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Can’t Hurt Me Summary by David Goggins

  • Introduction
  • Do you know who you really are and what you’re capableof? I’m sure you think so, but just because you believe something doesn’t makeit true. Denial is the ultimate comfort zone.
  • The truth is we all make habitual, self-limitedchoices. It’s as natural as a sunset and as fundamental as gravity. It’s howour brains are wired, which is why motivation is crap.
  • Even the best pep talk or self-help hack is nothingbut a temporary fix. It won’t rewire your brain. It won’t amplify your voice oruplift your life. Motivation changes exactly nobody.
  • Seek out pain, fall in love with suffering, andtransform yourself from weak to strong.
  • You’re probably living at about 40 percent of yourtrue capability.
  • We all have the potential to be so much more.
  • There will always be the 1 percent of us who arewilling to put in the work to defy the odds.
  • Anybody can become a totally different person andachieve what so called experts claim is impossible, but it takes a lot ofheart, will, and an armoured mind.
  • Heraclitus, a philosopher born in the Persian Empireback in the 5th century BC, had it right when he wrote about men onthe battlefield. “Out of every one hundred men,” he wrote, “ten shouldn’t evenbe there, eighty are just targets, nine are the real fighters, and we are luckyto have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a warrior…”
  • From the time you take your first breath, you becomeeligible to die. You also become eligible to find your greatness and become theOne Warrior. But it is up to you to equip yourself for the battle ahead. Onlyyou can master your mind, which is what it takes to live a bold life filledwith accomplishments most people consider beyond their capability.
  • It’s time to go to war with yourself.
  • CHAPTERONE: I SHOULD HAVE BEEN A STATISTIC
  • Challenge#1
  • What was your bad hand? What kind of bullshit did youcontend with growing up? Were you beaten? Abused? Bullied? Did you ever feelinsecure? Maybe your limited factor is that you grew up so supported andcomfortable, you never pushed yourself?
  • What are the current factors limiting your growth andsuccess? Is someone standing in your way at work or school? Are youunderappreciated and overlooked for opportunities? What are the long oddsyou’re up against right now? Are you standing in your own way?
  • Break out your journal – if you don’t have one, buyone, or start one on your laptop, tablet, or in the notes app on your smartphone – and write them all out in minute detail. Don’t be bland with thisassignment.
  • Use your story, this list of excuses, these very goodreasons why you shouldn’t amount to a damn thing, to fuel your ultimatesuccess. TAKE INVENTORY.
  • CHAPTERTWO: TRUTH HURTS
  • A new ritual was born. The ritual was simple. I’dshave my face and scalp every night, get loud, and get real. I set goals, wrotethem on Post-It notes, and tagged them to what I now call the AccountabilityMirror, because each day I’d hold myself accountable to the goals I’d set. Atfirst my goals involved shaping up my appearance and accomplishing all mychores without having to be asked.
  • * Make your bed like you’re in the military every day!
  • * Pull up your pants!
  • * Shave your head every morning!
  • * Cut the grass!
  • * Wash all dished!
  • Own it in the raw because the only way we can changeis to be real with ourselves. If you don’t know shit and have never takenschool seriously, then say, “I’m dumb!” Tell yourself that you need to get yourass to work because you’re falling behind in life!
  • If you look in the mirror and you see a fat person,don’t tell yourself that you need to lose a couple of pounds. Tell the truth.You’re fucking fat! It’s okay. Just say you’re fat if you’re fat. The dirtymirror that you see every day is going to tell you the truth every time, so whyare you still lying to yourself? So you can feel better for a few minutes andstay the fucking same? If you’re fat you need to change the fact that you’refat because it’s very fucking unhealthy. I know because I’ve been there.
  • Call yourself out!
  • Nobody likes to hear the hard truth. Individually andas a culture, we avoid what we need to hear most.
  • I brainwashed myself into craving discomfort. If itwas raining, I would go run. Whenever it started snowing, my mind would say, Getyour fucking running shoes on. Sometimes I wussed out and had to deal with itat the Accountability Mirror. But facing that mirror, facing myself, motivatedme to fight through uncomfortable experiences, and, as a result, I becametougher. And being tough and resilient helped me meet my goals.
  • Memorization. I couldn’t learn just by scratching afew notes and memorizing those. I had to read a text book and write each pagedown in my notebook. Then do it again a second and third time. That’s howknowledge stuck to the mirror of my mind. Not through learning, but throughtranscription, memorization, and recall.
  • I developed an obsession for learning.
  • Living with purpose changed everything for me.
  • By the time I graduated, I knew that the confidenceI’d managed to develop didn’t come from a perfect family or God-given talent.It came from personal accountability which brought me self-respect, andself-respect will always light a way forward.
  • Challenge#2
  • It’s time to come eyeball to eyeball with yourself,and get raw and real. This is not a self-love tactic. You can’t fluff it. Don’tmassage your ego. This is about abolishing the ego and taking the first steptoward becoming the real you!
  • I tacked Post-It notes of my Accountability Mirror,and I’ll ask you to do the same. Digital devices won’t work. Write all yourinsecurities, dreams, and goals on Post-Its and tag up your mirror. If you needmore education, remind yourself that you need to start working your ass offbecause you aren’t smart enough! Period, point blank. If you look in the mirrorand see someone who is obviously overweight, that means you’re fucking fat! Ownit! It’s okay to be unkind with yourself in these moments because we needthicker skin to improve in life.
  • You need to be truthful with yourself about where youare and the necessary steps it will take to achieve those goals, day by day.Each step, each necessary point of self-improvement, should be written as itsown note. That means you have to do some research and break it all down. Forexample, if you are trying to lose forty pounds, your first Post-It may be tolose two pounds in the first week. Once that goal is achieved, remove the noteand post the next gaol of two to five pounds until your ultimate goal isrealized.
  • Whatever your gaol, you’ll help to hold yourselfaccountable for the small steps it will take to get there. Self-improvementtakes dedication and self-discipline. The dirty mirror you see every day isgoing to reveal the truth. Stop ignoring it. Use it to your advantage.
  • CHAPTERTHREE: THE IMPOSSIBLE TASK
  • “In society where mediocrity is too often the standardand too often rewarded”, he said, “there is intense fascination with men whodetest mediocrity, who refuse to define themselves in conventional terms, andwho seek to transcend traditionally recognized human capabilities. This isexactly the type of person BUD/S is meant to find. The man who finds a way tocomplete each and every task to the best of his ability. The man who will adaptand overcome any and all obstacles.”
  • Not all physical and mental limitations are real, andthat I had a habit of giving up way too soon.
  • Challenge#3
  • The first step on the journey toward a calloused mindis stepping outside your comfort zone on a regular basis. Dig out your journalagain and write down all the things you don’t like to do or that make you uncomfortable.Especially those things you know are good for you.
  • Now go do one of them, and do it again.
  • Doing things – even small things – that make youuncomfortable will help make you strong. The more often you get uncomfortablethe stronger you’ll become, and sooner you’ll develop a more productive, can-dodialogue with yourself in stressful situations.
  • CHAPTERFOUR – TAKING SOULS
  • Everything in life is a mind game! Whenever we getswept under by life’s dramas, large and small, we are forgetting that no matterhow bad the pain gets, no matter how harrowing the torture, all bad things end.
  • This is a game you are playing within yourself.
  • Never forget that all emotional and physical anguishis finite! It all ends eventually. Smile at pain and watch it fade for at leasta second or two.
  • The ticket to victory often comes down to bringingyour very vest when you feel your worst.
  • I’d come to SEAL training to see if I was hard enoughto belong and found an inner beast within that I never knew existed. A beastthat I would tap into from then on whenever life went wrong. By the time Iemerged from that ocean, I considered myself unbreakable.
  • Sometimes the unexpected descends like chaos, andwithout warning even the bravest among us must be ready to take on risks andtasks that seem beyond our capabilities.
  • For me, in that moment, it came down to how I wantedto be remembered.
  • What saw me through Hell Wee was my mind, and I wasjust starting to tap into its power.
  • Challenge#4
  • Choose any competitive situation that you’re in rightnow. Who is your opponent? Is it your teacher or coach, your boss, an unrulyclient? No matter how they’re treating you there is one way to not only earntheir respect, but turn the tables. Excellence.
  • That may mean acing an exam, or crafting an idealproposal, or smashing a sales goal. Whatever it is, I want you to work harderon that project or in that class than you ever have before. Do everythingexactly as they ask, and whatever standard they set as an ideal outcome, youshould be aiming to surpass that.
  • CHAPTERFIVE: ARMORED MIND
  • My disadvantages had been callousing my mind all alongand had prepared me.
  • Life experience, especially negative experiences, helpcallous the mind. But it’s up to you where that callous lines up.
  • Hell Week is designed to show you that a human iscapable of much more than you know. It opens your mind to the truepossibilities of human potential, and with that comes a change in yourmentality. You no longer fear cold water or doing push-ups all day. You realizethat no matter what they do to you, they will never break you.
  • By dedicating time I was able to callous over fear andhit new levels.
  • I thought about the incredible power of a callousedmind on task.
  • Similar to using an opponent’s energy to gain anadvantage, leaning on your calloused mind in the heat of battle can shift yourthinking as well. Remembering what you’ve been through and how that hasstrengthened your mindset can lift you out of a negative brain loop and helpyou bypass those weak, one-second impulses to give in so you can power throughobstacles. And when you leverage a calloused mind and keep fighting through thepain as a natural process and refuse to give in and give up, you will engagethe sympathetic nervous system which shifts your hormonal flow.
  • The sympathetic nervous system is your fight or flightreflex. It’s bubbling just below the surface, and when you are lost, stressedout, or struggling, that’s the part of your mind that’s driving the bus.
  • We’ve all tasted this feeling before. Those morningswhen going on a run is the last thing you want to do, but then twenty minutesinto it you feel energized, that’s the work of the sympathetic nervous system.What I’ve found is that you can tap into it on-call as long as you know how tomanage your own mind.
  • There is no shame in getting knocked out. The shamecomes when you throw in the towel.
  • Insanity is doing the same thing over and over againand expecting a different result.
  • In a human being your character is your foundation,and when you build a bunch of successes and pile up even more failures on afucked-up foundation, the structure that is the self won’t be sound. To developan armoured mind –  a mindset socalloused and hard that it becomes bulletproof – you need to go to the sourceof all your fears and insecurities.
  • Only when you identify and accept your weaknesses willyou finally stop running from your past.
  • Like the Taoists say, those that know don’t speak, andthose who speak, well, they don’t know jack shit.
  • It was miserable, but I fucking loved it. I thrivedoff of the barbaric beauty of seeing the soul of a man destroyed, only to riseagain and overcome every obstacle in his path.
  • Challenge#5
  • Rather than focusing on bullshit you cannot change,imagine visualizing the things you can. Choose any obstacle your way, or set anew goal, and visualize overcoming or achieving it.
  • Painting a picture of what my success looks and feels like.I’ll think about it every day and that feeling propels me forward when I’mtraining, competing, or taking on any task I choose.
  • You must also visualize the challenges that are likelyto arise and determine how you will attack those problems when they do. Thatway you can be as prepared as possible on the journey.
  • Visualization will never compensate for work undone.You cannot visualize lies.
  • CHAPTERSIX: IT’S NOT ABOUT A TROPHY
  • Humans tend to hatch our most challenging goals anddreams, the ones that demand our greatest effort yet promise absolutelynothing, when we are tucked into our comfort zones.
  • When we’re comfortable we can’t answer those simplequestions that are bound to arise in the heat of battle because we don’t evenrealize they’re coming.
  • The engine in a rocket ship does not fire without asmall spark first. We all need small sparks, small accomplishments in our livesto fuel the big ones. Think of your small accomplishments as kindling. When youwant a bonfire, you don’t start by lighting a big log. You collect some witch’shair – a small pile of hay or some dry, dead grass. You light that, and thenadd small sticks and bigger sticks before you feed your tree stump into theblaze. Because it’s the small sparks, which start small fires, that eventuallybuild enough heat to burn the whole fucking forest down.
  • The human body can withstand and accomplish a hell ofa lot more than most of us think possible, and that it all begins and ends inthe mind.
  • Challenge#6
  • Take inventory of your Cookie Jar. Crack your journalopen again. Write it all out. Remember, this is not some breezy stroll throughyour personal trophy room. Don’t just write down your achievement hit list.Include life obstacles you’ve overcome as well, like quitting smoking orovercoming depression or a stutter. Add in those minor tasks you failed earlierin life, but tried again a second or third time and ultimately succeeded at.Feel what it was like to overcome those struggles, those opponents, and win.Then get to work.
  • Set ambitious goals before each workout and let thosepast victories carry you to new personal bests.
  • CHAPTERSEVEN: THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON
  • What am I capable of?
  • We are all leaving money on the table withoutrealizing it. We habitually settle for less than our best; at work, in school,in our relationships, and on the playing field or race course. We settle asindividuals, and we teach our children to settle for less than their best, andall of that ripples out, merges, and multiplies within our communities andsociety as a whole.
  • I love waking up at 5am and starting work within threehours of cardio already in the bank while most of my teammates hadn’t evenfinished their coffee. It gave me a mental edge, a better sense ofself-awareness, and a ton of self-confidence, which made me a better SEALinstructor. That’s what getting up at the ass crack of dawn and putting outwill do for you. It makes you better in all facets of your life.
  • I’ve learned that it’s only when I push beyond painand suffering, past my perceived limitations, that I’m capable of accomplishingmore, physically and mentally.
  • Sadly, most of us give up when we’ve only given around40 percent of our maximum effort. Even when we feel like we’ve reached ourabsolute limit, we still have 60 percent more to give!
  • It’s simply a matter of stretching your paintolerance, letting go of your identity and all your self-limited stories, soyou can get to 60 percent, then 80 percent and beyond without giving up. I callthis The 40% Rule, and the reason it’s so powerful is that if you follow it,you will unlock your mind to new levels of performance and excellence in sportsand in life, and your rewards will run far deeper than mere material success.
  • The only way to move beyond your 40 percent is tocallous your mind, day after day. Which means you’ll have to chase pain likeit’s your damn job!
  • Fatigue makes cowards of us all.
  • Learn to stay present and open minded enough torecalibrate your goals even at your lowest. Staying in the fight is always thehardest, and most rewarding, first step.
  • In every failure there is something to be gained, evenif it’s only practice for the next test you’ll have to take. Because that nexttest is coming. That’s a guarantee.
  • We don’t all have the same floor or ceiling, but weeach have a lot more in us than we know, and when it comes to endurance sportslike ultra running, everyone can achieve feats they once thought impossible. Inorder to do that we must change our minds, be willing to scrap our identity,and make the extra effort to always find more in order to become more.
  • We must remove our governor.
  • Research is one part of preparation; visualization isanother.
  • Most of us are motivated as hell to do anything topursue our dreams until those around us remind us of the danger, the downside,our own limitations, and all the people before us that didn’t make it.Sometimes the advice comes from a well-intentioned place. They really believethey are doing it for our own good but if you let them, these same people willtalk you out of your dreams, and your governor will help them do it.
  • From this point forward, accept the following asGoggins’ laws of nature.
  • * You will be made fun of.
  • * You will feel insecure
  • * You may not be the best all the time
  • * You may be the only black, white, Asian, Latino,female, male, gay, lesbian or [fill in your identity here] in a givensituation.
  • * There will be times when you feel alone
  • Get over it! Our minds are fucking strong, they areour most powerful weapon, but we have stopped using them. We have access to somany more resources today than ever before and yet we are so much less capablethan those who came before us. If you want to be one of the few to defy thosetrends in our ever-softening society, you will have to be willing to go to warwith yourself and create a whole new identity, which requires an open mind.
  • I never did anything for ten or twenty minutes. Myentre mindset was ultra.
  • The battlefield for me was my own mind.
  • We don’t rise to the level of our expectations, wefall to the level of our training.
  • Challenge#7
  • The main objective here is to slowly start to removethe governor from your brain.
  • There is so much pain and suffering involved inphysical challenges that it’s the best training to take command of your innerdialogue, and the newfound mental strength and confidence you gain bycontinuing to push yourself physically will carry over to other aspects in yourlife.
  • The bottom line is that life is one big mind game. Theonly person you are playing against is yourself.
  • CHAPTEREIGHT: TALENT NOT REQUIRED
  • You never know who you’re affecting.
  • Our culture has become hooked on the quick-fix, thelife hack, efficiency. Everyone is on the hunt for that simple action algorithmthat nets maximum profit with the least amount of effort. There’s no denyingthis attitude may get you some of the trappings of success, if you’re lucky,but it will not lead to a calloused mind or self-mastery. If you want to masterthe mind and remove your governor, you’ll have to become addicted to hard work.Because passion and obsession, even talent, are only useful tools if you havethe work ethic to back them up.
  • My work ethic is the single most important factor inall of my accomplishments. Everything else is secondary, and when it comes tohard work, whether in the gym or on the job, The 40% Rule applies. To me, aforty-hour work week is a 40 percent effort. It may be satisfactory, but that’sanother word for mediocrity. Don’t settle for a forty-hour work week. There are168 hours in a week! That means you have the hours to put in that extra time atwork without skimping on you exercise. It means streamlining your nutrition,spending quality time your wife and kids. It means scheduling your life likeyou’re on a twenty-four hour mission every single day.
  • The number one excuse I hear from people as to whythey don’t work out as much as they want to is that they don’t have time.
  • You must win the morning.
  • Maximize the dark hours before dawn.
  • Evaluate your life in its totality! We all waste somuch time doing meaningless bullshit. We burn hours on social media andwatching television, which by the end of the year would add up to entire daysand weeks if you tabulated time like you do your taxes. You should, because ifyou knew the truth you’d deactivate your Facebook account STAT, and cut yourcable. When you find yourself having frivolous conversations or becomingensnared in activities that don’t better you in any way, move the fuck on!
  • Challenge#8
  • Schedule it in! It’s time to compartmentalize yourday. Too many of us have become multitaskers, and that’s created a nation ofhalf-asses. This will be a three-week challenge. During week one, go about yournormal schedule, but takes notes.
  • Most people waste four to five hours on a given day,and if you can learn to identify and utilize it, you’ll be on your way towardincreased productivity.
  • In week two, build an optimal schedule. Lockeverything into place in fifteen-to-thirty-minute blocks. Some tasks will takemultiple blocks or entire days. Fine. When you work, only work on one thing ata time, think about the task in front of you and pursue it relentlessly. Whenit comes time for the next task on your schedule, place that first one aside,and apply the same focus.
  • Make notes with timestamps in week two. You may stillfind some residual dead space. By week three, you should have a workingschedule that maximizes your effort without sacrificing sleep.
  • CHAPTERNINE: UNCOMMON AMONGST UNCOMMON
  • Turn every negative into a positive, and then whenshit starts flying, being prepared to lead from the front.
  • Be uncommon among uncommon.
  • An opportunity to be uncommon. Not that anybody elsewas watching, but when it comes to mindset, it doesn’t matter where otherpeople’s attention lies. Have your own uncommon standards to live up to.
  • Don’t let your desire for comfort rule you.
  • We were all maggots reborn, with no future and nopast, starting zero.
  • No matter what we’d accomplished in the outside world.We weren’t shit.
  • It’s always and forever true. No matter what you or Iachieve, in sports, business, or life, we can’t be satisfied. Life is toodynamic a game. We’re either getting better or we’re getting worse.
  • We can always become stronger and more agile, mentallyand physically. We can always become more capable and more reliable. Sincethat’s the case we should never feel that our work is done. There is alwaysmore to do.
  • Always be willing to embrace ignorance and become thedumb fuck in the classroom again, because that is the only way to expand yourbody of knowledge and body of work. It’s the only way to expand your mind.
  • Most people in the world, if they ever push themselvesat all, are willing to push themselves only so far. Once they reach a cushy plateau,they chill the fuck out and enjoy their rewards, but there’s another phrase forthat mentality. It’s called getting soft.
  • We were training our minds, not our bodies.
  • I was training us to take torture, so we’d remainrelaxed in extraordinarily uncomfortable environments.
  • We can’t control all the variables in our lives. It’sabout what we do with opportunities revoked or presented to us that determinehow a story ends.
  • Challenge#9
  • A lot of people think that once they reach a certainlevel of status, respect, or success, that they’ve made it in life. I’m here totell you that you always have to find more. Greatness is not something that ifyou meet it once it stays with you forever. That shit evaporates like a flashof oil in a hot pan.
  • If you truly want to become uncommon amongst theuncommon, it will require sustaining greatness for a long period of time. Itrequires staying in constant pursuit and putting out unending effort. This maysound appealing but will require everything you have to give and then some.
  • That’s what it takes to become a true overachiever,and if you are already surrounded by people who are at the top of their game,what are you going to do differently to stand out? It’s easy to stand outamongst everyday people and a big fish in a small pond. It is a much moredifficult task when you a wolf surrounded by wolves.
  • Torch the complacency you feel gathering around you,your co-worker, and teammates in that rare air. Continue to put obstacles infront of yourself, because that’s where you’ll find the friction that will helpyou grow even stronger. Before you know it, you will stand alone.
  • CHAPTERTEN: THE EMPOWERMENT OF FAILURE
  • Failure is just a stepping stone to future success.
  • A lot of us surround ourselves with people who speakto our desire for comfort. Who would rather treat the pain of our wounds andprevent further injury than help us callous over them and try again. We need tosurround ourselves with people who will tell us what we need to hear, not whatwe want to hear, but at the same time not make us feel we’re up against theimpossible.
  • Most wars are won or lost in our own heads, and whenwe’re in a foxhole we usually aren’t alone, and we need to be confident in thequality of the heart, mind, and dialogue of the person hunkered down with us.Because at some point we will need some empowering words to keep us focused anddeadly.
  • In life, there is no gift as overlooked or inevitableas failure.
  • Learn to relish them, because if you do the forensics,you’ll find clues about where to make adjustments and how to eventuallyaccomplish your task.
  • In every failure a lot of good things will havehappened, and we must acknowledge them.
  • Everyone fails sometimes and life isn’t supposed to befair, much less bend to your every whim.
  • Your entitled mind is dead weight. Cut it loose. Don’tfocus on what you think you deserve. Take aim on what you are willing to earn.
  • Most people prefer delusion. They blame others or badluck or chaotic circumstances.
  • Roger Bannister. When Bannister was trying to breakthe four-minute mile in the 1950s, experts told him it couldn’t be done, butthat didn’t stop him. He failed again and again, but he persevered, and when heran his historic mile in 3:59.4 on May 6, 1954, he didn’t just break a record,he broke open the floodgates simply by proving it possible. Six weeks later,his record was eclipsed, and by now over 1,000 runners have done what was oncethought to be beyond human capability.
  • We are all guilty of allowing so-called experts, orjust people who have more experience in a given field than we do, to cap ourpotential.
  • Achieving goals or overcoming obstacles doesn’t haveto be fun.
  • Life is a head game.
  • Life is one long imaginary game that has noscoreboard, no referee, and isn’t over until we’re dead and buried.
  • Challenge#10
  • Think about your most recent and your mostheart-wrenching failures. Break out that journal one last time. Log off thedigital version and write them out long-hand. I want you to feel this processbecause you are about to file your own, belated After Action Reports.
  • First off, write out all the good things, everythingthat went well, from your failures. Be detailed and generous with yourself. Alot of good things will have happened.
  • Now go back through and make a list of things you canfix. This isn’t time to be soft or generous. Be brutally honest, write them allout. Study them. Then look at your calendar and schedule another attempt assoon as possible.
  • Control your mindset. Dominate your thought process.This life is all a fucking game. Realize that. Own it!
  • CHAPTERELEVAN: WHAT IF?
  • Pain unlocks a secret doorway in the mind. One thatleads to both peak performance and beautiful silence.
  • At first, when you push beyond your perceivedcapability your mind won’t shut the fuck up about it. It wants you to stop soit sends you into a spin cycle of panic and doubt, which only amplifies yourself-torture. But when you persist past that to the point that pain fullysaturates the mind, you become single-pointed. The external world zeroes out.Boundaries dissolve and you feel connected to yourself, and to all things, in thedepth of your soul.
  • One of my mottos these days is peaceful but neversatisfied.
  • Before long I was folded into stretches for upwards oftwelve hours a day. I woke up at 6am, stretched until 9am, and then stretchedon and off while at the desk at work, especially when I was on the phone. I’dstretch out during my lunch hour and then after I got home at 5pm, I’d stretchuntil I hit the sack.
  • The Buddha famously said that life is suffering. I’mnot a Buddhist, but I know what he meant and so do you. To exist in this world,we must contend with humiliation, broken dreams, sadness, and loss. That’s justnature. Each specific life comes with its own personalized portion of pain.It’s coming for you. You can’t stop it. And you know it.
  • In response, most of us are programmed to seek comfortas a way to numb it all out and cushion the blows. We carve out safe spaces. Weconsume media that confirms our beliefs, we take up hobbies aligned with ourtalents, we try to spend as little time as possible doing the tasks we fuckingloathe, and that makes us soft. We live a life defined by the limits we imagineand desire for ourselves because it’s comfortable as hell in that box. Not justfor us, but for our closest family and friends. The limits we create and acceptbecome the lenses through which they see us. Through which they love andappreciate us.
  • But for some, those limits start to feel like bondage,and when we least expect it, our imagination jumps those walls and hunts downdreams that in the immediate aftermath feel attainable. Because most dreamsare. We are inspired to make changes little by little, and shit hurts. Breakingthe shackles and stretching beyond our own perceived limits takes hard fuckingwork – oftentimes physical work – and when you put yourself on the line, selfdoubt and pain will greet you with a stinging combination that will buckle yourknees.
  • It’s not the external voice that will break you down.It’s what you tell yourself that matters. The most important conversationsyou’ll ever have are the ones you’ll have with yourself. You wake up with them,you walk around with them, you go to bed with them, and eventually you act onthem. Whether they be good or bad.
  • We are all our own worse haters and doubters becauseself doubt s a natural reaction to any bold attempt to change your life for thebetter. You can’t stop it from blooming in your brain, but you can neutralizeit, and all the other external chatter by asking, What if?
  • What if is an exquisite fuck-you to anyone who hasever doubted your greatness or stood in your way. It silences negativity. It’sa reminder that you don’t really know what you’re capable of until you puteverything you’ve got on the line. It makes the impossible feel at least alittle more possible. What if is the power and permission to face down yourdarkest demons, your very worst memories, and accept them as part of yourhistory. If and when you do that, you will be able to use them as fuel toenvision the most audacious, outrageous achievement and go get it.

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