I’ll go through it.

[00:34:54] You talk a bit about the leaning approach. Pick up the phone, make the call. That’s the best take the charge outta the situation. Lean into fear and procrastinate. Paralysis as well. You wanna expand on there? No, I think that was pretty, your self-explanatory. Just lean in and. I give the example in that chapter where, I’ve got a strong background in business and sales and, people don’t do things out of fear and fear, hope for gain, fear of loss, blah, blah, blah.

[00:35:17] And I, I’ve literally, many times, I’m an accountability partner for my clients. That’s the biggest thing I do for my clients, is I’m their accountability partner. So come our appointment on Tuesday. If they haven’t done something they said they’re gonna do, it’s okay, I’ll wait. Pick up the phone, let’s go lean in.

[00:35:33] It’s pull back the curtain. It’s there. It’s just a little guy behind the curtain in the Wizard of Oz. It’s not this great, huge thing. I actually watched The Wizard of Oz last week. It’s funny enough, and yeah, the whole story’s an analogy of there’s no one behind the curtain.

[00:35:48] And it’s a little old man, holding the strings and, okay. There’s something else really cool about that though, that pertains to our conversation today, is that they were told in the beginning that there’s this, Emerald City, right? They’d never seen it. They were just told Fall the yellow brick.

[00:36:06] They’d never seen it, but they believed it was there and they believed that their solution was there. And so no matter what happened, flying monkeys, witches, whatever, didn’t matter. They just knew it existed. Therefore, they persisted. That’s the purpose of having a vision. It’s there. It’s there.

[00:36:23] How you get there. Just keep going because it already exists in, in, yeah. Quantum physics. It’s already. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Now, I’ll let the audience buy the book and read the book, but I won’t go through every single chapter. But one of the great things I got from the book, which was cool, you talk about Get a pimp, can you talk to me about getting a pimp in there and what that means as well.

[00:36:44] And that’s in the chapter of you can start right now, chapter nine. Yeah. I did it obviously for humor, so you know, you have to lighten up if you’re gonna read this book. A bit Pimp, powerful, important Morning Practice. Some people do it at night, which is fine. I find that to be a little bit more advance.

[00:36:59] When people can do it at night or do both, but I made the Ackerman so people would remember. Powerful, important morning practice. So I have a menu in the book of things that you can do to get yourself set up for your day, to get clear, to start manifest. You start creating, start designing every single day.

[00:37:17] And that’s the soul food menu when you talk about gratitude, meditation, breathing exercises, intention, affirmations, visualization and journaling. I, it’s funny enough, I’ve actually semi-retired now. So like yourself, I’m just a stay at home dad with a couple kids. My, my wife works. She looks after me.

[00:37:34] Great. But one of the things now I’ve got time on my hands, so I’m putting these things into practice, so I’d never had the time to meditate. So I’m gonna start meditating, breathing exercises. I’ve gone off and on and off on that, but I’m going to do that bit of yoga, stretching, intention, affirmations, and visualization.

[00:37:51] And I’ve been journaling and gratitude as well. So those that’s a great meal for the morning. Now that might take 15 minutes, but that’s a good breakfast. So maybe push breakfast out a bit and your breakfast could be a one minute of gratitude. Five minutes of meditation, three minutes of breathing two minutes of intention and affirmations, visualization, and maybe a two minute, a quick journal of, writing your future story out.

[00:38:12] So could be as simple as 15 minutes, or it could be an hour and a half, depending on how you wanna do. And it could be just two of those things for now, so people don’t get overwhelmed. Yeah, that’s right. Yeah. Or it could be, or it could be like Monday we do gratitude. Tuesday we do meditation, Wednesday we do whatever it is just, yeah, I think it’s great to put yourself into that particular state as well.

[00:38:33] Yeah, and I give great examples in that chapter as well. All right. So what we’re gonna do, we’re gonna leave the book, we’re gonna park the book there, and I’ll get audience can read it and we’ll shout out through there. We’re gonna jump into what they call a rapid fire questions. I’m gonna throw out some questions for you and you gimme some rapid fire questions.

[00:38:49] Where did you grow up? Seattle, Washington, usa. Cool. And what’s something people seem to misunderstand about you? I’m six two because they don’t usually see me standing up. What’s the favorite thing about where you live? The people and the. . And if you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be? My dad.

[00:39:07] And what’s one thing you can’t live without? Wine. Wine. That’s like my wife. When I was younger. You wanted to be? A cop and a psychologist. Cool. You’re inspired by? My children. What’s the one person who motivates you? My children. You could change anything in the world. What would it be? Distribution. What was your first job?

[00:39:29] I cleaned the meat department in a grocery store, the butcher department in a grocery store when I was 12 years old. I worked in a I was making plastic frisbees when I was 14 on a summer hot. I dunno, ask me anyway. Yeah. Advice you would give, advice you would give the world that they would stop doing?

[00:39:44] So advice you would give the world to stop doing, stressing out about uncontrollable things. It’s all working out. It always. That was another advice my dad said. He had said, stop worrying about things you can’t control. And I’d scream at the news when I was young. I’d scream at the news. What’s one of your pet peeves?

[00:40:01] People whining about their victim stories. Cool. A favorite quote. Good things happen to good people. Doing good things. What’s one of your favorite productivity hacks? Calendarizing. Calendarizing. What do you mean by that? Everything goes in a calendar. I don’t have to-do lists. Everything goes into calendar.

[00:40:17] So if I have a to-do list, you know I’m gonna do this. Everything goes into a cal. Got it. Okay. A couple last ones as well. Where can listeners find you online? Www designed life l c or any Instagram as a designed life or everything is a design life llc. I, the book’s on Audible as well. Put it in the show notes and links there as well.

[00:40:39] Where are you most active on social media? Facebook. I’m old. I like the old. And what’s one YouTube channel or podcast show that you would recommend? Others? How about best book bits? Yeah. That’s cool. Yeah, it’s a good channel. What’s what’s one book or one author in the past that’s changed your life?

[00:40:56] Wallace d Wattles but there’s a trilogy and so people should listen to the trilogy. Second last question. What is your hidden talent? I’m actually a really good dancer and singer. That’s all. That’s awesome. And last, what’s next for you? You inspired me. I think that we might do a book, just so you know.

[00:41:15] Cuz I’m better at it now and I’m wiser at it now. And I would just speak what I think a lot clearer. Cool. I’m doing my second book as well. It’s called Fat to Fit Journey. I’m trying to get over this health thing. I’ve been yo-yo dieting for so long, so next year it’s going it’s going live.

[00:41:30] So looking forward to that. But Samantha, thank you. Yeah, it’s cool. It’s a holistic journey on, on Health. Thank you for being a guest on the Best Book Bits podcast. I hope my audience got a lot out of this. Please, for my audience, I’ll put the link below. But go out and get this book called Unstuck Yourself.

[00:41:46] It’s not unf yourself, it’s unstuck yourself to guide to designing a life that you love. So Samantha, thank you again for being a guest and enjoy the rest of your day in Mexico. Thank you so much. Beautiful. And I’ll speak. Cheers. Bye.

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[00:00:00] Best Book Bits podcast brings you, Leo Richard, a personal development expert, energy coach, and spiritual teacher with over 65,000 hours of spiritual practice and 35,000 plus client hours. Leo, thanks for being on the show. Hey Michael, thanks for having me here and bringing me onto your stage and getting in touch with your audience here.

[00:00:19] It’s great. Thank you. No worries. Now we’ll jump into your story but take us back to your early years, how you got started, and how you got involved in this field. Gets on a heavy side here. I’ll keep it some brevity and some lightness and stuff like that, but when I was a teenager I was getting into a lot of trouble, so this is three decades ago, so I’m just dating in myself now, but.

[00:00:38] So when I was 17 I had a friend died of a Coke overdose, and it was I was getting into trouble. And then this was a person who didn’t do heavy drugs and she was indigenous in Canada here there’s a lot of issues with between the RCMP investigations and indigenous stuff. They, there’s if she was indigenous, it must have been an overdose, but she did actually do the drugs.

[00:00:59] My assumption is that she was murdered. Someone, did something like that. So it was a pretty heavy moment in my life. And I went to her wake, which is basically like an open casket and you see the person’s body and stuff like that. And I don’t know if it was my eyes playing tricks on me or if it actually happened, so it doesn’t really matter.

[00:01:15] But when I was looking at her face, her eyes popped open and closed back up. And like I am, had a reputation being a. Pretty rough guy. That kind of stuff. Here I am running out of this funeral, bawling my eyes after seeing that, and that was the moment that I shifted my entire life. When I was a kid in elementary school, the teachers used to make a joke of me about how long I could stay still, and my record was like three and a half seconds.

[00:01:42] And so I decided from that something about not being able to stay still. So I decided to just sit. and just turn inward. I didn’t know meditation at the time, but that’s essentially what meditation is in a certain way from 30,000 feet off the ground. So I actually started teaching myself meditation when I was 17.

[00:02:00] I got out of the scene in two days, quit everything I was doing and just started meditating when I was 17 after this kind of weird eye-opening kind of experience, if you. , and that’s a pun there as well, but , yeah. So that’s the kind of start of it. And then I’ve got a few other kind of life overhauls or a couple other life overhauls I’ve gone through in my life that really reinforced personal development and, all that kind of space.

[00:02:23] Yeah. Awesome. Yeah, definitely an eye-opening experience for you. Anyone would’ve been shocked to see a dead person open their eyes and, yeah. Ti. Paradigm changing. Yeah. So after seven, after 17 meditating, what did you do in your early twenties and how did you get started in the field? Sure.

[00:02:40] I went to a natural health college and the dean at the school invited some meditation teachers. To come in and teach. The DM is concerned that as a practitioner, as a healer, whatever you tend to absorb your client’s emotions and energy. So if say someone’s like really high anxiety, you can start to experience that or process that at night or whatever, and all sorts of things can happen.

[00:03:01] So she wrote these teachers in that actually taught energy-based tools to learn how to deal with that and so that you don’t absorb it or take it on. And if you happen. , then you can release it and find like an easy way to get it out of your system. So soon as I discovered that I did, I finished my college degree with that, but I ran with meditation stuff and I ended up doing a seven year program in meditation energy work in about three years.

[00:03:24] I was such a keener, I guess like a meditation nerd I guess. Yeah. And I started doing that, and then I started going into the entrepreneurials world and self being self-employed and working through that and making a business function and thrive. Yeah. Yeah. That’s fascinating. Can you circle back to absorb client energy and how do you actually, how do you block that?

[00:03:45] What’s the essence of that? So people listening, what’s one takeaway that they could use? Obviously we deal with energy every day and. Society. So two ways this happens, you have something in your brain that’s called mirror neurons. If you’ll, so someone around you is feeling a certain way, you’ll tend to match that.

[00:04:00] So that’s one example. I did go into cutting edge neurotech as one of the top three there, top three techs in the world for this cutting edge neurotech amongst Neuroimmunologist and neurologists and in the works. And my ability to read patterns and numbers and stuff helps me with that. But anyways, the other aspect of this,

[00:04:19] And so sometimes you can be around, say a crowd of people, maybe like in LAX is known for being like horrific energy. So a Los Angeles airport or being a zoo, everything’s just like chaotic, right? And you can start to find yourself matching that chaos or the negativity that’s around the world or the crises or whatever’s going on and.

[00:04:39] So basically what happens is you come permease, you start to absorb it, it starts to come into your space and you start to feel the chaos the experiences around you, maybe whatever. There’s all sorts of examples that I could go into with that. And so I teach a tool to essentially few tools to essentially I guess vacuum it out of your space.

[00:04:56] So it’s not like it’s like. inner housekeeping. So you’ll clean your home once a week, every couple weeks, whatever. But very few people know how to actually clean their personal space. They don’t give themselves a daily shower, but they’ll have a shower every single day kind of deal. But, so I teach quite a number of different tools, energy-based tools.

[00:05:15] There’s over 400 tools they teach to manage your energy system, manage stress, deal with energies, emotions, learn how to in my opinion, limiting beliefs, for example. are actually an energetic phenomenon, and I teach people how to like, suck that out or vacuum it out if you will, so that you’re not like having to quote unquote reprogram yourself.

[00:05:34] You’re just getting rid of it in that kind of regard. So that’s essentially the basis of it. But there’s a number of tools that I teach with that. But the basic aspect is you have something that lets it in and so there’s a hole or a void or some sort of, you could think of a squatter when there’s nobody living in your.

[00:05:50] Squatters can move in and you have no idea. But when you own a home, there’s less likelihood of. Squatters moving in. So I teach people how to kick the squatters out, if you will. Dan’s really fascinating thanks for sharing. Yeah you’ve taught so many clients over the years and done so many hours of spiritual practice.

[00:06:04] What are the, some of the top reoccurring themes from clients and what do they talk about in terms of. Some of their challenges, problems and some of the solutions that you come up with. What are some of the habitual things that you see come across time and time again? There’s a couple areas where it really comes into and what I call their, your happiness ceiling.

[00:06:21] So in a lot of circles, people will call it the glass ceiling. Have you ever heard that expression where there’s okay so I consider that an energetic ceiling. You’re having this, so having this is your ability to comfortably occupy the same space with something. So for example, Common on these days as wealth, their money, your finances.

[00:06:38] And so if you can’t actually have it, if you will, then you can’t actually have it. That just makes sense. You might get it, but you’ll lose it because you can’t actually have it. And so teach. So that’s one of the things, and that could be around relationships, that could be, or like the big four, health relationships, career and finance.

[00:06:54] So those are usually the big four, right? And so I teach people how to raise their happiness so that they can actually have what they actually want. They can imagine it all, they want do all this, law of attraction or envisioning or whatever, but they can’t actually have it. They’re not gonna actually, Okay.

[00:07:11] Okay. That’s a big, pretty strong one. I also do a lot of like boundaries work, like relationship work with boundaries so that you got like pops psychology boundaries, say no. That’s pretty standard out there. But there’s also energetic boundaries. So when people spend a lot of time with other people, you tend to absorb other people’s energies or their ideas or start to mirror them.

[00:07:31] There’s a lot of merit to the point of you’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. There’s, that’s pretty strong, the self-help space, personal development. So you wanna be mindful of who you’re around. I emphasize who you think about the most. And I, and so if you’re spending a lot of time thinking about.

[00:07:45] Right now on Twitter, everybody’s thinking about Elon Musk, and so they’re all like associating in their thinking. Elon Musk. So are they all gonna become billionaires? Probably not, but there’s an aspect of, they’re all that association of like, what’s going on. with that aspect.

[00:07:58] And so who you’re thinking about, the five people you think about the most tends to create the sum of what your life is going to be like. So if you’re always thinking about family problems or if you’re in a conflict with your spouse or whatever issues, and you’re constantly thinking about that’s gonna be a sum of what’s going on in your life.

[00:08:14] Yeah, we get surrounded by the echo chamber on what’s happening online and offline too, so very, yeah, very true. Couple oddball questions for you as well, doing some research on yourself. One of the questions I’ve got for you is how masculinity within spirituality has been lost. Can you talk about, can you talk about that without getting into prejudice or judgments?

[00:08:35] What’s right and what’s wrong? Just listen to the whole thing here. Most meditation, self-help, personal development comes from an Eastern philosophy. And Eastern dynamics tend to be more feminine in terms of the energy. Like yoga is very feminine, it’s very flow, very much like that.

[00:08:50] For example, Buddhism tends to be passive, which tends to be, I’m not talking about gender, I’m talking about like the energy of like feminine masculine tends to be more femini feminine. I, what I teach is actually a Western based practice, or a good chunk of it comes from Western based, like ancient lost lot of western.

[00:09:08] Mystical knowledge and wisdom has been lost. It’s been, it was destroyed by the Crusades and the Catholic church and all that kind of stuff. Witch burnings and all that kind of stuff. So masculine energy has transformed Western culture into more of a warrior military aggress. As like what masculine energy is.

[00:09:30] And if you go into like British language of gentlemen like that is a masculine energy and being a gentleman, being like confident, being strong, being, having manners right and that kind of stuff. And so there’s a lot, I think there’s an argument psychologically in the world right now, but what masculine energy is, and I think there’s a new version of what masculine energy is becoming.

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[00:09:50] It’s like more of a modern version. A feminine men or, but like a strength, like masculine energy, in my opinion, it holds a container for feminine energy. And feminine energy is chaotic. It. It is. And it’s natural and healthy that way. Creative energy is chaotic energy. For example, like you give an artist permission to go crazy, an art board.

[00:10:12] It’s chaos. There’s a lot of chaos there, right? But the masculine energy gives it a container for it to grow and expand. It’s of like guide. But it’s not aggressive either, which is one of the things that we’ve lost in our society. A lot of people think healthy, masculine energy is aggressive, and then in spiritual circles it’s very dominated by feminine energy, regardless of your gender and stuff like that.

[00:10:35] And so there isn’t really, in my opinion, an opinion. Or or healthy masculine and spiritual energy in the world in my, that, that is at least mainstream in my take. And there’s a lot of reasons for that. . Okay. I could give you the background and the psychological sense of it. If you think about men over the past few, 2, 3, 400 years with the industrial age, men used to always be at the home with like faring or like they’re raising, they’re involved with raising their sons specifically and talking about genders now.

[00:11:03] But they ended up going to the factories, the farm. So they were there from seven in the morning, seven at night, and they were begged at the end of the day. So they didn’t. Pass on their knowledge, if you will, on, on a male level. And then you come into World War I, world War ii, where men would go off, they would get killed cuz it was war, right?

[00:11:20] And then, so the boys were raised at home by a mother’s ideal about what male means. And then you got the forties, fifties. where women were pro redominantly, the teachers, so they were raising boys in the sense of their version of masculine energy. Then you had the feminist movement, which basically said, we’re equal and we don’t need you.

[00:11:41] So men have completely lost their place on a society level, on a masculine level. Now I don’t, I’m not against the feminist movement, but I’m not, I’m also, I don’t. equality and sameness isn’t the same. Just the basic gender differences between whatever genders. There’s, they’re not the equal.

[00:11:59] They’re, we’re equal on the same level, but they’re not the same. So there’s differences into that reality, but men haven’t. defined who they are outside of the warrior culture, outside of an industrial culture and outside of religion. And that’s like the, I think that’s a major part of our, essentially our existential crisis on the planet right now with climate crises.

[00:12:19] All the wars we’ve got in the world. There’s only three countries in the world currently not at war. Like it’s ridiculous. And so men have to really redefine. Who they are and that, that’s gonna be like a really deep, not necessarily the word spiritual, but that’s a really deep spiritual wake up call.

[00:12:35] And like men have to really show up if we’re gonna change the world around. Cuz we’re heading for a brick wall. If you consider all the like, . There’s only three countries not at war right now. That’s ridiculous. Yeah, no, thanks for sharing. And definitely the war against, the human species with masculinity and femininity and even testosterone levels drop in year on year and the gender behind, combining the two to become one.

[00:12:57] But yeah, circling back to what you said about the. English definition of gentlemen, that is a very confident and masculine quality and energy. And I like how you said about a container. My, my thoughts were, discipline. Controlling emotions, but just being like a lion who’s, possesses those qualities of aggression but doesn’t necessarily act on ’em and just lays around in the forest all day, you could say there, the masculine energy is controlled.

[00:13:24] Yeah. Thanks for sharing. And then the other one I want to switch gears is you talk about taking responsibility and stop shifting the blame. Can you talk about some experiences on clients or some of the work you do with taking responsibility and stop shifting the. So one of the things people like highly seek is freedom.

[00:13:41] They want freedom from negativity. They want freedom from debt. They want freedom from whatever it might be. That’s like the kind of general need that people are seeking is a sense of freedom, whether it’s time, freedom, and the list goes on. There’s a direct relationship between freedom and personal responsibility, and you can, if without taking personal responsibility, you cannot have freedom.

[00:14:05] You just can’t. And so for example just a side note with a teenager who just gets their driver’s license, they’re like, man, I’m free now. I can do whatever I want. The parents are like, the gas, the insurance, are they gonna drag drunk or stoned or are they, like they’re thinking about all the responsibilities.

[00:14:21] The kid’s I’m free, right? And . If they mess up on their responsibilities, that particular kid, then they lose that freedom, right? They might smash the car, they might, whatever, do something weird with it. Or they don’t have the money for the gas or, whatever they, that comes up.

[00:14:34] So when you can find a way to step out of blame or using other people as the excuse. Then you have control of what’s going on for you. And it usually comes back to an emotional nature if you, and you can control your emotions or manage ’em or whatever language you wanna use, but as soon as you give blame or someone else an excuse, you’ve completely given up your space to that person and they still have power over you.

[00:14:57] There’s people that blame. their past relationships from three decades ago, and they haven’t spoken to them in three decades, and they’re still given that power to that person. And that person’s probably long forgotten about it or, whatever. But when you can take the responsibility of I made the choice to be in that relationship or that situation, whether it was conscious decisions or unconscious, just like you happen to be in a situation or an area where something happened.

[00:15:24] you chose to get yourself there even though it may have been like less than ideal situations, but you gotta take responsibility on what’s going on in and around your area because people. That’s just how you get free from all that stuff. Like you can’t get out of a situation unless you take responsibility.

[00:15:41] And that goes for the obvious of like things like debt, which is pretty straightforward. If you don’t take responsibility for your debt you’re stuck worth it, right? You’re gonna blame. The government or society or recession or this and that of why you’re in the situation you’re in. Yeah, definitely.

[00:15:55] And one of the things that I talk about as well is like the three onions of blame. Like you’ve got external circumstances and then you’ve got self. And at the end of the day we put so much energy on others and external out there that we don’t. That we just shifting the blame all the time and passing the buck onto other people, where if we start taking responsibility and stop shifting the blame, then we become conscious and aware of of who we are and what we’re talking about.

[00:16:19] Yeah. So thank you for unpacking that. Also wanna talk about of understanding the impact or of your emotions. Emotions. And it’s, and their simplest, most basic form are forms of communication. That’s really all the. And so the more comfortable you are with emotions, the more comfortable you’re gonna be with communication, whether it’s verbal or internal communication or what have you.

[00:16:39] If you wanna get from point A to point B, like upleveling your life, there’s going to be emotions, and emotions are the lubrication, if you will, to get to point B. So the more comfortable you are with your emotion, The easier it’s going to be to get to point B. If you’re completely resistant to emotions, whether that is sadness, anger, joy, whatever it might be, then you’re gonna have issues to getting to point B.

[00:17:04] And it’s like the lubrication to get to where you want to go. So one of the things about having a body, and from a spiritual perspective, emotions are part of physical reality experience. If. Are denying your emotions. So the, okay, let’s get into denial mechanism or the dichotomy around emotions.

[00:17:20] So you’ve got on one side, you’ve got denial. On the other side, you’ve got becoming, and this is like your standard dichotomy that most of society lives off of in all sorts of ways for like life and emotions and that kind of stuff. Then so denial is like you get all this anger triggered for whatever reason, or you’re really angry about something.

[00:17:40] And you go to denial. Anger’s a bad emotion. It’s bad. Push it down, stuff it down. I’m not supposed to be angry. Everybody’s scared of me when I’m angry whatever your messages are. So you deny it when push it down, and tell something like triggers it or you snap and then you go into becoming it.

[00:17:54] So all that anger comes out all at once. All your child anger comes out of this. Ridiculous off the side comment that meant nothing . And you’re just like, boom. Like road rage for example, could be something like that. And then you become. And then you go into shame or embarrassment or guilt and then you’re like I’m not supposed to be feel like that.

[00:18:12] And then you go back into denial and people just go off of this, they economy back and forth and so to, to. On. The only way I seem to be able to step outta that dichotomy is to really experience yourself as a person, as a spiritual being. Like the, you don’t need that language.

[00:18:25] You wanna just pointing to the, using the language point to stuff, but like where you’re truly connected to your authenticity, your integrity, and you listen to that communication so you’re experiencing the emotions without becoming ’em. So sometimes if you’ve been in denial for a really long time, you need to become the emotions just to get something moving.

[00:18:42] but you ultimately need to step out of becoming it and starting to experience the emotion, almost like an observer. And starting, then you have much more control or you can manage it a whole lot better, but overwhelm things like overwhelm and anxiety and what I’ve seen over the years, it’s usually you’ve got other people’s messages in your space that are interfering, that’s causing the exaggerated overwhelm or the anxiety in your space and.

[00:19:08] Makes it too much. If you have an emotion that you cannot control, that’s running through your. I would say a hundred percent of the time, let’s say 99.9, just to give a room for error. But it’s someone else’s stuff in your space, if you cannot control it, it’s not actually yours. Yeah, makes sense. Yeah, makes sense.

[00:19:23] Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. Let’s switch gears and talk about goals at the moment. So one of the things you talk about is to achieve cheap goals, you must create your life stacks. And then you go through the five phases of achieving your goals, which is the dream thing. Can you expand on.

[00:19:36] About creating life stacks and talk about the dream breakdown you, you get with goals. So a life stack is basically a number of habits that are deconstructed from long-term goals. How I do it in my programs is I ask people what their, big goals are. Maybe it’s five years, two years, whatever it is, and you deconstruct these goals into what it would, what you need to do to make that happen when you’re let’s.

[00:20:00] You want a seven figure business. And so that’s your goal and you want to do that in three years or something like that. Won’t say that’s what it is. So you can deconstruct it into a year. So what would you need to do over this next year to make that happen? To get towards your three year goal of getting seven figures annually or maybe monthly or whatever.

[00:20:20] And then you break that down into 90 days. What in the next 90 days you need to do to get to the year. This is pretty standard goal stuff. And then you bring it down to 30. Then you bring it down to one week and then you bring it down to a day. So when you bring it down, eventually you get into the single day of one thing that you need to do that day that is essentially compounding over the next three years to get to that point.

[00:20:42] So basically comes down to a habit. So there’s some sort of habit you deconstruct it down to, it takes one minute, maybe five minutes that you do day in day. That’s part of your life stack. So you build these habits that coordinate to five, six goals that are like three years down the road or five years.

[00:20:59] And so you have a stack of habits that you do every day. So one of my examples, for example, for towards one of my big goals is I do one minute of being unstoppable. So I do, it might have something to do specifically targeted to my goal. It might have absolutely nothing to do, but I do one minute of being unstoppable every day.

[00:21:18] That’s one of my habits that I. And from that one minute I, I’ve generated some of the most amazing opportunities I’ve ever thought. Just I’m gonna do this crazy thing right now. I’m just gonna do it. And so that ties into the habit of that type of person that’s gonna create that particular goal down the road.

[00:21:33] And then the side note, as part of generating that habit, is the goal or the outcome almost doesn’t matter anymore because who you’re developing. So it’s not so much about. achieving that particular goal. It’s about who you become along the way. That’s really what’s most important about achieving goals.

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[00:21:49] And then you let go of the attachment to the goal. You’re going towards it, but you’re letting go of the attachment to the goal. And then because you’re becoming that person, that goal will naturally show up or something. Even really much more cooler will show up by the time you get. Does that make sense?

[00:22:07] Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I think you’ve gone through a couple discovery redesign, so achieving goals, less about the goal and more about who you become, which is great. Talk a little bit about elevation, authenticity and mastery in the last points. So the discovery is just like the quick aha, epiphany moment of I gotta do something about this or change.

[00:22:23] You don’t create change without that. The redesign, just to simply put, is like, how do I redesign my life to match this? This epiphany, I gotta do something about this. I gotta end this relationship. I gotta find new career and that kind of stuff. So the third phase is where 80% of people fail.

[00:22:38] And this is the elevation phase. And so this is where you get the backlash, the inner critic stuff, your doubts you’re having this ceiling, if you will all come in at this moment and make you go, are you sure? , are you really sure you want to. And the doubts and what have you.

[00:22:54] And so you gotta keep your energy elevated while you’re going through the emotions and whatever you gotta go through to redesign your life, if you will. I’ve done a complete life overhaul, and this is where the, this acronym came in. Like I walked away from two successful companies and a 13 year relationship and so forth.

[00:23:09] And I had 412 bucks in my pocket. And so I redesigned my entire life, successful life from $412 in my. Because of I had an epiphany, had to redesign my life, had to keep myself elevated, but like people around me were ripping my life apart. Like it was insane. Like people that I thought had my back.

[00:23:28] It’s really weird. And, but anyways, that’s sometimes human nature. And so you gotta keep yourself elevated. And then when you move into the authenticity phase, so this is what I call, what’s truer phase. So 80% of people fail at the like redesign elevation. The what’s true or phase is you gotta shift into moving towards pleasure.

[00:23:48] And in psychology there’s this model of 90% of people or decisions are moving away from pain and 10% towards pleasure. So this is, what’s the red’s true or phase. So I have this epiphany, life sucks, this relationship sucks, whatever. I gotta do something about this. And you’re moving away from something.

[00:24:04] At some point you need to redirect that moving away and move it towards. It. And so if you’re basically you gotta swing your momentum cuz you’re pushing off the concrete wall in the pool to get away from a problem. But your momentum’s going that way and you gotta change your momentum in the water, so to speak, which can be really hard.

[00:24:22] And so you gotta find the what’s chores. So let’s say I need to find a new job or something that’s I hate this job, I need to find a new career or something like that. And so they’re like, okay, gotta be done. But what’s actually true, I want to find something that’s meaningful. I want to find something that adds value to the world.

[00:24:38] Whatever is more true, right? Rather than moving away from this problem. So that moves you towards a pleasure kind of direction, and so you figure out what’s truer for you, that authenticity phase. and then you move into the mastery phase where you start to like really anchor in the four previous phases of got the inner critic stuff, other people’s backlash, whatever.

[00:24:56] You learn how to, like water on a duck’s back, it brushes off of you. You learn how to have these new epiphanies discoveries, like personal developments always about, new ideas, being flexible in your thinking, not getting rigid on stuff and being able to roll with it, right? And that kind of stuff.

[00:25:10] And then you gotta redesign your life around that. And then you master. And so most people try to go from D to M right away cuz they don’t want to deal with the emotions, but they end up being back in the D after some subconscious, some heaviness issues, whatever. That’s nope, you’re not done.

[00:25:26] You’re back here . You know that kind of stuff. And so you gotta learn how to find mastery with all the previous phases into learn how you manage that. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you for sharing. And then when you master it, you’ll always. Back like a circle. So you’ve got, you go back to discovering cuz it’s new discoveries after you’ve mastered something.

[00:25:43] And then redesign, elevation, authenticity and back to mastery. So yeah. Thank you for sharing with that. And then just to finish off that, you talk about discovering the four shifts which are key to making highly successful conscious entrepreneur. Can you touch on that a little bit? You talk about intention plus energy, plus emotion.

[00:25:59] Equals action and outcome. So can you talk about that? Yeah. So basically whatever you outcome you’ve got in your life right now, for better or for worse. So let’s say you got a life you love, so that’s your outcome. You can deconstructed based on your intention, energy, and emotions and your actions that you’ve taken that have gotten you to this outcome.

[00:26:16] But say you’re an outcome that you don’t like or you have an outcome, like a different type of outcome you want to. so you can almost deduce it or deconstruct it to figure out what you need to do with your intention, emotions, and energies and your actions to get that outcome that you want.

[00:26:30] So let’s say you’ve got your intention, you’ve got like hidden agendas. You’re not really clear about what you want, deal, and your emotions are like, crap or whatever. And then you’ve got your energy’s really unclear. It’s just blah, you’re not really high vibe, you’re just.

[00:26:45] Low vibe, maybe whatever’s going on and your all that kind of added up in times, your actions that you take is gonna create your outcome. That’s what your life is gonna look like, right? Or it is as it is right now. Whereas if your intentions like hyper clear, super clear, this is what’s going on, this is what’s happening, your energy is like boom, like pop, powerful, enthusiastic, all that kinda stuff.

[00:27:07] Your emotions you’re clear, you’re happy, you’re energetic. It almost doesn’t matter what your actions are because you’re going to start to. , you start to become the target instead of the arrow trying to chase things. So you start to become the target. Cause people want to be around you and so you start to get opportunities showing up your way.

[00:27:22] But when you take the actions, like for example, for me, like the unstoppable minute, that’s one of my actions that gets me the outcomes that I want, that I’m aiming for, right? And so people, so that’s how that kind of, those are the four kind of magic levers. If you will. And yeah. And so that you can get the outcomes, whatever outcomes you wanna focus on.

[00:27:40] Yeah, definitely. Cuz you want to have the right intention, you wanna have the right energy, you wanna have the right emotion. Before going into the action, and that’s gonna dictate the outcome. If you have the wrong intention, wrong energy, wrong emotion, and you take action, what’s gonna leave to bad outcomes?

[00:27:56] Just yeah, if you have a one minute snap can lead to a 30 year jail sentence, go figure. It’s not like you can define it that way. I want to switch gears now and fast forward into the future. What is June, 2026 and why is that so important for you with the world Peace. Can you talk about that for a bit?

[00:28:14] Your world peace. So it was just a random date I picked. It was like, it’s gotta have a time. So it was a time that I picked. So June, 2026 seems like a fair time. I watched COVID, I know everybody watched Covid over the past couple of years. Get into everybody’s heads, if you will. So we watched in.

[00:28:31] Three, four months, everybody, you couldn’t have a conversation with someone without talking about Covid, like on the street, at the pool on the radio, wherever you’re having a conversation about Covid, whether it was lockdowns, pro-vaccine, anti-vaccine government, this, whatever. And that kind of stuff. There was like, everybody was having a conversation about it. So it got into everybody’s consciousness. Now I know there, there’s a pathway to get into everybody’s consciousness in the world, and, It and like the dynamics of that. So it’s possible to get clinical into people’s heads around world peace and make that actually happen.

[00:29:05] Because I’ve seen it with one idea. Sometimes maybe like right now you got the World Cup coming up and all that kind of stuff, and what’s happened with that, that starts to create this consciousness about life. But you, but I know it’s possible on a global governance. people responsibility or against it, whatever, and that kinda stuff that, that it is possible to have that dialogue on a global level.

[00:29:27] So it can happen pretty quick. I was probably three months away from it, 10 years ago, making it like happen. We had the UN and Hollywood and like lots of big kind of players that were on board. It, the movement collapsed because of different egos and identity. That’s part of that intention, energy and emotion aspect.

[00:29:44] We talked about. Wasn’t lined up, but June, 2026 make it happen. So there’s some research that backs meditation some loose research from like the seventies that if you get a group of people together meditating in a certain area, it can decrease aggression, acts of aggression by 65%, which is ridiculous, right?

[00:30:01] Like meditation people not connected to. , the people, the local people there, if you will, can decrease it that much. So I wanted to start to build that out consciously and intentionally. The number of people and the kind of going theory with that is a square root of 1% of a given population. So globally that’s roughly like 8,000.

[00:30:20] So let’s say 10,000 people coming together, meditating regularly to decrease acts of regression, things like that around the world. And then coupled that with the covid dynamic that is possible to. Permeate world consciousness like that. I think. Totally feasible. One thing he said, which was really interesting about how everyone witnessed covid, imagine like in the future, it was the opposite of the daily global spewing of negative information was actually flipped, and it was a daily global spewing of information on positivity, meditation, self-awareness.

[00:30:56] Instead of having news anchors, you. Gurus, meditators, you had personal development people. You had just positive vibes and positive messages and literally like even breath work and like the six o’clock news came on and everyone had to do a five minute breath work and meditation. No, but seriously the global con, the global consciousness would change.

[00:31:15] You would have influencers. TikTok is doing all the positive stuff and it. It, what you said really struck a chord because it did change people’s, consciousness in terms of an understanding, but you could easily flip that and change the whole vibration and frequency of civilization through the power of global communication and media.

[00:31:34] So congratulations on what you’re trying to do. I I think it’s really no born. What do you think about that? I definitely think they shall lose their jobs and we, I think Microm Media is huge anyway, so at the end of the day, look at all the micro media, like best Book beats.

[00:31:49] Look at 10 million YouTube channels. Look at. Billion social media channels as well. Everyone’s got their own incubators. So I think the question is what attention are you giving your energy to and what energy are you absorbing on a micro macro level when you sit there and scroll through your phone as well got it.

[00:32:09] Yeah. Like you’re exposing yourself to what did I read the other day? I think the average person scrolls like 30 feet on social media per. That’s like

[00:32:24] that’s that’s a lot of posts. . I was like actually crazy. And one of the things I like what you said is you talked about here are the pieces for successful world peace movement, so the right tools, people, and culture. Do you want to jam on that really quickly and we’ll, riffing off of Ray Dalio he wrote a book called Principles and it’s a really useful book for business culture and so forth.

[00:32:45] I’ve adapted it from, was at the center circle of two large global movements like hundreds and thousands and millions of people in them. And what actually works, you gotta have the right culture. Absolutely. If not everybody, if everybody’s not on point then you you have these little splinters or whatever.

[00:33:00] That’s how, like you get groups that break off. And for example, not that I was an occupied person, but you got occupied Democrats, you got occupied New Zealand, you got occupied , this and that. And. It just like you get these splinters of like different things. So there’s an aspect of having the right culture, but you need to have common agreements.

[00:33:15] So what I would do is I take some business practices of creating a mission and a vision and a theme about what we’re gonna do in a campaign. So I actually have an organizational model that I built for global peace, that uses grassroots and the impact of either regional or global or it, people can just plug into it.

[00:33:32] I gotta build out the tech. And it looks like a Dow Dows decentralized autonomous organizations via crypto like blockchain and whatever. And that kinda stuff looks like it can finally handle the structure that I built on paper and be secure enough. And but the idea is you can plug in whatever your issue is and it goes through the whole like web of.

[00:33:51] Of or communications. And then so you make a collective decision with other being a leader. And so it goes through this kind of whole kind of modeling. It won’t get into too big, it’s like a big 45 page document on organizational structure. But so I’m getting a bit off topic here, but there’s an aspect of like I could go on for hours like this, but like global peace world.

[00:34:11] For me as bar none, the number one issue that we’re facing in our world. If we had peace amongst people, we wouldn’t a have war. We wouldn’t have a multi-trillion dollar industry based on weapons or weaponization of people. Robotics, ai, it, it would change or a whole component back to component of like consciousness of news outlets producing positive stuff or meditating today or breath work today on the news instead of Russia just bombed Ukraine again, today.

[00:34:38] We’re a threat of the nuclear war, that kind of stuff. And like we had something different PE it would breathe a different life to all that kind of stuff. But part of the right culture is getting everybody’s collective collaboration into something that functionally creates a direction that everybody’s on point with.

[00:34:56] So from what I understand based on research, is that people genuinely just want peace in their lives as like they just wanna , retire, have their home, have, maybe a plot of land or, but the general consensus, people just want peace. And and I would say that’s probably echoed around everyone in the world, except maybe like very few people that are like very conflict driven, if you will.

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[00:35:21] So that’s like kind of the right culture, but you gotta find that theme, the consensus. And then the right people, there’s action takers and people who don’t do anything. , and then just lays around or lays about and don’t do anything. And there’s, and I think that’s a lot to do with all the negativity in the world.

[00:35:35] I think a lot of depression and anxiety issues, or like psychological issues is that the world, like I think a psychologist diagnosed the US as a culture, as narcissistic sociopathic and depressed or something like that a few years ago. And that’s the culture and your. Do we need something different to knock that off?

[00:35:58] And I would say that has a lot to do with the media and the biases of clickbait and all that kind of stuff that goes on. But yeah, no, thanks for sharing. And we’re gonna jump into a rapid fire question round. So I’m gonna just rapid fire some questions out, cheer, when, whatever comes to mind, just say it so we can we can top off as well.

[00:36:14] So what’s something people seem to misunderstand about you? They might mistake my intensity. For aggression. What should I ask you that I didn’t know enough to ask? Maybe my relationships. I don’t know. , the favorite thing about where you live? Favorite thing about where I live is I have a ravine that’s basically a forest on the ba on my backyard.

[00:36:34] And if you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be? Honestly, I wanna sit down at Elon Musk. Cool. And one thing you can’t live without Meditation. My daughter. That’s cool. That’s cool. When I was when you were younger, what did you want? Firefighter. And what are you inspired by? What am I inspired by?

[00:36:49] The collective optimism that’s been building for about a decade. One person who motivates you? You probably said it’s probably your daughter. Yeah, probably my daughter. Yeah. And if you could change anything in the world, what would it be? I would say the chemicals and pollutants in the water. And what was your first job?

[00:37:05] I used to mow lawns in Charlotte driveways. I worked at a box factory. . Wow. And your most favorite escape. My favorite holiday destination at the moment are the Canadian Rockies. Cool. Advice you would give the world to stop doing would be blame. Stop blaming. Yep. Great. And favorite quote, the owner of Roosevelt.

[00:37:25] Something like No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Something to that. Two biggest failure. And what did you learn from that experience? I liked failure. I actually I try to fail. So not that I I try to fail so I can learn. So learning is like my number. I guess learning would be the thing.

[00:37:42] The takeaway from failures, cuz failures are the quickest way to learn something. You can’t get a university degree in business failure, right? , but yeah. No. Cool. Cool. That’s cool. And if you had to eat, if you had to eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be? Smoothie. Smoothie. And what’s your favorite productivity hack?

[00:38:02] My life stacks That I’ve, your life stacks? Yeah. And then a couple more. What is your spirit animal? Lion. Lion. And what is your hidden talent? My hidden talent, clairvoyance great. And then last two, what is next for you? Having an awesome girlfriend in my life. Partner. And then last, where can people find you online?

[00:38:20] https://www.dlrichard.com/. So https://www.dlrichard.com/. Perfect. Leo, thanks for being a guest on the Best Book Bits podcast. And thank you for surviving the rapid fire question round. That was cool. So for all audience out there, yeah, check out Leah’s got some great stuff. If you need some coaching Yeah, checky. Leo does some fantastic stuff and yeah, I appreciate you coming on the show and we shall speak again soon, my friend.

[00:38:43] Thank you, Michael. Thanks for having me on your stage. No worries. Cheers, Leo. Bye. Cheers.

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Viktor Frankl – A Man’s Search for Meaning

Life is not a quest for pleasure, but for meaning.

The 3 possible sources for meaning:

Work, by doing something significant

Love, by caring for another person

Courage during difficult times

You cannot control what happens to you in life, but you can always control what you will feel and do about what happens to you.

When a man finds that it is his destiny to suffer, he will have to accept his suffering as his task. His unique opportunity lies in the way in which he bears his burden.

To find a meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in man. This meaning is unique and specific and can only be fulfilled by him alone.

What matters is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.

It is here that we encounter the central theme of existentialism: to live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.

Don’t aim at success – the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.

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Love goes very far beyond the physical person of the beloved.

The attempt to develop a sense of humour and to see things in humorous light is some kind of a trick learned while mastering the art of living.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how. (Nietzsche)

It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.

Man’s search for meaning is the primary motivation in his life and not a “secondary rationalization” of instinctual drives. This meaning is unique and specific in that it must and can be fulfilled by him alone; only then does it achieve a significance which will satisfy his own will to meaning.

What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.

One should not search for an abstract meaning of life. Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission of life to carry out a concrete assignment which demands fulfilment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.

By declaring that man is responsible and must actualize the potential meaning of his life, I wish to stress that the true meaning of life is to be discovered in the world rather than within man or his own psyche, as though it were a closed system.

The more one forgets himself – by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love – the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself.

Man is not fully conditioned and determined but rather determines himself whether he gives in to conditions or stands up to them.

Man is ultimately self-determining. Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become in the next moment.

A human being is not one things among others; things determine each other, but man is ultimately self-determining. What he becomes – within the limits of endowment and environment – he has made out of himself.

Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality.

In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.

What is to give light must endure burning.

So live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!

For the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth – that Love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire.

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