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50 Words to Your Dreams Chapter 30 Happiness by Michael George Knight

Chapter 30: Happiness

Happiness. A feeling that everyone wants more of but a feeling that most people don’t get to experience often. Why is that? Why does the majority of society walk around with frown instead of a smile? Why are people more negative than positive? Pessimistic instead of optimistic? Look around you and notice people desiring internal happiness by chasing external things, not understanding that true life satisfaction is found within. External things attained will give you a temporary emotion of pleasure but a very short-lived feeling that eventually fades. Where true happiness is more of a lasting feeling of contentment and joy. A subtle emotion of peace that doesn’t disappear after a few days like the addictive temporary pleasure emotion external objects brings, that eventually fade and makes us want more. That feeling of peace of mind and joy that true happiness brings us is the real happiness society is chasing.

 

WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY

When was the last time you asked yourself this question, what brings me joy? Really asking yourself this question forces your mind to think about what really brings me joy and happiness in my life. For most people the answers will be the same such as money, friends, family, food, sleep, travel, sport, my dog or my cat. These are all great reasons and very real things that bring us Joy and Happiness, no doubt. But what is the one or two things in your life that is unique to the standard answers that bring you Joy? Can you identify something unique you do in your life that brings you Joy? Take note what this is and understand this might be your life’s work or the thing you need to start doing more of to bring more joy into your life. Make a list of the things that give you happiness and joy, then put it on your bathroom mirror or somewhere you will see it everyday to remind you to bring more joy into your life.

 

WHAT BRINGS YOU SADNESS

As we all have experienced the highs of happiness, we have and will all experience the lows of sadness, such as grief, sorrow, dullness, boredom and of course unhappiness. Apart from the obvious reasons that bring all of us sadness which of course is loss. What brings you sadness in your life? What is blocking your happiness and joy? Is it your financial situation? Your body and health? Your relationship? Your friendships? Your family? Your job? Your future? Your own thoughts? Your bad habits? Yourself? Write a list of all the things that are holding you back from happiness and giving you the blues. Now you have identified the source of your unhappiness, ask yourself this question. Is it really the thing on the list or the thought of the thing that is creating your sadness? You can either change the circumstances or you can change your thoughts to bring about happiness in your life.

 

Happiness is a mental game you play yourself. An internal mind / brain chemistry / hardwired neurons / dopamine dance going on. You are the either the creator of your own happiness or the victim of sadness that creeps into your life when you are not creating conditions to bring you joy. Identity what brings you happiness and identity what makes you sad and you are halfway to happiness. Understand ultimately it is your attitude and thoughts that make the final decision to your happiness or sadness. As Viktor E. Frankl said, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

 

BEHAVE YOURSELF INTO HAPPINESS

What’s stopping you from happy and experiencing joy in your life right now? Yes right now this very second. What’s stopping you? Your thoughts and your habitual behavior is what is stopping you. As discussed earlier we have the power to create happiness internally by thinking thoughts of happiness. We also have the power to change our behaviors that are causing the unhappiness in our life and choose behaviors that trigger happiness in our life. Look over the life you create earlier on what makes you happy and what makes you sad and start behaving yourself into happiness by doing one thing and not the other. This may seem simplistic and childlike, but don’t discount the simplicity of this exercise for its effectiveness. Behave yourself in happiness and watch all areas of your life brighten.

 

QUOTES OF HAPPINESS

  • A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes. (Hugh Downs)
  • A man who as a physical being always turned toward the outside, thinking that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him. (Soren Kiekegaard)
  • A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. (Phyllis Diller)
  • Act happy, feel happy, and be happy, without a reason in the world. (Dan Millman)
  • As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery. We have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger and attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion, a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness. (Dalai Lama)
  • As long as we structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, then we will experience pain. (Anthony Robbins)
  • Be aware of destination addiction. A preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, and with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are. (Unknown)
  • Be happy in the moment. That’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more. (Mother Teresa)
  • Be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead. (Scottish Proverb)
  • Be happy with what you have while working for what you want. So much has been given to me I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied. (Helen Keller)
  • Bliss is not happiness. Happiness is always for a reason. It’s a positive thought, when I’m happy for no reason what so ever then I’m in bliss and that comes from going beyond the poles of opposites. (Eckhart Tolle)
  • Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you decide to enjoy your life. (Joyce Meyer)
  • Everyone smiles in the same language. (George Carlin)
  • Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be. (Abraham Lincoln)
  • Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls. (Joseph Campbell)
  • For 30 days, smile frequently and watch it transform your life. (Frank Bettger)
  • Happiness depends on conditions being perceived as positive, inner peace does not. (Eckhart Tolle)
  • Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them. (Leo Tolstoy)
  • Happiness doesn’t belong to those who have everything, but to those who can appreciate what they have. (Unknown)
  • Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions; it is governed by mental attitude. (Dale Carnegie)
  • Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you. (Ralph Marston)
  • Happiness is a quality of the soul…not a function of one’s material circumstances. (Aristotle)
  • Happiness is an absence of approval-seeking. (Wayne Dyer)
  • Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life. (Mandy Hale)
  • Happiness is found in doing, not merely possessing. (Napoleon Hill)
  • Happiness is inside you, not with another person. (John Lennon)
  • Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling. (Margaret Runbeck)
  • Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. (Dalai Lama)
  • Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. (Jim Rohn)
  • Happiness is purely internal. It is produced not by objects but ideas, thoughts, and attitudes which can be developed and constructed by the individuals own activities, irrespective of the environment. (Matthew Chappel)
  • Happiness is the ultimate height toward which every human being is striving. (Napoleon Hill)
  • Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. (Franklin D. Roosevelt)
  • Happy are those who take life day by day, complain very little, and are thankful for the little things in life. (Unknown)
  • How little a thing can make us happy when we feel that we have earned it. (Mark Twain)
  • I know that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. (Wayne Dyer)
  • I understand that others can give me pleasure, but genuine happiness comes when I do things for others. (Zig Ziglar)
  • If happiness is determined by our thoughts it is necessary to drive off the thoughts which make for depression and discouragement. (Norman Vincent Peale)
  • If you search for happiness, you will find it elusive. But if you try to bring happiness to someone else, it will return to you many times over. (W. Clement Stone)
  • It is in the compelling zest of high adventure and of victory, and of creative action that man finds his supreme joys. (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
  • It takes only 13 muscles to smile and 112 muscles to frown. (Brian Tracy)
  • It’s not how big the house is, it’s how happy the home is. (Unknown)
  • Man: I want happiness. Buddha: First remove “I”, that’s ego. Then remove “want”, that’s desire. All that remains is happiness. (Buddha)
  • My Philosophy for a happy life. Be okay with what you ultimately can’t do, because there is so much you CAN do. Surround yourself with people you want to be around. Keep moving forward. Never miss a party if you can help it. (Sam Berns)
  • Never put the key to your happiness in somebody else’s pocket. (Unknown)
  • One of the surest ways to find happiness for yourself is to devote your energies toward making someone else happy. (W. Clement Stone)
  • Only if you resist what happens are you at the mercy of what happens, and the world will determine your happiness and unhappiness. (Eckhart Tolle)
  • People whose first instinct is to smile when they make eye contact with you are some of earth’s treasures and need to be protected. (Unknown)
  • Practice of regular smiling creates a feeling of happiness and goodwill. (Frank Bettger)
  • Relationships account for 80% of our happiness in life. (Jim Rohn)
  • Research shows that happy people and unhappy people tend to have very similar experiences in life. The difference is perspective. (Zig Ziglar)
  • Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out. (Thema Davis)
  • Smile is the single most powerful force of influence that people have. (Zig Ziglar)
  • Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go. (Oscar Wilde)
  • Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. (Thich Nhat Hanh)
  • Studies show the key to happiness is spending your money on experiences rather than possessions. (Unknown)
  • Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. (Albert Schweitzer)
  • The best vitamin to be a happy person is B1. (Unknown)
  • The essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things. (Epictetus)
  • The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. (Joseph Addison)
  • The happiness of one’s own heart alone cannot satisfy the soul; one must try to include, as necessary to one’s own happiness, the happiness of others. (Paramahansa Yogananda)
  • The key to happiness is not more. Happiness is an art to be studied and practiced. (Jim Rohn)
  • The only keeper of your happiness is you. Stop giving people power to control your smile, your worth and your attitude. (Mandy Hale)
  • The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it. (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe)
  • The value of a smile. It cost nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits. It creates happiness. Yet it cannot be brought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is no earthly good to anybody till it is given away. (Dale Carnegie)
  • There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond our power or our will. (Epictetus)
  • Those only are happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness: on the happiness of others, on the improvement of mankind, even on some art or pursuit, followed not as a means, but as itself an ideal end. Aiming thus at something else, they find happiness by the way. (John Stuart Mill)
  • Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. (James Barrie)
  • Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. (Buddha)
  • We’re always looking for reasons in our external circumstances to prove why we shouldn’t be happy. (Kyle Cease)
  • What can be added to the happiness of a man who is in health, out of debt, and has a clear conscience. (Adam Smith)
  • What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life. (Leo Buscaglia)
  • When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. (Helen Keller)
  • When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointments. (Unknown)
  • Yesterday’s joy will become today’s sadness, yet today’s sadness will grow into tomorrow’s joy. Inside me is a wheel, constantly turning from sadness to joy, from exultation to depression, from happiness to melancholy. (Og Mandino)
  • You are naturally happy in the absence of the belief that you need something outside of yourself to get happy. (Kyle Cease)

 

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Chapter 30: Happiness

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