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TONY ROBBINS – ULTIMATE EDGE – PERSONAL POWER CLASSIC
Welcome to the Ultimate Edge—your guide to getting the most out of life regardless of the circumstances that confront you and achieving the results you want, be it your finances, relationships, body, emotions, time—everything that matters to you most.
DAY 1—THE KEY TO PERSONAL POWER
HARNESSING THE POWER OF DECISION
Making decisions and using your Personal Power, which is your ability to take consistent action, change your life. This power is already within you and just needs to be awakened by igniting your desire and by showing yourself some simple systematic strategies on how to get greater results on a daily basis.
If you’re dissatisfied with some area of your life right now, instead of getting frustrated, get exited.
Because until you get dissatisfied, you won’t do anything to really take your life to another level.
No matter what’s happened in your past or how many times you’ve tried and failed, none of that matters because each moment is a fresh new opportunity.
THE ULTIMATE SUCCESS FORMULA
If you want to create success in your life, there are four steps:
Know your outcome.
Get yourself to take action by deciding to do so.
Notice what you’re getting from your actions.
If what you’re doing is not working, change your approach.
The biggest trap that keeps people from taking action is fear: fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of pain, fear of the unknown. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. Look it in the eye, and take action in spite of it.
It’s not what we can do in life that makes the difference. It’s what we will do. Often, we don’t follow through because we don’t know what we want, and when we do know, we’re afraid to take action.
How long would you give the average baby to learn how to walk before you didn’t let him try anymore?
Why wouldn’t you apply the same formula to yourself?
THE POWER OF MODELING
Success Leaves Clues
To save time and energy, use role models to accelerate the pace of your success:
Find someone who’s already getting the results you want.
Find out what that person is doing.
Do the same things, and you’ll get the same results.
It’s impossible to fail as long as you learn something from what you do!
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
Never leave the site of setting a goal or making a decision without taking some action toward its attainment. That’s how you create momentum and start to tap into the real driving force within you.
Complete the two steps on the following pages to take action and create momentum now.
TAKING ACTION TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
STEP 1: Make two decisions
What are two decisions you’ve been putting off which, when you make them now, will change your life?
STEP 2: Take immediate action
What are three simple things you can do immediately that will be consistent with your two new decisions? Whom could you call? What could you commit to?
DAY 2—PAIN AND PLEASURE
THE CONTROLLING FORCES THAT DIRECT YOUR LIFE
Ultimately, everything we do in our lives is driven by our fundamental need to avoid pain and our desire to gain pleasure; both are biologically driven and constitute a controlling force in our lives.
We will do far more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. Pain is the greater motivator in the short term.
To get what you want in your life, you have to figure out what stops you. Whenever you procrastinate, it’s because you think that taking action would be more painful than doing nothing or not taking action. Conversely, sometimes if you procrastinate for too long, it reverses on you! For example, if you keep putting something off (like a term paper or your taxes), you may get to a point the night before it’s due where you start to think that not doing it will be more painful than doing it. And then all night long, you experience the pain of getting the job done.
You must learn to control the motivating forces of pain and pleasure.
How can you use this understanding? At any moment in time, you must realize that your reality is based on whatever you focus on. In other words, whatever you focus your attention on is what is most real to you.
Therefore, if you want to change your behavior, you must focus your attention on:
How not changing your behavior will be more painful than changing it.
How changing it will bring you measurable and immediate pleasure.
If you are avoiding anything in your life or if you’re sabotaging your success in any area, it’s because you are experiencing approach/avoidance. You have a mixed set of associations about pain and pleasure. You think that by doing something (e.g. getting into a relationship), you will gain more pleasure, but at the same time, you think it might mean pain (e.g. the relationship might end). So as soon as you start to make progress, you sabotage it.
If you want to change this once and for all, you have to decide right now that you control the focus of your mind. If you’re not following through, all you have to do is focus on “What’s the pain I’m going to have if I don’t do this?” instead of focusing on the pain you might experience from taking the action. You also have to focus on what pleasure you will experience when you do follow through. You must change what you link pain and pleasure to in order to change your behavior.
DAY 2—PAIN AND PLEASURE
UTILIZING PAIN AND PLEASURE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
Use pain and pleasure instead of letting pain and pleasure use you!
To take control of your life, you must take control of the force of decision. The power to change anything in your life is born the moment you make a real decision—which by definition is something that causes you to take immediate action. Take the following steps now.
STEP 1: Four new actions
STEP 2: Pain you’ve associated with following through
What is the pain you’ve associated with these actions in the past?
STEP 3: Pleasure you’ve associated with not following through
What is the pleasure you took from not following through in the past?
STEP 4: Pain if you don’t follow through
What will it cost you if you don’t follow through now?
STEP 5: Pleasure if you do follow through
What are the benefits you’ll gain by taking action in each of these areas now? How will it enhance your life? How will it create greater joy, happiness, success, freedom or pride?
DAY 3—THE POWER OF ASSOCIATIONS
THE KEY TO SHAPING YOUR DESTINY
Specifically, what drives our lives is our neuro-associations—whatever pleasure or pain we associate or “link” to a situation in our nervous system is going to determine our behavior.
If we want to change our lives, we must change our neuro-associations:
The science you’re learning about in this program is Neuro-Associative Conditioning® (NAC). This system will allow you to link massive pleasure to tasks you’ve been putting off but need to take action on today and to link pain to behaviors you’re currently indulging in but need to stop—both of which will help you tap into the natural principles of your nervous system. The use of this program will give you a way to take direct control of all your behaviors and emotions in a way that simply requires the power of reinforcement, not discipline.
In this session, you learned to ask yourself, “What are some of the negative associations I’ve made in the past that have kept me from taking the actions I need to take to achieve my ultimate desires?”
Your neuro-associations control your level of motivation.
Every single action you take has an effect on your destiny. If we study destiny, we find everything in life has four parts:
Everything we think or do is a cause set in motion.
Every one of our thoughts and actions is going to have an effect or result in our lives.
Our results begin to “stack up” to take our lives in a particular direction.
For every direction, there is an ultimate destination or destiny
ACTIONS DESTINY CAUSE EFFECT DIRECTION
EMPOWERING VS. DISEMPOWERING NEURO-ASSOCIATIONS
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
Decide you will change these today. Simple awareness can be curative. It can break the pattern of allowing our unconscious conditioning to control us.
STEP 1: Three empowering neuro-associations from your past
What are three neuro-associations that you’ve made in the past that have positively shaped your destiny?
STEP 2: Three disempowering neuro-associations from your past
What are three neuro-associations that you’ve made in the past that have disempowered you until now?
DAY 4—THE THREE STEPS TO LASTING CHANGE
THE SCIENCE OF NEURO-ASSOCIATIVE CONDITIONING®
To change your life, you must change your neuro-associations. Three things must be in place for you to make these changes and count on them to last. They are the three fundamentals of NAC:
Get leverage on yourself
To do this, three levels of responsibility are necessary—you must decide the following:
Something must change.
I must change it.
I can change it.
Interrupt your current pattern of association
You must scramble the old pattern of thinking and feeling. This is best done by using something unusual, such as making a radical change in what you say or how you move your body.
Condition a new empowering association
Install a new choice, and reinforce it until it is conditioned. Any thought, emotion or behavior that is consistently reinforced will become a habit (a conditioned pattern). Link pleasure to your new choice. Reward yourself emotionally for even small progress, and you will find yourself developing new patterns quickly.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
For each or the four actions you listed yesterday, do the following.
STEP 1: Get leverage
Ten reasons why I must change now, and why I know I can do it:
STEP 2: Interrupt your own pattern
Four of five ways to get myself out of the limiting associations:
STEP 3: Condition yourself by rehearsing your new behavior
Give yourself a sense of accomplishment and exhilaration, pride, or joy each time you do this. Do it consistently and rapidly until each time you think of this new pattern, you feel good automatically.
DAY 5—THE GOAL-SETTING WORKSHOP
HOW TO CREATE A COMPELLING FUTURE
Goals give you the ability to create your future in advance. They can make you grow, expand, develop your success and transform your life. If you already know some of your goals or you’ve done a goal-setting workshop in the past, here is a chance to do it again even more effectively.
Compelling goals contain two key components:
Identify your goals: What do you want?
Something magical happens when you take generalized impulses of desire and start defining them more precisely.
Identify your purpose: Why do you want it? What will it give you?
Reasons come first; answers come second. When you get a big enough reason to accomplish something, you can figure out how to do it.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
As you listen to the real-time goal-setting workshop, follow my instructions and use the following pages to record your goals.
At the end of the session, take these three additional steps:
STEP 1: Keep your top nine goals and the reasons you are committed to achieving them in front of you on a consistent basis. Put them inside the cover of your journal or someplace where you will see them every day.
STEP 2: Never leave the site of setting a goal without taking some action toward its attainment. For each of your top nine goals, write down one action you can take immediately to make initial progress toward achieving it. Take that action today!
STEP 3: Take the rocking chair test: Imagine yourself much older, sitting in your rocking chair and looking back on your life, as if you had not achieved your goal; then imagine that you have achieved it. Experience the pain that would come from not doing it and the pleasure that would come from accomplishing your goal.
HOW TO CREATE A COMPELLING FUTURE
Personal Development Goals
List your personal development goals. Next to each one, write down the time within which you are committed to accomplishing it (e.g., 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years).
Identify your top three personal development goals. For each one, write a paragraph telling why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal now.
Things Goals
List your material goals. Next to each one, write down the time within which you are committed to attaining it (e.g., 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years).
Identify your top three material goals. For each one, write a paragraph telling why you are absolutely committed to attaining this goal now.
Economic or Financial Goals
List your economic or financial goals. Next to each one, write down the time within which you are committed to accomplishing it (e.g., 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years).
Identify your top three economic or financial goals. For each one, write a paragraph telling why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal now.
DAY 6—THE DRIVING FORCE
UNLEASHING THE POWER OF YOUR 6 HUMAN NEEDS
All of us as human beings have different desires, but we are all driven by the same set of needs. Understanding the 6 Human Needs can allow you to turn on your driving force, discover all you’re capable of and become truly fulfilled on a consistent basis.
The Four Classes of Experience
We usually think of a Class 1 experience as a “peak life experience.” A Class 1 experience:
feels good
is good for you
is good for others
serves the greater good
Most people want to avoid Class 2 experiences, but mastering them brings us the most joy, growth and fulfillment. A Class 2 experience:
does not feel good
is good for you
is good for others
Serves the greater good
Nonproductive Class 3 experiences provide immediate pleasure but eventually destroy our quality of life and give us ultimate pain. Drinking or eating to excess could fit into this category. A Class 3 experience:
feels good
is not good for you
is not good for others
does not serve the greater good
People often indulge in Class 4 experiences as a result of peer pressure, conditioning or old belief systems. Smoking cigarettes, for example, usually doesn’t feel good the first time, yet many people continue to do it. A Class 4 experience:
does not feel good
is not good for you
is not good for others
does not serve the greater good
The secret to a happy and fulfilled life is learning to convert Class 2 experiences into Class 1—making the process of doing them feel good as well as be good.
The 6 Human Needs
All of us have the same problems because we all have the same 6 human needs. These needs are paradoxical—they seem to be in conflict with one another. Serious problems can arise when we choose destructive tools or vehicles to try to satisfy these needs. Instead, we can choose to establish new patterns of fulfilling our needs that will move us rapidly toward life mastery.
TO BE FULFILLED, WE MUST CONSISTENTLY MEET THESE
6 HUMAN NEEDS: 1) Certainty 2) Uncertainty 3) Significance 4) Love and Connection 5) Growth 6) Contribution
All human beings have the need for:
Certainty
For most people, certainty equals survival. As you heard in this session, when I was faced with the news of a pituitary tumor, it had a powerful effect on my level of certainty. We all need a sense of certainty that the roof will hold above our heads, that the floor will hold beneath our feet and that we can avoid pain and gain pleasure.
How do we meet the need for certainty? Some people try to achieve it by reaching for things that make them certain they can be comfortable: food, drugs, alcohol or cigarettes. Others find it by submersing themselves in their work or by trying to control everything around them—their environment or other people. These are usually Class 3 experiences (they may feel good for the moment but are not good for you, are not good for those around you and do not serve the greater good).
On the other hand, using your internal courage or faith to achieve certainty would be a Class 1 experience. When you’re feeling courageous, when you’re using your faith, you tend also to do those things that serve the greater good.
How do you try to get certainty in your life? List some of the ways you try to be certain you can be comfortable, avoid pain and gain pleasure.
Here’s the paradox, though. When you become totally certain, when things are completely predictable, you satiate this need and become b-o-r-e-d. And so while we want certainty, we simultaneously want a certain amount of . . .
- Uncertainty/Variety
Everyone needs variety, a surprise, a challenge to feel fully alive and to experience fulfillment. With too much certainty, we’re bored. Likewise, with too much variety, we become extremely fearful and concerned.
People will violate their values to meet their needs.
Choosing the wrong vehicle only leads to pain
There’s a delicate balance between these two needs that must be struck for us to feel truly fulfilled. We need a degree of certainty in our lives to appreciate the variety. Some people choose negative ways of getting variety, like using drugs or alcohol to change their emotional states or the way they feel. Others choose neutral vehicles, like watching movies. Still others use positive vehicles, like stimulating conversation and opportunities to learn.
How do you try to get variety in your life? List some of the positive ways you try to create surprise, challenges and diversity in your life.
Significance
We all have a need for significance, the sense that we are unique in some way, that our lives have a special purpose or meaning. We can try to meet this need through destructive vehicles—for example, making ourselves unique by manufacturing a belief that we’re better than everyone else or by developing extreme problems that set us apart. Medical science now shows that some people have even developed the subconscious ability to make themselves ill in order to gain the caring attention of others. This would clearly be a Class 4 experience.
Some people develop uniqueness by earning more money, having more “toys,” going to school and achieving more degrees or dressing in a unique way and having a certain sense of style. Some choose to live lives of extraordinary service, a positive Class 1 experience that may feel like Class 2 at times.
How do you try to get significance in your life? List some of the things you do that make you feel unique, needed, fulfilled or significant.
We all need to feel unique. But paradoxically, to feel unique we have to separate ourselves from other people. If we feel totally unique, we feel different and separate, which violates our need for . . .
Love and Connection
All of us as human beings need to feel connected with ourselves as well as others with whom we can share our love.
To meet this need, you can join a group or a club that has a positive purpose. Some people join gangs, which have negative purposes but still provide that sense of connection. Some people feel immediate connection by aligning with their Creator and feeling like they’re being guided. People will steal, take drugs or drink excessive amounts of alcohol to be part of a group and feel a sense of connection. Others will perform at extraordinary levels in order to be accepted, loved or connected to a high-performance team.
As with all 6 Human Needs, if you give consistently that which you wish to receive, you will tend to get it back from others.
How do you try to get love and connection in your life? List some of the ways you try to feel connected to yourself, to others, to your Creator.
These first four needs are the fundamental needs. The next two are the primary needs that must be met for you to feel totally fulfilled as a person.
Growth
Growth equals life. On this planet, everything that is alive is either growing or dying. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how many people acknowledge you or what you have achieved . . . unless you feel like you’re growing, you will be unhappy and unfulfilled. But you must also be able to experience the euphoria of meaningful . . .
Contribution
We all have a deep need to go beyond ourselves and to live a life that serves the greater good. In the moments that we do this, we experience true joy and fulfillment. Contributing not only to others but to ourselves is a meaningful action, for we cannot give to others that which we do not have. A balance of contribution to oneself and to others, especially unselfish contribution, is the ultimate secret to the joy that so many people wish to have in their lives.
How do you try to get growth and contribution in your life? List some of the things you do to obtain the feeling that you are growing and contributing—to yourself, to others, to the world at large.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
If there is anything you love to do (and you could do for hours) that others find difficult, I can promise you it’s because this activity meets all of your needs at a high level. If you find a few vehicles that meet all six of your needs, you’ll find yourself full of drive and you’ll know what to do to achieve your goals. And it all starts with awareness—you must become aware of why you’re doing what you’re doing and find a new pattern for fulfillment!
What’s something you love to do, something you feel compelled to do, something that feels effortless for you?
What’s something you hate to do, or try to avoid doing?
Write down something you don’t like to do but have to do (a Class 2 experience that doesn’t feel good but is good for you, is good for others and serves the greater good):
Turn that activity into a Class 1 experience by finding ways to make sure it meets all six of your needs at a greater level.
Certainty: What could I do or believe to make thinking about this activity feel not only comfortable but also pleasurable?
Uncertainty: How could I bring more variety to this task?
Significance: How can I appreciate how important this is?
Love and Connection: How can I feel more love while I’m doing this?
Growth and Contribution: How can I feel like I’m growing and contributing?
DAY 7—THE RAPID PLANNING METHOD
THE POWER OF A RESULTS-FOCUSED LIFE
We live in a world where there are more demands placed on us now than at any other time in human history. We try to fill so many roles: ultimate father, ultimate mother, great lover, best friend to the world, community activist, spiritual being and total athlete. Some of us manage to cross off everything on our to-do lists—yet still feel unhappy and unfulfilled, as if we have no freedom, we have no life, we have no time. Oh, if only we had more time!
But what is time? Time is nothing but a feeling. If you want more time, you simply need to manage your feelings. Haven’t you had periods in your life when time flew, when you had no stress, when everything seemed to flow effortlessly? And haven’t you also had moments when time stood still, when every second was an eternity? It isn’t time that causes stress; it’s the feelings we generate about the subject of time.
What you focus on determines how you feel, and the questions you ask yourself control your focus. The Rapid Planning Method, or RPM, is a simple system of thinking that creates extraordinary results and an amazing level of personal fulfillment. RPM will help you do two things:
- Decide in advance what you want to focus on.
- Get yourself to focus every single day on what it will take for you to get the results you’re really after.
RPM is a results-focused, purpose-driven, massive action plan that consists of three simple questions.
The Three Questions of RPM
Results: What do I really want? What is my outcome? What is the specific result I’m committed to achieving?
Purpose: Why do I really want it? What is my purpose?
MAP: What specific actions must I take to make this happen? What is my Massive Action Plan (MAP)?
THE POWER OF CHUNKING
The simplest chunking is in groups of three. Most phone numbers are chunked into three parts (area code, prefix, last four digits); so are Social Security numbers. Most people even have three names— first, middle, and last. It’s much easier to remember three chunks than to remember 10 digits or a string of letters.
With the RPM system, you can easily chunk your to-do list from 12 items into three or four results or outcomes and create an RPM block: a result, a purpose and a set of action items.
In this session, you heard about Elvis, who decided to solve his weight problem by adding a 10-mile run to his to-do list. Elvis focused on this action item instead of establishing a clear picture of what he really wanted—to lose 20 pounds. There were many other ways Elvis could have achieved his outcome if he’d known what he really wanted. He needed to create an RPM block using these questions:
- What specific result am I committed to achieving?
- What’s my purpose?
- What actions do I need to take?
CATEGORIES OF IMPROVEMENT
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
What are the six to eight most important areas of your life that you must make progress in every week?
What specific result do you want in each area in the next 90 days? The next 30 days? What do you want to make happen this week so you are making progress toward these results?
For each result, why must you make this happen? (Give yourself enough reasons to overcome the challenges that can show up later.)
SAMPLE AREAS
My body
My family
My business or career
My spirituality, my relationship with my Creator
My friends and relationships
My finances
For each area, write at least the first two steps of your Massive Action Plan, or MAP. What two actions can you take? Whom do you need to call, what do you need to schedule and what can you do right away in each of these areas?
